Child Support

[melaniebaker78]

What is the name of your state? GA

I would also like to know what the child support rates are in the state of GA. Since my son's biological father has decided he want to be involved in his life, what kind of financial obligations should he be responsible for? Right now he pays 80.00 every other week and he gets to keep him every other week. I personally think this visitation is too much considering he is not willing to pay any more support. He lives in NC. What should I do so that we can negotiate this outside of the child support system?

 

[SingleMom67]

WHAT???? Your one year old child is going to another state every other week?!?!?!?! Maybe you should back up, keep your posts together, and give us the whole story.

Having said that, any "negotiations" you make outside of the court system aren't enforceable. In other words, daddy doesn't have to pay. Not to mention that daddy doesn't have to bring the baby back to you in GA without a custody order. So file for custody and support through the legal avenues available to you. Also, you can search state child support guidelines using the web.

 

[Crazed98]

What is the name of your state? GA

I would also like to know what the child support rates are in the state of GA. Since my son's biological father has decided he want to be involved in his life, what kind of financial obligations should he be responsible for? Right now he pays 80.00 every other week and he gets to keep him every other week. I personally think this visitation is too much considering he is not willing to pay any more support. He lives in NC. What should I do so that we can negotiate this outside of the child support system?

If he keeps and takes care of the kid every other week why should he pay more money.

 

[melaniebaker78]

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He keeps him every other weekend. (Fri-Sun). Sorry about the mistake. I also would like to know if joint custody would be a good option.

 

[NotSoNew]

do a search for an online child support calculator for your state, with your income and the fathers income that will tell you how much he should be paying. tell him the amount you want and if he doesnt agree take it to court!

 

[nextwife]

Right now he pays 80.00 every other week and he gets to keep him every other week. I personally think this visitation is too much considering he is not willing to pay any more support.

Child support is NOT a ransom to buy time with one's own child. If he physically has the child EOW, he is incurring a significant share of the expense.

 

[betterthanher]

Right now he pays 80.00 every other week and he gets to keep him every other week. I personally think this visitation is too much considering he is not willing to pay any more support. He lives in NC. What should I do so that we can negotiate this outside of the child support system?

You should be ashamed of yourself. What's your financial responsibility in all of this (look at the sheet and tell us)? If you're hurting for cash, then get another job that enables you to support yourself. That's not what child support is for.

 

[mom6399]

Site for Georgia CSE

http://ocse.dhr.georgia.gov/portal/site

You can get a lot of info here.

 

[melaniebaker78]

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Child support is NOT a ransom to buy time with one's own child. If he physically has the child EOW, he is incurring a significant share of the expense.

He is not incurring a significant amount of the expenses because I pay all of the expenses related to my son: medical, clothing, diapers, additional childcare when I work my part-time job. He should be responsible for more because he abandoned his son, not me.

 

[stealth2]

He should pay what the court has ordered. That is all he's legally obligated to. If you feel it's not the correct amount based on his income and the situation falls within the guidelines for a modification, you can file for one. But a judge is unlikely to reduce his visitation because you don't think he pays enough.

 

[melaniebaker78]

You should be ashamed of yourself. What's your financial responsibility in all of this (look at the sheet and tell us)? If you're hurting for cash, then get another job that enables you to support yourself. That's not what child support is for.

I should be ashamed of myself. I have a full-time job, a part-time job, attend school part-time, and am very active in my son's life. Before you spoke, maybe you should have read all of the posts. 80.00, 2 times a month is not sufficient to take care of a toddler. And in case you are not sure what CHILD SUPPORT is, it is support to take care of a child, which means that in order for me to maintain his livelyhood, his father needs to ensure that in the event that I can't take care of finances for my son, that he has money to do so. I have tried to negotiate with him outside of court, but he refuses to get a PT job because he says that he can't find a job that will let him be off every other weekend. Now, he should be ashamed of himself for using such a lame excuse to avoid structured child support.

 

[stealth2]

I should be ashamed of myself. I have a full-time job, a part-time job, attend school part-time, and am very active in my son's life. Before you spoke, maybe you should have read all of the posts. 80.00, 2 times a month is not sufficient to take care of a toddler. And in case you are not sure what CHILD SUPPORT is, it is support to take care of a child, which means that in order for me to maintain his livelyhood, his father needs to ensure that in the event that I can't take care of finances for my son, that he has money to do so. I have tried to negotiate with him outside of court, but he refuses to get a PT job because he says that he can't find a job that will let him be off every other weekend. Now, he should be ashamed of himself for using such a lame excuse to avoid structured child support.

So you haven't filed for support? Oy. Then he's under no obligation to pay ANYTHING. Is there a visitation order?

 

[melaniebaker78]

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So you haven't filed for support? Oy. Then he's under no obligation to pay ANYTHING. Is there a visitation order?

I have recently filed with the courts, but I do have a notarized statement from him concerning support, and he has actually broken that agreement, the 80.00 every other week was a settlement on my part, because he claims he does not work consistently.. I would never deny him visitation because of finances, but I do feel that the arrangement at this time is too much for me financially, because he is not the one that actually picks my son up for the visits, his parents do. They were the ones that suggested I seek advice on cutting back the visitation, I just wanted to hear what others thought, and maybe get an idea of what I should do.

 

[stealth2]

I have recently filed with the courts, but I do have a notarized statement from him concerning support, and he has actually broken that agreement,

That's a totally useless piece of paper and completely unenforceable.

 

[melaniebaker78]

That's a totally useless piece of paper and completely unenforceable.

Ok. I understand that, but at the time I did not know that. I had heard the horror storries of child suport court, where people have said they were better off getting it done one-on-one with written agreements than in the courts. I have tried that route, and it has not worked. So now I am forced to go to the courts. I really appreciate all of the posts that gave me info, the other posts obviously don't understand that this site is meant for information and advice, not for throwing out their personal beliefs, because obviously most of the people who post here have tried alternatives and want to seek advice before they go to another level in there search for resolution.