Again Zig, and you do this often, is that you assume that others will pick up on your zingers. In this instance I understood (even with the quoted context) that you were disagreeing that one spouse couldn't lock the other out. In a way, you were actually disagreeing with that, because both spouses could lock the other out but neither one of them could prevent the other from taking steps to gain re-entry. However, you didn't explain that in that post. You just assumed that everyone should understand that is what you meant.