What is the name of your state? north carolina.
k, where to start...my parents got a call from texas 4 days ago from my ex (who last we knew was living in california with my son) who said she & my son (he is 13 years old) were homeless & the last child support check hadnt come through & she wanted to know why (glitch in the computer system somewhere between north carolina & california. fixed & she has check.) my mother told her she would check with me & my ex was to call back & get info. no support checks have been missed or late previous to that & i have been employeed constantly since our divorce in 1997. we never had any formal child custody agreement but she has since then had physical custody because i was in the army(now in private sector) & she (cause of divorce) refused to move to nc where i was stationed as we had previously agreed. i had been trying to contact them for quite a while & every phone number i was give was no longer in service & letters sent to the last home address i had came back 'return to sender' sooo...after call from texas she never called back and my parents said she had mentioned my brother's ex-wife (kelly, who lives in texas) in their conversation. so i called her & she said, yes my ex had been in texas for a year. she had come to stay with her but it hadnt worked out. she was very concerned about the emotional stability of my ex & the well-being of my son. the whole two months my ex & son were staying there, my ex wouldnt let my son play with the other children living there, nor let him play on the 17 acres. she kept the two of them shut up in the bedroom together for days on end only coming out for food when no one was around or to go to the restroom (if my ex was pottying, my son had to sit outside of the door & wait for her to finish). after the 1st 2 months in texas she moved into a rental kelly owns. during the next 8 months she ended up running up close to $4000 in utilities...that she didnt pay (kelly paid them, but this really isnt an issue w/ kelly) 6 wks ago my ex & son left the rental & havent been heard from until or since the "we are homeless" call. kelly tells me that my ex has been turning my son against me & that he doesnt even refer to me as 'dad' any longer (only by my first name) kelly says my sons entire life seems to revolve around making his mother happy & he is more the parent than she is (perhaps related to sexual abuse she suffered as a child??) . i am scared for my son's physical & emotional well-being. i am now working in the private sector in a good job. have a very stable home in an established neighborhood & my fiancee is a stay at home mother with 2 children (one in college & the other a rising 11th grader w/ straight As
) & would be a good influence. her mother has taken in foster children (now adopted by her mother) so we have experience with children who have been through troubled times. we also have seen the damage done by emotional abuse & children being homeless. any advice on the best course of action? we would love to have my son here as long as he can or even until his mother could get to a more stable place in her life but we cant even find her to get this idea (which would most likely be rejected) to her.
k, where to start...my parents got a call from texas 4 days ago from my ex (who last we knew was living in california with my son) who said she & my son (he is 13 years old) were homeless & the last child support check hadnt come through & she wanted to know why (glitch in the computer system somewhere between north carolina & california. fixed & she has check.) my mother told her she would check with me & my ex was to call back & get info. no support checks have been missed or late previous to that & i have been employeed constantly since our divorce in 1997. we never had any formal child custody agreement but she has since then had physical custody because i was in the army(now in private sector) & she (cause of divorce) refused to move to nc where i was stationed as we had previously agreed. i had been trying to contact them for quite a while & every phone number i was give was no longer in service & letters sent to the last home address i had came back 'return to sender' sooo...after call from texas she never called back and my parents said she had mentioned my brother's ex-wife (kelly, who lives in texas) in their conversation. so i called her & she said, yes my ex had been in texas for a year. she had come to stay with her but it hadnt worked out. she was very concerned about the emotional stability of my ex & the well-being of my son. the whole two months my ex & son were staying there, my ex wouldnt let my son play with the other children living there, nor let him play on the 17 acres. she kept the two of them shut up in the bedroom together for days on end only coming out for food when no one was around or to go to the restroom (if my ex was pottying, my son had to sit outside of the door & wait for her to finish). after the 1st 2 months in texas she moved into a rental kelly owns. during the next 8 months she ended up running up close to $4000 in utilities...that she didnt pay (kelly paid them, but this really isnt an issue w/ kelly) 6 wks ago my ex & son left the rental & havent been heard from until or since the "we are homeless" call. kelly tells me that my ex has been turning my son against me & that he doesnt even refer to me as 'dad' any longer (only by my first name) kelly says my sons entire life seems to revolve around making his mother happy & he is more the parent than she is (perhaps related to sexual abuse she suffered as a child??) . i am scared for my son's physical & emotional well-being. i am now working in the private sector in a good job. have a very stable home in an established neighborhood & my fiancee is a stay at home mother with 2 children (one in college & the other a rising 11th grader w/ straight As
) & would be a good influence. her mother has taken in foster children (now adopted by her mother) so we have experience with children who have been through troubled times. we also have seen the damage done by emotional abuse & children being homeless. any advice on the best course of action? we would love to have my son here as long as he can or even until his mother could get to a more stable place in her life but we cant even find her to get this idea (which would most likely be rejected) to her.