Ack!

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? MO

I emailed the GAL today before I left my office since I hadn't been able to contact her by phone this week. I just let her know that the BF wasn't going to be here and actually wasn't going to be moving back in... that I was keeping the house, so relocation isn't an issue until we outgrow this place sometime next year.

I got a phone call from her assistant a couple of hours later, informing me that due to a family emergency (her first grandson was born a few months ago and has heart problems), the visit would have to be rescheduled but she couldn't give me a date til sometime next week.

Trial is a week from Monday.

How long does the GAL need to come up with a recommendation?

How do y'all deal with constant rescheduling and continuances? This has been going on almost a year!

 

[Rushia]

How do y'all deal with constant rescheduling and continuances? This has been going on almost a year!

Personally, I woke up with a streak of white hair and haven't gotten my monthy in 6 months. LOL, what stress?

 

[CJane]

Personally, I woke up with a streak of white hair and haven't gotten my monthy in 6 months. LOL, what stress?

See, that white hair thing... a'la the chica from Poltergeist... is what scares he he** out of me! LOL

On the plus side, I've lost another 5 pounds this week. I could totally do with skipping the 'monthly' though... I KNEW there was a plus side to everything. I'm getting an IUD on Monday though, Doc swears I won't have one of those icky things for the next 5 years.

 

[Rushia]

See, that white hair thing... a'la the chica from Poltergeist... is what scares he he** out of me! LOL

On the plus side, I've lost another 5 pounds this week. I could totally do with skipping the 'monthly' though... I KNEW there was a plus side to everything. I'm getting an IUD on Monday though, Doc swears I won't have one of those icky things for the next 5 years.

Well, the streak was there when I woke up the day after the semi hit my van. The stress between my case and then the wreck did for me. I laughed when I found it. Hubby laughed even harder. Told me I was getting old and then I smacked him.

As far as the monthies go, I'd rather have one. In my case there is no reason for me not to get one. I'm on BC, and not getting one scares me. Do you have any idea how much money I've laid out on pregnancy test for the last 6 month, just cause I have to be sure before I start the next cycle....

 

[CJane]

Do you have any idea how much money I've laid out on pregnancy test for the last 6 month, just cause I have to be sure before I start the next cycle....

OMG, I hadn't even thought about that.

With my luck, I'll get pregnant on the IUD, and be one of those women who doesn't even know she's pregnant until she's 7 months gone because I never expected to get a period anyway.

Thanks for adding to my anxiety!

 

[Rushia]

OMG, I hadn't even thought about that.

With my luck, I'll get pregnant on the IUD, and be one of those women who doesn't even know she's pregnant until she's 7 months gone because I never expected to get a period anyway.

Thanks for adding to my anxiety!

ROTFLMAO!!! Sorry about that. I won't tell you then that my mom got pregnant when she had the IUD in then.

 

[CJane]

ROTFLMAO!!! Sorry about that. I won't tell you then that my mom got pregnant when she had the IUD in then.

Do you have any idea how cruel it is to say things like that to a woman with a 7 week old baby???? I'm gonna go cry now.

Guess it's a good thing the BF isn't moving back in. If I do get pregnant, the first call I'm making is to the Enquirer-the second to Maury to see if he can get a DNA sample from God.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Do you have any idea how cruel it is to say things like that to a woman with a 7 week old baby???? I'm gonna go cry now.

Guess it's a good thing the BF isn't moving back in. If I do get pregnant, the first call I'm making is to the Enquirer-the second to Maury to see if he can get a DNA sample from God.

Is it the truth that your infant's father is not moving back in? Or is that for the benefit of the GAL? I suggest you also file to establish paternity if he didn't sign an AOP and also file for child support otherwise it will look like it is a sham but the GAL may still want to interview him anyway. What has your attorney said about getting a new court date?

 

[CandiceH]

Okay, this is the funniest thing that I heard all day!

 

[CJane]

Is it the truth that your infant's father is not moving back in? Or is that for the benefit of the GAL? I suggest you also file to establish paternity if he didn't sign an AOP and also file for child support otherwise it will look like it is a sham but the GAL may still want to interview him anyway. What has your attorney said about getting a new court date?

Yes, it's true that he's not moving back in. Mutual decision. No drama.

He signed the AOP. You asked me that in another thread the other day. I've already talked to my attorney about filing for custody/visitation/child support. It's under control.

If the GAL still wants to interview him, there's nothing I can do about that - again, I can't force him to be anywhere.

She hasn't said anything. I'll fight tooth and nail to keep the date we currently have though, as long as the GAL feels she can make her recommendation in time.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Yes, it's true that he's not moving back in. Mutual decision. No drama.

He signed the AOP. You asked me that in another thread the other day. I've already talked to my attorney about filing for custody/visitation/child support. It's under control.

If the GAL still wants to interview him, there's nothing I can do about that - again, I can't force him to be anywhere.

She hasn't said anything. I'll fight tooth and nail to keep the date we currently have though, as long as the GAL feels she can make her recommendation in time.

Your story was different the other day. I am glad you heeded my suggestion, sometimes objective eyes see what you don't want to see, or maybe it's from being the custodian of the FA Crystal Ball. It is a hard lesson to learn.

 

[CJane]

Your story was different the other day. I am glad you heeded my suggestion, sometimes objective eyes see what you don't want to see, or maybe it's from being the custodian of the FA Crystal Ball. It is a hard lesson to learn.

What suggestion? The breakup? And what story was different? The moving out thing? I was never going to lie to the GAL about whether or not he was living here. It's been a hell of a week, and we're not going to be 'reconciling' any time soon... probably never (though absolutes always bother me).

The thing that bothers me the most is that the ex wins this round. He told me a long time ago he'd make sure I never had a man in my life again... this time he was successful in making that happen. I can only hope that in some dim future, he's grown up a bit.

 

[weenor]

I am sure sorry to see this....it is sooo difficult to maintain a relationship with the constant stress. I will tell you for what its worth, that a continuance is likely... I am used to them in my line of work, but when its your life it can be extremely frustrating...

 

[SITLYNNE]

I'm sorry too CJane. Stressful court battles definitely do damage to your relationship. Hopefully, the GAL will understand this. I'm thinking it may be good that she's female, a little more sensative to these issues. Well, most females are anyway. It's better for him not to move back in, that was used against me at my last custody conference, the fact that in a year period, I'd left the same man move in and out of my house 3 times, he was never gone more than a few days, and never took his things, he'd just go to his parents until we could reconcile, then he'd come home. But, my boys kept dad up to date, and he used it against me. Unstable, is what he called it, even though it was the boys, everytime, who'd stick up for the boyfriend and beg me to forgive him yet again, and let him come home. They say to this day, if I'd have married him, they never would've decided to go live with dad. And during the times he was gone to his parents, no, I did not see anyone else, so don't even think it.
It'll be ok, the GAL will understand. If she needs to talk with him, hopefully they can have a phone conversation.
Explain to her he couldn't take the pressure of the battle and it's better for you girls this way.

 

[CJane]

Yeah, the ex is really pushing the whole 'if they breakup, she'll be dating again, and that's not healthy for the girls' angle. Nevermind that I've dated 5 men total since my divorce was final 2 years ago, and one of them I've lived with for almost a year. And nevermind the fact that the BF is the only man the kids ever even met... but the ex took the kids with him on his first date with his wife.

It'll be ok though. Had a long talk with the kids last night and told them that he wasn't moving back in. They were sad, but it opened up a conversation about everything we've gone through together in the past 2 years (and believe me, this custody battle is the least of the list), and how we're still strong because we're still a family. My 9 year old said "That's because we know that no matter what happens, that you're always going to help us find the happy in the sad." She's so cool.