soon2bstep
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What is the name of your state? child is in duval co, fl
we were having alot of issues with my stepsons mom.....and as you all got annoyed with me, i thought i'd hover and try to find relative posts and wait till i had papers for quotations lol.....also please remember i am the one who posted about the ex-wife filing a totally new divorce in florida a year after the original divorce(and the decree was finally domesticated in florida)
below is what has been requested of my fiance....i will post each question next to quote...if this is long i'm sorry but thought 1 long post better than several ones
"former wife requests stepped up visitation..."---what does that mean?
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B]"former wife requests alife insurance be taken out at an amount which former husband can afford, which will cover all owed expenses in the event of former husbands demise"---[/B] they were married 2 1/2 years, and his court order for his dgtr does not mention this, and if we change his life insurance to benefit only her, that leaves no monies to his daughter(who is firstborn), nor to the child we're about to have(yes i know this baby doesnt count it's only a question)
"former wife requests that former husband pays all of former wife's current and future lawyer fees as she does not have the income nor the resources to continue to pay her legal fees and care for the minor child"--- she started this battle by going to a lawyer, stating she needed a divorce, AFTER their original divorce was finalized in december of 2006
i know this is alot, but he actually feels (and his lawyer has even mentioned) going to small claims court for HIS attorney fees as she is the one who fraudulently opened the case...the original court dates were terminated due to the letter we wrote that included the original divorce papers...and now florida is apparently forcing her and her atty to back track and petition CALIFORNIA to relinquish their hold over child support, since at the time there were no custody proceedings/cases, and their divorce papers actually have "state of california, county of san diego, retains all rights to establishing child support unless they are petiitioned from child's home state of a true and factual custody case"...question for the last sentence is, since california has been made aware (they recieved the same letter that florida did about the divorce and illegally obtained divorce from florida), can they decide to hold out over this matter? (we are hoping not, which is why i ask).....we more than have the money to pay support for 2 children and raise our own.....but we were made aware just the other day, that apparently our lawyer replied to the above "requests" with a "former husband, respondent, *denies* life insurance *denies* lawyer fees, *agrees* to stepped up visitation"....but then the lawyer put that my fiance DENIES that his wife is the one who should support my stepson....we NEVER told our lawyer that!!! so now it appears our lawyer has opened an all out custody battle.....and i'm guessing that since he makes enough money and we have a stable home (she's moved 4 times in 3 years), and that we have a better school district more stability and a solid family (she's been engaged 3 times since they split in jan 2005), and such that there's probably no chance they'd give him an option to "take" custody so to say,they'll just up the child support won't they? they don't really care who can take better care? or has the best chance of promoting visits?(our last convo with her where we talked to my stepson, she told my fiance when we were done that he'd see his son over her dead body and that since he is with me and didnt "want" to find a job/home in florida rather than texas(hey there's oil in them there waters! and money behind it!, he is *choosing* not to "have a son")
ok sry so long go ahead and complain it'd be the best adult convo i've had in over a week
we were having alot of issues with my stepsons mom.....and as you all got annoyed with me, i thought i'd hover and try to find relative posts and wait till i had papers for quotations lol.....also please remember i am the one who posted about the ex-wife filing a totally new divorce in florida a year after the original divorce(and the decree was finally domesticated in florida)
below is what has been requested of my fiance....i will post each question next to quote...if this is long i'm sorry but thought 1 long post better than several ones
"former wife requests stepped up visitation..."---what does that mean?
[
B]"former wife requests alife insurance be taken out at an amount which former husband can afford, which will cover all owed expenses in the event of former husbands demise"---[/B] they were married 2 1/2 years, and his court order for his dgtr does not mention this, and if we change his life insurance to benefit only her, that leaves no monies to his daughter(who is firstborn), nor to the child we're about to have(yes i know this baby doesnt count it's only a question)
"former wife requests that former husband pays all of former wife's current and future lawyer fees as she does not have the income nor the resources to continue to pay her legal fees and care for the minor child"--- she started this battle by going to a lawyer, stating she needed a divorce, AFTER their original divorce was finalized in december of 2006
i know this is alot, but he actually feels (and his lawyer has even mentioned) going to small claims court for HIS attorney fees as she is the one who fraudulently opened the case...the original court dates were terminated due to the letter we wrote that included the original divorce papers...and now florida is apparently forcing her and her atty to back track and petition CALIFORNIA to relinquish their hold over child support, since at the time there were no custody proceedings/cases, and their divorce papers actually have "state of california, county of san diego, retains all rights to establishing child support unless they are petiitioned from child's home state of a true and factual custody case"...question for the last sentence is, since california has been made aware (they recieved the same letter that florida did about the divorce and illegally obtained divorce from florida), can they decide to hold out over this matter? (we are hoping not, which is why i ask).....we more than have the money to pay support for 2 children and raise our own.....but we were made aware just the other day, that apparently our lawyer replied to the above "requests" with a "former husband, respondent, *denies* life insurance *denies* lawyer fees, *agrees* to stepped up visitation"....but then the lawyer put that my fiance DENIES that his wife is the one who should support my stepson....we NEVER told our lawyer that!!! so now it appears our lawyer has opened an all out custody battle.....and i'm guessing that since he makes enough money and we have a stable home (she's moved 4 times in 3 years), and that we have a better school district more stability and a solid family (she's been engaged 3 times since they split in jan 2005), and such that there's probably no chance they'd give him an option to "take" custody so to say,they'll just up the child support won't they? they don't really care who can take better care? or has the best chance of promoting visits?(our last convo with her where we talked to my stepson, she told my fiance when we were done that he'd see his son over her dead body and that since he is with me and didnt "want" to find a job/home in florida rather than texas(hey there's oil in them there waters! and money behind it!, he is *choosing* not to "have a son")
ok sry so long go ahead and complain it'd be the best adult convo i've had in over a week