Stealth you read my mind exactly. I know exactly how things will play out here. Give some space to STBX listen to everything be polite and humble and ask down the road if i can keep them an extra day. if i can establish another day yes one year pass by and then i can make it official.
If only it was that simple. The GAL has increased 10 days for me it was 42% now its 45% i doubt he would do that. I will try nothing to loose
So Technically speaking what you are saying is although i have 165 days i will also have another 5-6 days in holidays?
Not necessarily. Each year some of those holidays will fall on your regular days anyway, as some of them will for your ex as well. Over a two year period it will likely even out, timewise.
In the long run, I think you will find that clause unworkable. Yes, it seems fair in theory, but when you are making long term plans for weekends (family occasions, weddings, vacations etc) I think that you will find that it is better to just let the occasional three weekends in a row happen, rather than muck up the regular schedule.
Plus you can get marked down Christmas candy.
Slow & steady wins the race. Also - become known at the school(s). Teachers LOVE when Dads get involved. Volunteer to help with any/all activities, volunteer to chaperone field trips, offer to help organize field days, etc... Get to know the office staff! Get involved with extracurriculars (and yes, Dads can get involved in girl scouts, too - you may need to become certified as a leader for certain activities). Go to all appointments possible. It all provides the opportunity for extra time but also builds relationships with adults who can/will vouch for you if the ex goes off the rails. Even more importantly, it shows the kids that you are fully invested in them. Hopefully Mom doesn't try to say otherwise, but nothing overrides experience in your children's minds. They will know the truth. And, perhaps most importantly, you are also building towards the relationship you want to have with your kids as adults. When they are grown and can vote with their feet? They will ideally walk between you and their Mom, equally. But if they don't? You want them walking with you.
Because I worked retail, Thanksgiving - New Year was always crazy busy for me. Celebrating on January 7 (Russian Christmas, which we celebrate anyway), made it SO much more relaxing, plus sales! The kids and I would take a day the week after Christmas to do our shopping. They were off school, so they'd do the baking while I worked (with my Mom when they were little, on their own as they got older). Now that they're grown, we celebrate the w/e closest to the 7th.Plus you can get marked-down Christmas candy.
Thanks Stealth these are some great point. I never thought about volunteering in School but sounds like a great idea. I will defi look into it.
Well... That's not a good attitude on her part.
You better get a court order allowing you to sell the marital home and splitting the profits. If not, there can be issues.
You did not inherit that property if your mom is still living. It was simply a gift. However, in this instance a gift and an inheritance are handled the same way so it doesn't matter.
Actually it can be relevant when it comes to alimony. Especially if OP wants to receive alimony. That property counts towards assets that OP has to live on.