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[Jennx1032]

What is the name of your state?ny

Okay my son's farther(ncp) keeps bring my son home with bruses and claims the dogs are doing this. Mon(my son's 2nd b-day)He brought my son home with two huge gashes across his face, just below the eye, he wasn't going to tell me until i brought it up. I was really upset and he told me the dogs had done it. Iasked why he didn't tell me when i called to check on him as i do every time he has my son.He said because it is no big deal and it is none of my buss. Is there anything i can do to keep these dogs away from my child, i fear they may hit his eye next time and damage it. He refuses to listen to me. The dogs live upstairs with his parents and he lives down, i asked if he could not bring my son around the dogs, he said no. Please help, if you can

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state?ny

Okay my son's farther(ncp) keeps bring my son home with bruses and claims the dogs are doing this. Mon(my son's 2nd b-day)He brought my son home with two huge gashes across his face, just below the eye, he wasn't going to tell me until i brought it up. I was really upset and he told me the dogs had done it. Iasked why he didn't tell me when i called to check on him as i do every time he has my son.He said because it is no big deal and it is none of my buss. Is there anything i can do to keep these dogs away from my child, i fear they may hit his eye next time and damage it. He refuses to listen to me. The dogs live upstairs with his parents and he lives down, i asked if he could not bring my son around the dogs, he said no. Please help, if you can

Did you take pictures? Contact Animal Control? If the dogs are not controlled &/are hurting your child, you can certainly provide evidence of that in court & ask for a restriction that the child isn't around the dogs during visitation.

 

[Jennx1032]

Yes i did take pictures, how can i go about having the dogs stay away from my son, talking to his farther isn't working and he doen't listen to anything i have to say, everything is no big deal to him. He never tells me when my son has been hurt or is sick, i find out when he returns him home, and he keeps claiming he doesn't have to tell me.

 

[casa]

Yes i did take pictures, how can i go about having the dogs stay away from my son, talking to his farther isn't working and he doen't listen to anything i have to say, everything is no big deal to him. He never tells me when my son has been hurt or is sick, i find out when he returns him home, and he keeps claiming he doesn't have to tell me.

For minor injuries like normal scrapes, bruises etc., he may not 'Have' to tell you...but it's common courtesy to do so. And legally he's probably required to notify you of any Emergency situations.

Talk to Dad (make the correspondence in e-mail or writing if possible) and explain that he's not taking you seriously and your child is being harmed as a result...you don't want him to grow up being afraid of dogs just because Dad (or whoever) is an irresponsible pet owner. Explain to him you can/will take the photos and either call Animal Control or Social Services to report the problem.

 

[NotSoNew]

well he doesnt HAVE to tell you. take pics and call childrens services if you want anything done about it, otherwise you cant legally ask him to not be around dogs.

 

[casa]

I should have mentioned...it's entirely possible for Animal Control to act on this faster than Social Services

 

[Jennx1032]

For minor injuries like normal scrapes, bruises etc., he may not 'Have' to tell you...but it's common courtesy to do so. And legally he's probably required to notify you of any Emergency situations.

Talk to Dad (make the correspondence in e-mail or writing if possible) and explain that he's not taking you seriously and your child is being harmed as a result...you don't want him to grow up being afraid of dogs just because Dad (or whoever) is an irresponsible pet owner. Explain to him you can/will take the photos and either call Animal Control or Social Services to report the problem.

I will write him a letter, he has no email. Is there anything threw the courts that i can do? I have a lawyer, but he is never avalible, i have been calling him for the last 2 mths.
I am trying to find the # for animal control, but thier doesn't seem to be any on long island
Well thanks for all you help

 

[NotSoNew]

i dont see that animal control can do anything unless the animal bit. how can they even know the dogs really did it? dad could be lying! i think childrens services while slower would be better.

 

[LdiJ]

i dont see that animal control can do anything unless the animal bit. how can they even know the dogs really did it? dad could be lying! i think childrens services while slower would be better.

If animal control out there is anything like animal control in my city, they will issue dad an expensive ticket based on nothing more than the complaintant's word.....and biting is not required for a ticket to be issued.

A call to both might be in order.

 

[acmb05]

well

I will write him a letter, he has no email. Is there anything threw the courts that i can do? I have a lawyer, but he is never avalible, i have been calling him for the last 2 mths.
I am trying to find the # for animal control, but thier doesn't seem to be any on long island
Well thanks for all you help

Then you don't have a lawyer. You have someone who is tired of the petty bickering back and forth between you two and has pretty much decided to wash his hands of it.

Aren't you overstateing it a bit. Cmon "two HUGE gashes" dont you mean two scratches from dogs paw.

I agree dad needs to be more careful however it sounds like you are possibly could be overstsating the facts.

 

[Jennx1032]

Then you don't have a lawyer. You have someone who is tired of the petty bickering back and forth between you two and has pretty much decided to wash his hands of it.

Aren't you overstateing it a bit. Cmon "two HUGE gashes" dont you mean two scratches from dogs paw.

I agree dad needs to be more careful however it sounds like you are possibly could be overstsating the facts.

No i mean gashes, these weren't scraches.
As far as my lawyer, he is having family problems so i have been told by his office.
I don't call my lawyer for every little thing, but yes when my son is hurt like this or my ex with a pending order against him breaks it, i do contact my lawyer, that is what i am supose to do.
What say nothing and nest time my child's eye will be damaged or worse, i am a concerded mother and i have every right ti be, this is my child. Not a doll, a living, breathing gorgous just turned 2 on monday little boy.Supose i said nothing and worse is done next time, then what, i am a bad parent cause i didn't step up for my child. This has happen way too may times.

 

[LdiJ]

No i mean gashes, these weren't scraches.
As far as my lawyer, he is having family problems so i have been told by his office.
I don't call my lawyer for every little thing, but yes when my son is hurt like this or my ex with a pending order against him breaks it, i do contact my lawyer, that is what i am supose to do.
What say nothing and nest time my child's eye will be damaged or worse, i am a concerded mother and i have every right ti be, this is my child. Not a doll, a living, breathing gorgous just turned 2 on monday little boy.Supose i said nothing and worse is done next time, then what, i am a bad parent cause i didn't step up for my child. This has happen way too may times.

Dogs CAN seriously injure small children, sometimes, not even out of anger, fear or malice. I don't blame you for being concerned, and I am not impressed with dad's attitude about it.

 

[Jennx1032]

Dogs CAN seriously injure small children, sometimes, not even out of anger, fear or malice. I don't blame you for being concerned, and I am not impressed with dad's attitude about it.

Thankyou, i am very upset, it probably doesn't help that my 3 yrs old cousins nose was hanging off twice due to a dog, the same dog.I just want to know legaly if there is anything i can do, or do i have to wait for my son to be injured worse?

 

[LdiJ]

Thankyou, i am very upset, it probably doesn't help that my 3 yrs old cousins nose was hanging off twice due to a dog, the same dog.I just want to know legaly if there is anything i can do, or do i have to wait for my son to be injured worse?

Since you have pictures of the injuries, and there is past evidence of the dog being a problem, I would probably petition the court to order dad to keep the dogs away from the child.

You could also call animal control and CPS....but that might be taking it too far just yet.

 

[Jennx1032]

Since you have pictures of the injuries, and there is past evidence of the dog being a problem, I would probably petition the court to order dad to keep the dogs away from the child.

You could also call animal control and CPS....but that might be taking it too far just yet.

Thanyou for your help, i have written a letter whitch states my concerns and asking to resolve this problem, so we will see how that goes.
Should i have a witness to say that he recived it in case something does come of this?