It IS out of the question. Sure, there's about a 0.01% chance that it would be granted, but federal law precludes it.
Please show me where Federal Law prohibits changing jurisdiction according to the UCCJEA (
http://www.lrcvaw.org/laws/uccjea.pdf)
And the fact that you're even considering it, apparently as a method to get out of your court ordered transportation expenses, says a great deal about your desire to foster Dad's relationship with the child.
Where did I ever say this was the reason for my curiosity?
Nowhere. It was a question. As simple as that. I guess in my twisted logic of "we will be in OK for the rest of our lives (or until I win the lottery and am able to move my daughter back to CA without a care in the world), so why not have the case moved so that I won't have to worry about hiring an attorney in CA if I needed to?"
BS. You had a $50 K job and refused it. At the time, you were unmarried and Dad had apparently not filed for custody of any type (based on the fact that you admit there were no court orders covering support). As an unmarried Dad, he had no right to determine what's right for the child without a court order for joint custody.
And even if he DID have custody, he had no right to tell you to pass up a $50 K job.
neither of us had filed for custody because that wasn't an issue in the foreseeable future. We were in a committed relationship and I was trying to make things work, there was no need to do so. Hindsight is 20/20. At the time, whatever input he gave about our child, I put thought into. Simply for the fact that there was any input there at all.
I call BS.
First, there are state aid programs to help with CS. Second, it's interesting that you can get a $50 K job in CA when it's convenient, but when you're looking for an excuse to leave the state, there's nothing there but working at McDonald's. And you are apparently qualified enough to get a state job in OK without even showing up. OK is having major budget problem and has cut an enormous number of state jobs in the past year.
With reasonable effort, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to get a job in CA.
I am done arguing with you. I've tried looking for work, the work I've found is not feasible with the cost of child care (I've been on the waiting list for assistance for over a year now). I'm a fantastic mother, I've done the best I can to provide for my daughter even with a father who couldn't care less. If he had actually changed he wouldn't have only showed up for the first week of visitation. He would have shown up at the ER when I called to tell him I had to take our daughter in. There are so many things a father should do and he is just a shell of a man, as I suspect you are.
If moving my daughter away, in order to give her a life that does not involve sleeping on the streets, eating other people's handouts, and resenting her father for me deciding to stay just so she can see him when it's convenient for him is selfish- then I'm guilty.
I wish you all a good day and good luck in whatever life brings your way. Consider yourself lucky that you are so fortunate to be able to sit back and judge others based on what your "superior" thought process is.
"Judgments, value judgments concerning life, for or against, can in the last resort never be true: they possess value only as symptoms, they come into consideration only as symptoms - in themselves such judgments are stupidities"-Friedrich Nietzsche
