15yo, soon to be 16yo brother from KY wants to live with us in CT.

[Zigner]

You have not shown any reason why you should be granted guardianship over the child. If you are truly concerned, contact the local (to the child/mother) authorities and make a report.

 

[dgasp]

I don't know why you're so freaked out, nor calling the nice volunteer advisors "judgemental."

You've been told: it's a KY case. See here: http://www.kyjustice.org/node/1235

If you were a judge, do you think you would give custody to a person via mail?

Can you honestly say that some of the replies were not a little judgmental?

And no, I don't think that a judge should give me custody by mail. But I have NO legal experience. Can I file this paperwork...and again...I don't even know what paperwork, by mail? I understand that if it came to a hearing, I would have to show up. Can I do this without a lawyer? Is this at all possible?

 

[Silverplum]

I didn't go in. She and I do not get along. We don't speak, and what communication we do have is by text only. We literally drove 12 hours, picked him up, and turned right back around to CT.

Then you don't know anything other than what a 15 y.o. told you.

I do know that we had to treat our cat, because he suddenly did have fleas, and I believe it came from my brothers bag, (although I wont tell him that, since I do not want to make him feel badly.) And I did see their dog. It can barely walk and parts of his ears are missing and raw.

That's sad.
That you left the dog behind.

 

[Silverplum]

Can you honestly say that some of the replies were not a little judgmental?

It's an internet message board. Free legal help. Move. On.

And no, I don't think that a judge should give me custody by mail. But I have NO legal experience. Can I file this paperwork...and again...I don't even know what paperwork, by mail? I understand that if it came to a hearing, I would have to show up. Can I do this without a lawyer? Is this at all possible?

Quite frankly, it depends upon your ability to read, learn, do research, etc.

Try the link I posted.

 

[Just Blue]

I am trying here. I become very defensive, because he is my little brother, and I want him to have better than I had. She left CT, and ran to KY because she was having too many problems with DCF. I do not have the means to travel to KY to see him, as much as that pains me. His father is an over the road truck driver, and has very little to do with him. She has made it very difficult for him to see my brother, and does her best to turn my brother against him, and he hasn't fought that hard to correct it, either. He does pay child support, which is her only income, so I believe that is why she is trying to hold on to him. I still have contact with him, even though he isn't my biological father, and he doesn't have the means to take care of a child, and openly admits that. He has said that he wants me to take him, many times, because of the way that she is. I always assumed that he was just trying to be a vindictive ex-husband. I now see that maybe he was right.

Look, I have heard the advice of those that offered true advice. I am going to return him, and try to go through the proper channels.

If we try to file for guardianship, being that he is 15, will the courts take what he wants into consideration? Do I have to file for this is KY, or CT? I cannot afford a lawyer, can I do this myself by mail, or do I have to do this all in person, in KY? I need real help. I don't want to keep arguing with this forum, but I need actual, non-judgmental, real help.

Oh Brother.

 

[dgasp]

Then you don't know anything other than what a 15 y.o. told you.


That's sad.
That you left the dog behind.

It's true. I don't know anything more that what he is telling me. And my own personal experiences with my mother from years ago. They are very similar.

In hindsight, I felt badly leaving the dog behind. But at the time, I didn't really realize what was going on. I just thought they had a sick dog.

 

[dgasp]

It's an internet message board. Free legal help. Move. On.


Quite frankly, it depends upon your ability to read, learn, do research, etc.

Try the link I posted.

OK...I'm probably going to get it for this again...but here goes.

Thank you for the link, it was helpful in leading me to where I need to go. However, I am filling out legal form 853, and it asks the following:

Applicant [ ] waives [ ] does not waive notice of appointment hearing. If waived, applicant has
completed waiver at the bottom of form.

What would be the advantages or disadvantages to waving the notice? I would assume that I should waive notice, but will that hold it up longer?

 

[Zigner]

< shaking my head >

 

[TheGeekess]

OK...I'm probably going to get it for this again...but here goes.

Thank you for the link, it was helpful in leading me to where I need to go. However, I am filling out legal form 853, and it asks the following:

Applicant [ ] waives [ ] does not waive notice of appointment hearing. If waived, applicant has
completed waiver at the bottom of form.

What would be the advantages or disadvantages to waving the notice? I would assume that I should waive notice, but will that hold it up longer?

I thought you had a 12 hour journey to return Brother?

A bag of Sevin dust will take care of the fleas on the dog/in the house. A good parting gift for Brother.

 

[Silverplum]

OK...I'm probably going to get it for this again...but here goes.

Thank you for the link, it was helpful in leading me to where I need to go. However, I am filling out legal form 853, and it asks the following:

Applicant [ ] waives [ ] does not waive notice of appointment hearing. If waived, applicant has
completed waiver at the bottom of form.

What would be the advantages or disadvantages to waving the notice? I would assume that I should waive notice, but will that hold it up longer?

That's where you start needing an attorney, dgasp. We can't tell you how to fill out your forms.

 

[Ohiogal]

You don't understand anything. Including what guardianship is. I have told you that you have to prove your mother and the child's father LEGALLY unfit in a court in KY. That is before you even get to best interests. You have to return the child TODAY to KY and you have not left yet? I see law enforcement throwing you and your wife in jail. If you have children, you better make plans for where they will be unless you want that to be foster care. If you can't comprehend what I -- and others -- have told you, you don't stand a chance. Guardianship will do you NO GOOD.
http://www.louisvilleky.gov/CountyAttorney/IWantTo/fileforguardianship.htm
NONE whatsoever. You need to file for custody -- expect that to be a long drawn out battle which will cost you several thousands of dollars.

 

[aardvarc]

Tomorrow's newspaper:

Horse Found Dead

A horse was dragged to water today. Despite the efforts of numerous persons, from different parts of the country, with different backgrounds, all begging the horse to drink for his own good, the horse flatly refused, stating "but I don't want water, I want something else". In a last ditch effort, volunteers tried to administer water with a syringe. The horse spit it out, repeating "I don't want water, I want something else". Eventually a judge poured water into the horse's mouth and nostrils until the bubbles stopped.

In a related story, the new town glue factory announced record profits and declared a quarterly dividend. See story page A-6.