Am I Wrong?

[BelizeBreeze]

I would like to know why everyone is jumping down this mans throat over a simple queston!!!

BECAUSE Dimwit, he has nothing to say about this situation. He has no legal standing, which he was told in the very first response and continually since he copped an attitude.

Much like you. So, if you don't like it, you have several options. Use them.

 

[ecastanedo]

I would like to know why everyone is jumping down this mans throat over a simple queston!!! You all know nothing about what he goes through or what goes on in his life when it comes to dealing with the ex!! OK OK so he is getting a $160.00 dollars for CS.... BIG WHOOP!! All the man did was ask a simple question concerning both him AND his wife!! You know when you are married that everything that happens in your household effect both of you....just because we as stepparents don't have a "say so" in things legally it still affects both of us. Asking a simple question doesn't mean that the kids are suffering because of it. They get to see their dad and I am sure they are treated very well at home!!
I say that unless those that are on this forum are willing to give advice without trying to make eveyone that asks a question feel like an idiot....go find something better to do with your time like starting a forum for " people who know the law and those who think they do"!! Lighten up.....there has got to be a forum for you all to vent your frustrations somewhere...just don't do it here!!

Thanks for backing me up on this one. It's good to know not everyone here has their head on backwards. I wouldn't bother with this bunch though. They are cloudier than merky water. Cheers!

 

[Sandwalk]

Thanks for backing me up on this one. It's good to know not everyone here has their head on backwards. I wouldn't bother with this bunch though. They are cloudier than merky water. Cheers!

I have seen this all too many times on here!! Actually now I only read when I need a good laugh!! After all....If they were really all lawyers....why aren't they giving advice for pay?? They obviously have too much time on their hands and alot of issues to answer someone in the manner that they do.

And as for you belizebreeze: You have alot of nerve calling me names and may I suggest that you don't do it again?? What kind of people are you that you resort to such things...believe me if you are or ever have been a lawyer(which is probably why you spend so much time on here,lack of work)I would hate to have you on my case....sure to lose!!

Heres a quote for you that I think I learned in Kindergarten: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"!!! I think that most of you could learn something from that!

 

[BL]

How comforting .... Did ya get your answer ?

 

[LdiJ]

You know....I think we are too hard on stepparents when we are trying to explain the "we" situation. Generally its the first time anyone is explaining that to them and when we do it harshly its almost to be expected that we will get a negative reaction....although dude, if you had been listening instead of just getting your back up you would have recieved better answers.

I understood what the situation is. Dad was given 50/50 physical custody, and his child support was calculated accordingly, and the basis for the 50/50 was the fact that he could have the children from 6 AM to 2 PM each day.

However....he is NOT utilizing that time because the children are in school... therefore he has child support calculated based on 50/50 custody, and 50/50 expenses in the home for taking care of the children...yet he only actually takes them every other weekend...besides driving them to school in the morning.

The OP's question was fair. Although its none of his business from a legal standpoint, he IS picking up the slack so he does have a financial interest.
And yes...there is more than one solution to that problem. Since the kids are in school mom probably ought to be working at least part time....and yes, dad should probably be paying more child support.

However dad made sure that he got 50/50 on paper to start with,...and dad is unlikely to acquiese to paying more without a pretty serious battle.

 

[Silverplum]

Here's your problem: you keep referring to "OUR" and "WE" and all those nice married words. Except that, in legalese, there IS no "our" or "we" in child custody and support. The "we" was your wife and her X. The "our" should refer to the kid/s from the relationship between your wife and her X.

You can't stand up for her in court or mediation. You can't file any papers. You can't interfere. Legally. (This IS a legal info site, you know. Not much else matters.)

The amount of support paid? Not your business.
The amount of time spent at mom's vs. the amount at dad's? Not your business.
The relationship, legal or otherwise, between your wife and her X and their children? Not your business.

Do you see the problem now? IF there's a problem, it's your wife or her X that needs to take care of it. Not you.

Edited: I forgot to add that your snotty little 'tude ain't helping either, dude.

I didn't think that was too rough. And I did it so that he would understand what the *Board's Position* was on steps. Of course he did have a 'tude, too.

(Not that I want to follow you around and argue w/you this morning, LdiJ! )

 

[BL]

You know....

This isn't a mental health board , If the OP thinks we were Too hard , better hear it here than sitting in Court with wifey and hearing it from a ornery Judge .

 

[ENASNI]

No sir Blonde

Its changed... court that is.
First the Bailiff at the door gives everyone a hug as you walk in.

Tea and cookies are passed around... (or coffee if you prefer)

The benches all have cushions... The judge wears pastels instead of black,

After the proceedings everyone holds hands in a big circle...Then they go to Denny's for burgers and fries... the court reporter pays of course.

 

[BL]

Its changed... court that is.
First the Bailiff at the door gives everyone a hug as you walk in.

Tea and cookies are passed around... (or coffee if you prefer)

The benches all have cushions... The judge wears pastels instead of black,

After the proceedings everyone holds hands in a big circle...Then they go to Denny's for burgers and fries... the court reporter pays of course.

LOl Denny's ? not freindly's Freindlies even serve desert LOL

 

[ENASNI]

Well

Depends on the Court reporter...

 

[BelizeBreeze]

And as for you belizebreeze: You have alot of nerve calling me names and may I suggest that you don't do it again??!

Hey FOOL. Take your suggest and stick it.

 

[ecastanedo]

Touche.

People have a right to be jackasses all they want....

As I have a right to expect a little frickin courtesy....

Maybe it's a little too much to ask for. Now that I have seen some of your true colors, I can see that my expectations coming here were a little too high.

I guess when you are dealing with legal issues all day long you must get jaded and forget what it's like to be human.

I know the world can be tough, but do you really have to contribute?

It never ceases to amaze me how dense some people can be.

Some of you need a serious vacation. You take yourselves to seriously indeed. I can tell just by reading some of your posts that you are inherently miserable people. That's sad....

You say the board is about legal issues... It's funny how your stories change to suit your case. I'm sure you will always have some excuse for how it's cool and okay to be a rude jerk as long as you are talking about legal issues. All it takes is one person to seem knowledgable to have the whole herd following, bashing anyone who opposes the "all-knowing" one.

Please...

I will leave you to your little fantasy world of "reality". Oh, and I'm sorry if I bruised your little ego. Boo Hoo!

 

[Sandwalk]

Hey FOOL. Take your suggest and stick it.

What a pathetic LOSER!!! Too bad that we have to deal with your sort!! You sound like you have the knowledge of a lint ball anyway....so you fool should stick it!! It looks to me like you need the mental help....so many issues so little time!!

 

[misslawli]

To OP.....
One thing that you need to think of though.....(THIS IS NOT A BASH)
We can only give answers based on WHat you chose to post in that original post. You posted we gave answers BASED ON WHAT YOU POSTED, if there was pertinant info that would have made a diff, then they should have been posted in the first post. You may think they are not our business, but it might be important.
Just a little heads up..............Really this place aint so bad!

 

[AHA]

I have seen this all too many times on here!! Actually now I only read when I need a good laugh!! After all....If they were really all lawyers....why aren't they giving advice for pay?? They obviously have too much time on their hands and alot of issues to answer someone in the manner that they do.

And as for you belizebreeze: You have alot of nerve calling me names and may I suggest that you don't do it again?? What kind of people are you that you resort to such things...believe me if you are or ever have been a lawyer(which is probably why you spend so much time on here,lack of work)I would hate to have you on my case....sure to lose!!

Heres a quote for you that I think I learned in Kindergarten: "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"!!! I think that most of you could learn something from that!

Nowhere on this site does it say that every poster here is a lawyer, if we all were, we wouldn't be giving advice for free!
This site is for people who don't have a clue of where to even begin to solve their legal problems. It's a site to share experiences and inform each other of laws. It's a site to get you started on your search for a solution. No one here is going to solve your every legal issue just like that, because first of all, we NEVER get the whole story, second we are not lawyers. If you want a lawyer you go and get one and pay for it. If you choose to do a DIY legal case on the internet to solve your problems, you get what you get, warts and all. If you have access to this site you have just as much access to seach the internet for actual laws and lawyers to help you. This is not a site where strangers will do your homework or leg work for you.
Maybe sometimes people need to hear less "nice things" because that's the only way to get them to open their eyes to what they are doing. Since no one here gets paid to say anything, of course, you are going to hear things you don't like. Legal problems are seldom "nice". If you only expect to hear things you want to hear, get a lawyer, they'll they you whatever you want if you pay them. Why do you think they earn so much???