Complicated divorce/child custody... help!

[itzstr]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma.
I’m going through a divorce and the child involved is not my soon to be ex husbands. He doesn’t want to pay child support and wants to give up his rights and give me full custody of my child. He’s been avoiding signing any papers I sent him (since he now resides in Florida) causing our case to drag along for months now and now he’s planning on challenging the paternity to avoid playing child support. Is there any other way to do this? Or will this even work? He said doing this will take a while and even add some court dates and I just want to get divorced and keep my baby so we can move on with our lives. Thank you in advance for any information/ advise!

 

[Zigner]

You should speak to an attorney for assistance.

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma.
I’m going through a divorce and the child involved is not my soon to be ex husbands. He doesn’t want to pay child support and wants to give up his rights and give me full custody of my child. He’s been avoiding signing any papers I sent him (since he now resides in Florida) causing our case to drag along for months now and now he’s planning on challenging the paternity to avoid playing child support. Is there any other way to do this? Or will this even work? He said doing this will take a while and even add some court dates and I just want to get divorced and keep my baby so we can move on with our lives. Thank you in advance for any information/ advise!

How old is the child? Is the child the result of adultery? Has your husband always known he wasn't the biological father? I assume you had a DNA test done to make sure that STBX isn't the biological father??

 

[AlmostThere]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma.
I’m going through a divorce and the child involved is not my soon to be ex husbands. He doesn’t want to pay child support and wants to give up his rights and give me full custody of my child. He’s been avoiding signing any papers I sent him (since he now resides in Florida) causing our case to drag along for months now and now he’s planning on challenging the paternity to avoid playing child support. Is there any other way to do this? Or will this even work? He said doing this will take a while and even add some court dates and I just want to get divorced and keep my baby so we can move on with our lives. Thank you in advance for any information/ advise!

How old is the child? How long have you been married? Was your child born during your marriage? If not, is your soon to be ex been declared the legal father? Did he sign an AOP?

If he is not the legal parent of the child, he has no obligation to pay any child support for the child.

 

[not2cleverRed]

1) Did your husband adopt the child? Or was this a case of him just signing an AOP (fraudulently)? Step-parent adoptions are legally binding, BTW.
2) Do you know where the biological father is?
3) How old is the child? Disestablishing paternity of a 6 month old is different from disestablishing paternity of a 10 year old.

 

[itzstr]

How old is the child? Is the child the result of adultery? Has your husband always known he wasn't the biological father? I assume you had a DNA test done to make sure that STBX isn't the biological father??

She will be 3 next May. I was pregnant when we got married and yes he knew and yes to the test

 

[itzstr]

How old is the child? How long have you been married? Was your child born during your marriage? If not, is your soon to be ex been declared the legal father? Did he sign an AOP?

If he is not the legal parent of the child, he has no obligation to pay any child support for the child.

she will be 3 next May. 2 years and yes born in the marriage. I’m not asking him to pay child support but he wants to be 110% sure that he’s not going to

 

[itzstr]

1) Did your husband adopt the child? Or was this a case of him just signing an AOP (fraudulently)? Step-parent adoptions are legally binding, BTW.
2) Do you know where the biological father is?
3) How old is the child? Disestablishing paternity of a 6 month old is different from disestablishing paternity of a 10 year old.

1- No she was born in the marriage.
2- no
3- she will be 3 next May

 

[Just Blue]

She will be 3 next May. I was pregnant when we got married and yes he knew and yes to the test

Might be too late. Is the man whom you believe to be the father aware he may have a child? Is he willing to establish paternity?

 

[itzstr]

she will be 3 next May. 2 years and yes born in the marriage. I’m not asking him to pay child support but he wants to be 110% sure that he’s not going to

We married 2 month before she was born*

 

[Just Blue]

1- No she was born in the marriage.
2- no
3- she will be 3 next May

Have you tried to contact the alleged father?

 

[itzstr]

Might be too late. Is the man whom you believe to be the father aware he may have a child? Is he willing to establish paternity?
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He is not involved

Have you tried to contact the alleged father?

No he nor I want him involved

 

[Just Blue]

So...You want to leave your child without a father at all? Does your child call your STBX "Daddy"?

 

[itzstr]

So...You want to leave your child without a father at all? Does your child call your STBX "Daddy"?

No she does not.

 

[Just Blue]

@Ohiogal

I'm tagging a family law attorney/GAL who volunteers here to review your thread. I wasn't able to find a good source for OK on disestablishing paternity ...she will have better resources.

But from what I can tell...it seems like it's too late.

This was a really terrible situation to place your child in.