Roommate died and her parents think I stole her stuff?

[Accusedofstealing]

What is the name of your state? Washington

I dont really have a specific question. Id just like some input about this situation.

My roommate died and her parents came to get clothes for her. Her mom said that stuff was missing and basically accused me of stealing. Her dad was like “if it doesn’t all show up by tomorrow I’m going to have to call the police”.

So now I’m a little stressed about the situation. First off I can’t even be home tomorrow to deal with it. I’m afraid they’re going to rifle through my things. Secondly since it’s a loft apartment there’s no way to lock my stuff up while I’m out. I don’t even know what would happen if they let the police in while I’m not there.

I really don’t want anyone going through my stuff. So I almost want to take all my stuff aside from furniture over to my boyfriend’s place. I’m afraid that will look suspicious or something though and I’d somehow get in trouble.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Washington

I dont really have a specific question. Id just like some input about this situation.

My roommate died and her parents came to get clothes for her. Her mom said that stuff was missing and basically accused me of stealing. Her dad was like “if it doesn’t all show up by tomorrow I’m going to have to call the police”.

So now I’m a little stressed about the situation. First off I can’t even be home tomorrow to deal with it. I’m afraid they’re going to rifle through my things. Secondly since it’s a loft apartment there’s no way to lock my stuff up while I’m out. I don’t even know what would happen if they let the police in while I’m not there.

I really don’t want anyone going through my stuff. So I almost want to take all my stuff aside from furniture over to my boyfriend’s place. I’m afraid that will look suspicious or something though and I’d somehow get in trouble.

What kind of stuff are they saying is missing? Is it stuff that is reasonable that she would have had it there? If you truly didn't take anything of hers then by all means protect anything that is important to you by removing it from the premises. You cannot get in trouble for that. I am also not sure that you are required to allow her family unfettered access to your home, even if she was your roommate. However, you don't have time to verify that with a local attorney before tomorrow.

 

[Foamback]

Go to homedepot and change the locks right now

 

[Just Blue]

Go to homedepot and change the locks right now

I was thinking the same thing.

 

[Accusedofstealing]

I was thinking the same thing.

I didn’t think I was allowed to do that since my roommate’s on the lease. I assume everything goes to her parents now.

 

[quincy]

What is the name of your state? Washington

I dont really have a specific question. Id just like some input about this situation.

My roommate died and her parents came to get clothes for her. Her mom said that stuff was missing and basically accused me of stealing. Her dad was like “if it doesn’t all show up by tomorrow I’m going to have to call the police”.

So now I’m a little stressed about the situation. First off I can’t even be home tomorrow to deal with it. I’m afraid they’re going to rifle through my things. Secondly since it’s a loft apartment there’s no way to lock my stuff up while I’m out. I don’t even know what would happen if they let the police in while I’m not there.

I really don’t want anyone going through my stuff. So I almost want to take all my stuff aside from furniture over to my boyfriend’s place. I’m afraid that will look suspicious or something though and I’d somehow get in trouble.

I am sorry about your roommate.

What sort of “stuff” did the parents claim is missing? Clothing items, jewelry, laptop?

Do you have a family member who can monitor your apartment while you are away? Or your boyfriend?

You should not change the lock without the landlord’s permission.

 

[Accusedofstealing]

What kind of stuff are they saying is missing? Is it stuff that is reasonable that she would have had it there? If you truly didn't take anything of hers then by all means protect anything that is important to you by removing it from the premises. You cannot get in trouble for that. I am also not sure that you are required to allow her family unfettered access to your home, even if she was your roommate. However, you don't have time to verify that with a local attorney before tomorrow.

Some things mentioned were jewelry and expensive clothing items. I guess it’s reasonable. She was a fashionable person.

 

[quincy]

Some things mentioned were jewelry and expensive clothing items. I guess it’s reasonable. She was a fashionable person.

Do you know of anything missing or where your roommate might have stowed stuff?

 

[Accusedofstealing]

I am sorry about your roommate.

What sort of “stuff” did the parents claim is missing? Clothing items, jewelry, laptop?

Do you have a family member who can monitor your apartment while you are away?

You should not change the lock without the landlord’s permission.

They mentioned jewelry and expensive clothing items/shoes.

No, I don’t have anyone that’s available to do that.

 

[quincy]

They mentioned jewelry and expensive clothing items/shoes.

No, I don’t have anyone that’s available to do that.

Were you and your roommate the same size?

 

[Accusedofstealing]

Do you know of anything missing or where your roommate might have stowed stuff?

No, I don’t keep track of those kind of things. Just in her area of the apartment. There isn’t any other hiding places here.

 

[Accusedofstealing]

Were you and your roommate the same size?

She did have a similar body size to me, but I don’t know for sure.

 

[quincy]

No, I don’t keep track of those kind of things. Just in her area of the apartment. There isn’t any other hiding places here.

Do you really think the parents will take any of your personal items? If so, you could make a list of what you own, make two copies - keep one with you and leave the other for the parents.

 

[Accusedofstealing]

Do you really think the parents will take any of your personal items? If so, you could make a list of what you own, make two copies - keep one with you and leave the other for the parents.

I don’t really know them, so I don’t know if they would steal anything, but the idea of them going through my stuff makes me very uncomfortable.

 

[Just Blue]

I am sorry about your roommate.

What sort of “stuff” did the parents claim is missing? Clothing items, jewelry, laptop?

Do you have a family member who can monitor your apartment while you are away? Or your boyfriend?

You should not change the lock without the landlord’s permission.

OP could have a lock smith just change the tumblers and then change them back after the parents clear out their daughters belongings.