What is the name of your state? West Virginia
Background: I live in Kanawha County, West Virginia. I am Mom, Dad and I have been separated 3 years, and divorced for almost 2 years. Our son is 4 years old and not in school yet. I have been having trouble with Dad and Stepmom for a while now and I am unsure of what my rights are as a parent. The final order is vague. Dad's lawyer wrote it and my lawyer signed it before I could read it. The order doesn't say much about our son. It says Dad continues to provide health insurance and that Mom and Dad share equally in the payment of any uninsured medical expenses. Dad claims our son on taxes which he gets because I am a full time student. Mom and Dad shall exercise shared decision making and custody. We have 50/50 time with our son. Dad and I submitted our own parenting plans. The parenting plan is not in the final order at all. I don't know why we had to fill out all those details just for only 10% of it to go into the final order. In the parenting plan, it says "the parents will never say anything in the children's presence that would reduce the children's love or affection for either parent, and the parents will never allow any person in the children's presence to speak poorly of an absent parent". Stepmom has used profanity towards me on a couple occasions right in front of our son. My son apologizes to me about Dad and Stepmom's words against me. Dad scheduled his 3 year wellness check and took him on his time without telling me about it. I called the pediatrician to see if there were any appointments and they told me he had already been seen. I took our son to his pediatrician because of large bruises on his bottom and thigh he had after his time with Dad. The pediatrician documented the bruises and informed CPS. However, CPS chose to drop the investigation after interviewing Dad and Stepmom. I requested the report and in it Stepmom admitted to causing the bruises. CPS didn't give a reason for letting it go. Later Dad changed pediatricians without consulting with me. He told me only after he had already transferred his file to the new doctor. Dad made an appointment for me to take our son to his 4 year check up on my time. Dad told me I could take our son since he took him the previous year. However, we hadn't agreed on that kind of arrangement. Dad decided that himself. Then Dad chose a dentist and took our son to his first cleaning without telling me until after, and only because he needs to use a special paste on his teeth. I asked him who the dentist was and, thankfully, he told me. I called and found out he had an appointment for fillings during Dad's time. I went to the appointment today. I was met with profanity from Stepmom in front of my son, her son, and other children who were playing in the waiting room. Stepmom told me I could not go back there with my son. Dad and I were with our son for his fillings. Dad refused to consult with me about some of the procedures they wanted to do. At the billing counter, Dad refused to let me pay for half of the bill like I am supposed to per the final order. I asked if they could refund Dad half so that I could pay my share and they couldn't. When I asked the receptionist about his next cleaning appointment, Dad said he wasn't going there anymore. My assumption is that Dad will change dentists and take our son without telling me. I would have to call every pediatric dentist in the tristate area to see if my son is a patient there. And even then, Dad could take him as a walk in and I would never be able to attend an appointment. I'm worried he will do the same for our son's pediatrician. Does Dad have the right to keep all medical appointments to himself because he pays for the health insurance? Can I go back to court for Dad intentionally preventing me from going to appointments? For the hateful words towards me in front of our son? Can I still use the CPS and pediatrician report in court since Stepmom still caused the bruises? I am sorry if this is too long. I wanted to give detail that I hope helps.
Background: I live in Kanawha County, West Virginia. I am Mom, Dad and I have been separated 3 years, and divorced for almost 2 years. Our son is 4 years old and not in school yet. I have been having trouble with Dad and Stepmom for a while now and I am unsure of what my rights are as a parent. The final order is vague. Dad's lawyer wrote it and my lawyer signed it before I could read it. The order doesn't say much about our son. It says Dad continues to provide health insurance and that Mom and Dad share equally in the payment of any uninsured medical expenses. Dad claims our son on taxes which he gets because I am a full time student. Mom and Dad shall exercise shared decision making and custody. We have 50/50 time with our son. Dad and I submitted our own parenting plans. The parenting plan is not in the final order at all. I don't know why we had to fill out all those details just for only 10% of it to go into the final order. In the parenting plan, it says "the parents will never say anything in the children's presence that would reduce the children's love or affection for either parent, and the parents will never allow any person in the children's presence to speak poorly of an absent parent". Stepmom has used profanity towards me on a couple occasions right in front of our son. My son apologizes to me about Dad and Stepmom's words against me. Dad scheduled his 3 year wellness check and took him on his time without telling me about it. I called the pediatrician to see if there were any appointments and they told me he had already been seen. I took our son to his pediatrician because of large bruises on his bottom and thigh he had after his time with Dad. The pediatrician documented the bruises and informed CPS. However, CPS chose to drop the investigation after interviewing Dad and Stepmom. I requested the report and in it Stepmom admitted to causing the bruises. CPS didn't give a reason for letting it go. Later Dad changed pediatricians without consulting with me. He told me only after he had already transferred his file to the new doctor. Dad made an appointment for me to take our son to his 4 year check up on my time. Dad told me I could take our son since he took him the previous year. However, we hadn't agreed on that kind of arrangement. Dad decided that himself. Then Dad chose a dentist and took our son to his first cleaning without telling me until after, and only because he needs to use a special paste on his teeth. I asked him who the dentist was and, thankfully, he told me. I called and found out he had an appointment for fillings during Dad's time. I went to the appointment today. I was met with profanity from Stepmom in front of my son, her son, and other children who were playing in the waiting room. Stepmom told me I could not go back there with my son. Dad and I were with our son for his fillings. Dad refused to consult with me about some of the procedures they wanted to do. At the billing counter, Dad refused to let me pay for half of the bill like I am supposed to per the final order. I asked if they could refund Dad half so that I could pay my share and they couldn't. When I asked the receptionist about his next cleaning appointment, Dad said he wasn't going there anymore. My assumption is that Dad will change dentists and take our son without telling me. I would have to call every pediatric dentist in the tristate area to see if my son is a patient there. And even then, Dad could take him as a walk in and I would never be able to attend an appointment. I'm worried he will do the same for our son's pediatrician. Does Dad have the right to keep all medical appointments to himself because he pays for the health insurance? Can I go back to court for Dad intentionally preventing me from going to appointments? For the hateful words towards me in front of our son? Can I still use the CPS and pediatrician report in court since Stepmom still caused the bruises? I am sorry if this is too long. I wanted to give detail that I hope helps.
