He tells me that he isn't giving up the power to pick them up when he wants from school. He wants them with his wife intead of my fiance if he isn't available. That she represents him and that she is their real mother anyways. Blood and biology don't matter as much as the commitment of marriage...(coming from a divorced man) I have this in an email from him. I read it in disbelief. He's not willing to compromise.
If you take it to court then your risking a Judge siding with you, however he also might side against you and give dad extra overnights or extra weeknights. Me I would risk it because no way would I be doing that BS everyday crap to my kids or myself. In my head the other options are better.k
Once custody and a parenting time are ordered, it's very hard to change either. So to fix something that is not working well, you have to give up something else or the court usually won't do it. You do not have good reasons or proof to have the court taking time from dad. You have a lot of BS that dad is doing, that you should have filed contempt on if it is in your order. If it is not you should have modified your order and added things in it.
So that is what it boils down to, either your stuck with this schedule or you fix it, but your going to have to give him time elsewhere or the court is not going to do it. On the rest of the stuff, you should really have things in your order so you can file contempt when he pulls some of this or start filing contempt if it is in your order already. It may never stop, however many quit the games when the other side stops putting up with them by getting them in their order and filing contempt on them.
You made the mess and yes you could be stuck for a long time with a horrible situation with someone who will not co-parent. Look up different types of parenting online when one side won't co-parent, by using a different one yourself you can make it less stressful.