Child Support Mod From zero to some. Chances?

[fairisfair]

I guess my reason to consider it is just that I don't think it would be fair for him to automatically owe thousands of dollars. That would just make things harder for him, and that is not what I am trying to do. All I want is for him to help support our children.

It actually isn't the same court. The original divorce was in Oregon, where the zero child support came from. My ex moved to Washington about 3 years ago, and I just moved to Washington about two years ago. CSE is involved because when my ex stopped paying cs I couldn't afford an attorney to take him to court, too scared to go pro se, so I went to CSE and asked for their help, they changed Jurisdiction/Venue (I think that is what its called) and filed a modification for cs. He does have an attorney, and they did ask that the order be dismissed, we went to a default hearing because he chose not to respond by the deadling (He did however respond the day before court) anyways, we went to court and it was continued until March 2nd for the hearing. He stated in his response that because the $150 he gives me every month is a little more than his half of the childcare he is OVERPAYING me for support of our three children the way he see's it.

He didn't automatically owe thousands of dollars, he was able to do that on a month by month basis. Don't excuse him from his lack of acceptance of parental responsiblity. Remember that verbal agreement that he so niftily threw in the can? Well karma sucks.

CSE's main goal here is to see that your children are supported, and thereby keep you off the state welfare rolls. For goodness sakes Maddy's mom, stop feeling sorry for him and start doing what is right for your children. He can see it however he wants, the only eyes that matter are those of the court. Oh yeah, and J, her poor eyes are bleeding!! LOL

 

[Raisingmaddy]

He didn't automatically owe thousands of dollars, he was able to do that on a month by month basis. Don't excuse him from his lack of acceptance of parental responsiblity. Remember that verbal agreement that he so niftily threw in the can? Well karma sucks.

CSE's main goal here is to see that your children are supported, and thereby keep you off the state welfare rolls. For goodness sakes Maddy's mom, stop feeling sorry for him and start doing what is right for your children. He can see it however he wants, the only eyes that matter are those of the court. Oh yeah, and J, her poor eyes are bleeding!! LOL

You are right, he didn't automatically owe thousands of dollars, I am not trying to excuse him from his responsibility believe me I DO think some child support is necessary and he should have to pay arrears if any are awarded (From filing date) I was just trying to help things go smoother, but like I said, he completely turned it down, so it is a non issue now, because if it is awarded, he is out of luck now. Just so you know, I do have a full time job, and pay full support for my children, and once I acually recieve child support I will no longer need the childcare assistance for my child.

 

[fairisfair]

You are right, he didn't automatically owe thousands of dollars, I am not trying to excuse him from his responsibility believe me I DO think some child support is necessary and he should have to pay arrears if any are awarded (From filing date) I was just trying to help things go smoother, but like I said, he completely turned it down, so it is a non issue now, because if it is awarded, he is out of luck now. Just so you know, I do have a full time job, and pay full support for my children, and once I acually recieve child support I will no longer need the childcare assistance for my child.

Good luck, let the state work the numbers. You are way too susceptible to his ploys. Let him cry them a river.

 

[Bretagne]

Isn't the state going to intervene on this one to establish guideline support because she's receiving services? Can't she let the local CS authority handle this for her?

 

[GrowUp!]

Isn't the state going to intervene on this one to establish guideline support because she's receiving services?

Not necessarily.

 

[jbowman]

The child care assistance she receives is probably not thru the state --like welfare or food stamps. There are plenty of government agencies such as the YMCA that will help with child care which takes your income into consideration.

 

[fairisfair]

Actually, if I remember correctly, her's is thru the state, but still the state does not require support compliance for child care assistance. That is generally only for Cash Assistance (TANF) and in some states for Medical.

 

[Raisingmaddy]

Actually, if I remember correctly, her's is thru the state, but still the state does not require support compliance for child care assistance. That is generally only for Cash Assistance (TANF) and in some states for Medical.

The childcare assistance is a grant thru the Sate of Washington based on my income, but I do not receive any TANF or medical or anything else like that.

 

[fairisfair]

so in response to Bret's question, the state will intervene at her request, not automatically.