16 yo in college wants to date 20 yo classmate

[eerelations]

We're here to address legal issues. Going out on a date is not a legal issue.
Sexual conduct between different age groups is a legal issue...

It sure is, but again, that's not what the OP asked. And in this case, going out on a date is a legal issue - because the OP was asking if it was! (And that's the question cbg and I have tried to answer, though our responses have been buried in all the "let's dump on this deviant criminal pervert OP!" rants.)

 

[TigerD]

It sure is, but again, that's not what the OP asked. And in this case, going out on a date is a legal issue - because the OP was asking if it was! (And that's the question cbg and I have tried to answer, though our responses have been buried in all the "let's dump on this deviant criminal pervert OP!" rants.)

My response was not a "'dump on this deviant criminal pervert OP!' rant."

I think most of the posters pointed out or tried to point out that even if it was illegal for her to have sex with him, it is not illegal for him to have sex with her. That is to say she may face sanctions, but he won't.

There is nothing abnormal about a 16-year-old boy wanting to dip his wick. It's quite normal and probably heightened by the fact of his being on a college campus.

DC

 

[Bcrary3]

I don't understand all this jumping all over OP like he's some kind of junior perv. All he's ever asked is if it's legal for him and a 20-year-old girl to go out on a date. And while you are all assuming that what he means by "date" is sex, I beg to differ, he may not mean that at all, as evidenced by his response to the question (paraphrased here) "why don't you go out with girls your own age?" - that he can't talk to girls his age, he's a bit intellectually ahead of them. (As evidenced by his being already in college at the age of 16.)

(On a side note you guys must have some hot sexy dating experience, to assume all dates automatically = sex. I for one have had plenty of fun, interesting dates with no sex whatsoever! Maybe some of you should try this sometime!)

All the evidence here points to OP's wanting to go out on some kind of talking date with the 20-year-old, and I for one think that's OK as long as:

1. his parents are OK with it; and
2, there's no sex (to paraphrase cbg).

I hate to beat on a dead horse, but I have been in a similar situation myself, the problem isn't necessarily weather or not you are actually having sex with the adult in question, because lets face it, how many of us are going to believe that that isn't the case? A court would likely see it as there being a sexual relationship, weather or not it actually exists. Now, technically speaking that if the two parties in question are not engaging in sexual relations (for the state of Wisconsin, sexual relations could mean so much as kissing) there really would be no way to prove weather or not you are actually having sex. For the sake of the court we have to assume that they are, and look no further. It's honestly a shi**y situation for the OP (well, actually for the girl in question) but unfortunately the law is what it is, and it is there for a reason. If the OP believes it should be modified, it would be my suggestion that he attempt to do that. But until the time that said law is changed, unfortunately OP, you will have to stick with girls your age (and it is very condescending to say that anyone in public education or in high school isn't on your level, as that is just an ignorant statement as I am sure you have not met everyone.) or wait until you are of legal consenting age.

Why not give other girls a chance?
(I am sorry if this has already been stated. Also, my apologies for posting on a necrothread)

 

[Just Blue]

Don't you understand humor when you see it?

You'd have to have quite a sense of humor to be walking in my shoes.

I don't see how my comment could have betrayed me as
having the judgement of a child.

That said, based on my capabilities, just what do I need protection from?

That you don't/won't see you comment as childish is why the members see you as a child. Intellectually you are smart enough for College, but emotionally you are still 16 year old boy.

And what you need protection from? 20 year old ADULTS that would "date" 16 year old children.

I know there are VERY SMART 16 year old girls. Find one.

 

[Just Blue]

I don't understand all this jumping all over OP like he's some kind of junior perv. All he's ever asked is if it's legal for him and a 20-year-old girl to go out on a date. And while you are all assuming that what he means by "date" is sex, I beg to differ, he may not mean that at all, as evidenced by his response to the question (paraphrased here) "why don't you go out with girls your own age?" - that he can't talk to girls his age, he's a bit intellectually ahead of them. (As evidenced by his being already in college at the age of 16.)

(On a side note you guys must have some hot sexy dating experience, to assume all dates automatically = sex. I for one have had plenty of fun, interesting dates with no sex whatsoever! Maybe some of you should try this sometime!)

All the evidence here points to OP's wanting to go out on some kind of talking date with the 20-year-old, and I for one think that's OK as long as:

1. his parents are OK with it; and
2, there's no sex (to paraphrase cbg).

I don't disagree with you. OP is very smart. My eldest is also very smart...She could have forgone her Jr and Sr. years in highschool in order to go to University. She, per her thoughts, wanted to "have a normal life with kids her own age". Most smart, my Daughter is.

 

[Just Blue]

I hate to beat on a dead horse, but I have been in a similar situation myself, the problem isn't necessarily weather or not you are actually having sex with the adult in question, because lets face it, how many of us are going to believe that that isn't the case? A court would likely see it as there being a sexual relationship, weather or not it actually exists. Now, technically speaking that if the two parties in question are not engaging in sexual relations (for the state of Wisconsin, sexual relations could mean so much as kissing) there really would be no way to prove weather or not you are actually having sex. For the sake of the court we have to assume that they are, and look no further. It's honestly a shi**y situation for the OP (well, actually for the girl in question) but unfortunately the law is what it is, and it is there for a reason. If the OP believes it should be modified, it would be my suggestion that he attempt to do that. But until the time that said law is changed, unfortunately OP, you will have to stick with girls your age (and it is very condescending to say that anyone in public education or in high school isn't on your level, as that is just an ignorant statement as I am sure you have not met everyone.) or wait until you are of legal consenting age.

Why not give other girls a chance?
(I am sorry if this has already been stated. Also, my apologies for posting on a necrothread)

Cute. Please don't post on dead threads. You might cause me to do so as well. I HATE that!!