attacked by dad and i want to get out!

[Veronica1228]

"I have to admit that this really didn't keep me in line." It did make you think twice about what you were doing though I bet. lol.

Not really. As I said, the grounding and restrictions worked a lot better as a deterrent from breaking house rules. All the spanking did was make me angry and rebellious which caused a bit of an aggression problem when faced with conflicts amongst my peers during my younger years. Not exactly the result my parents were hoping for.

I still have a temper, but I've learned to control it like a responsible adult.

 

[Dlgdabalm]

Ten or twenty years ago grounding might have worked, you are not going to ground a 17 year old today.

Dad does not want to see his child in the sysrem or in jail or he would have called the police as soon as she threw the phone at him regardless of where it landed. No parent wants to see thier child go to jail or juv.hall.

Obviously the so called beating WAS correcting because the police would have filed charges and arrested dad if one ounce of what she is saying is true.

For the parents this is a lose lose situation, I really feel for them.

If you dont like the way mom and dad are then bide your time move out and pay your own bills and then noone can tell you to get off the phone, but remember this the same parents you are trying to throw under the bus now you will need someday.

 

[Dlgdabalm]

Not really. As I said, the grounding and restrictions worked a lot better as a deterrent from breaking house rules. All the spanking did was make me angry and rebellious which caused a bit of an aggression problem when faced with conflicts amongst my peers during my younger years. Not exactly the result my parents were hoping for.

I still have a temper, but I've learned to control it like a responsible adult.

The punishment should fit the crime, you did'nt get spanked for spilling milk did you? All kids get angry all kids are rebelious no matter spanked or not.

As a kid i had a good friend, he came from a very well to do family, he was never spanked in his life and that very kid would walk around our town cutting up kittens with a machetti? the point is if you got problems you got problems dont blame it on the spankings.

 

[shell007]

I usually don't interject this far into a thread, but for the posters who feel that this "so called" punishment was uncalled for....remember we are only hearing the side of a 17-year-old who, I'm sure, is putting a little candy coating on this story.

Don't think for a minute that he/she didn't precipitate some of the actions here. More likely that she and dad got into a scuffle, she probably put up a damn good fight, DAD tried to remiain in control, she fell down, scuffle occured...now she claims DAD hit her with all the swinging that was probably going on by both parties, neither of them actually trying to physically harm the other.
We are not getting the whole story here!

 

[shell007]

In addition...The OP hasn't been heard of since yesterday afternoon. Hopefully...Mom, Dad, and she had a great Thanksgiving and have probably moved on, and we are the ones still arguing this point.

 

[Just Blue]

Here we go again with your bias BS. Why was it she was wrestling with her father to begin with???????????? because MOM wanted to use the phone but she felt talking to her BF was more important and when corrected she throws the cell phone at her dad instead of simply doing as she was told which parents have every right to do, she chose to escalated a fight and thats what she got, why could'nt she do as she was told before it became a blowout? and now she wants to blame her parents? She sounds like a spoiled little brat that never got a spanking when she needed it and YOU do to. My children do not throw things at me because they know better and have more respect than that.

The parents are ADULTS...and as such should know how to keep in control! The OP is 17...with all that implys...Do I think that she is giving the whole story? NO WAY!
BUT....The parents, as ADULTS, should be able to control the situation without injuring their child!

So, why do I need a spanking? Because I don't agree with you?? Is that what you did to your wife when she disagreed with you?

DLG...perhaps it is you that's in need of a spanking!

 

[Veronica1228]

I usually don't interject this far into a thread, but for the posters who feel that this "so called" punishment was uncalled for....remember we are only hearing the side of a 17-year-old who, I'm sure, is putting a little candy coating on this story.

Don't think for a minute that he/she didn't precipitate some of the actions here. More likely that she and dad got into a scuffle, she probably put up a damn good fight, DAD tried to remiain in control, she fell down, scuffle occured...now she claims DAD hit her with all the swinging that was probably going on by both parties, neither of them actually trying to physically harm the other.
We are not getting the whole story here!

I agree and did mention that IF the story is true as the OP tells it then I felt that the parents used excessive force. However, that's a big IF.

By the way, did someone say something about a spanking?

 

[shell007]

Not that I recall! I'll read the entire thread again, but I don't think so.

 

[stealth2]

Uuuuh, I suspect there is more to "the rest of the story" than OP provided.

 

[justalayman]

What is the name of your state? ohio
well i'm 17 and i turn 18 in 2 months and tonight my dad jumped on me and threw me into his closet door and hit me but when i went to the police he said the judge might not go through with the charges b/c i wasn't injured too bad but there is a bruise on my eye from where he hit me now i'm scared to be at home and i was wanting to know if there's anyway i can move out since ohio doesn't have the emancipation law?

whether this is all the truth or not, if this had happened where I live someone would have gone to jail that night for domestic violence. How do I know for sure? Been there done that! Correction is one thing but when it escalated to the level reported......abusive violence. Obviously without all the correct details no one can say who is at fault but kids should never be dealt with with that type of force unless it's defensive. There are other avenue for punishment.

 

[Dlgdabalm]

The parents are ADULTS...and as such should know how to keep in control! The OP is 17...with all that implys...Do I think that she is giving the whole story? NO WAY!
BUT....The parents, as ADULTS, should be able to control the situation without injuring their child!

So, why do I need a spanking? Because I don't agree with you?? Is that what you did to your wife when she disagreed with you?

DLG...perhaps it is you that's in need of a spanking!

LOL, I gotta say you sound so sexy when you talk that way bay.

We are not talking about an 8 or 9 year old CHILD here, We are talking about a 17 year old ADULT 2 months shy of 18.

As shellandty said OP was probubly putting up a heck of a fight and DAD did what he had to do to "control the situation".

As an ADULT/PARENT you do not let your children control you, you control them and unfortunatly sometimes that means getting physical when the CHILD brings it to that level.

My wife and I have a 50/50 relationship and I dont spank her unless she promises to spank me back.

 

[Rushia]

My wife and I have a 50/50 relationship and I dont spank her unless she promises to spank me back.

Hey, hubby and I have the same agreement!!

 

[Just Blue]

LOL, I gotta say you sound so sexy when you talk that way bay.

Thank You! Should I get one of those 900 #?

[We are not talking about an 8 or 9 year old CHILD here, We are talking about a 17 year old ADULT 2 months shy of 18.]

Irrelevant

[ As shellandty said OP was probubly putting up a heck of a fight and DAD did what he had to do to "control the situation".]

This is pure speculation. But even if correct, slamming the kid into a door was the wrong thing to do!


[As an ADULT/PARENT you do not let your children control you, you control them and unfortunatly sometimes that means getting physical when the CHILD brings it to that level.]

Nope! If the child gets physical.....call 911..this teaches the brat that there are consequences to their actions!

[My wife and I have a 50/50 relationship and I dont spank her unless she promises to spank me back.

Okay....there is a lot of things I could say to this...but I won't!!

 

[Dlgdabalm]

LOL Rushia..

I dont think any of us are saying that slamming anyone into anything is appropriate, but what we are saying is that in a scuffle ***t happens.

I dont think the maturity that makes you an adult is obtained in the last two months of your 17th year? She is an adult.

Most parents would give thier lives for thier children, they do not want to see them in the system, let alone be the one's who put them there.

Hmmm..900 number just might make you a few bucks.

Just: you are right if there was one ounce of truth to this girls story about DAD attacking her, he would have been arrested.

 

[Rushia]

LOL Rushia..

I dont think any of us are saying that slamming anyone into anything is appropriate, but what we are saying is that in a scuffle ***t happens.

I dont think the maturity that makes you an adult is obtained in the last two months of your 17th year? She is an adult.

Most parents would give thier lives for thier children, they do not want to see them in the system, let alone be the one's who put them there.

Hmmm..900 number just might make you a few bucks.

Just: you are right if there was one ounce of truth to this girls story about DAD attacking her, he would have been arrested.

This girl is already in the system and has been looking for a way out of her home for awhile now. Chances are that is why the police didn't believe her or care. She already stated in another post that her parents don't beat her. Now the story is that he did.