in1christy
Junior Member
I live in Indiana.
I am not sure if this is the correct forum for these questions?
Wednesday night my husband was helping my 5 yr old with her shower. He used the regular adult soap and got it on her private area. I could here all that went on because he keeps the bathroom door open when he bathes her and the room is right across from the nursery and the monitor was on. Sarah was screaming because the soap burned. She insisted on sitting on the potty with toliet paper and kept rubbing the area. I went upstairs and by that time my husband had run water into the tub in hopes of getting Sarah into the tub to rinse her. Sarah finally got into the tub and I rinsed her really well. She had stopped crying and felt better. I got her ready for bed and she seemed fine.
Thursday morning she had some blood in her underwear. The size of an eraser on a pencil maybe. She was kind of freaked out and I told her it was just from the rubbing she did when the soap hurt her. I said if she saw more blood or it hurt to pee to tell her teacher and tell the nurse and then to have them call me.
She came home Thursday evening and everything was fine. Friday about 3pm I received a phone call from the school stating that DFC had Sarah they gave me the contact phone number for the caseworker and told me to call and she would tell me the next step. The school would not tell me why Sarah was taken by the DFC, they were advised not to by the police.
When I finally met with the caseworker last night at 8pm. This is what I sort of learned. Sarah had told her teacher she had blood in her underwear. She did not have any in her underwear on Friday. She told the nurse that it hurt when she went potty. The nurse asked her if anyone hurt her and Sarah said yes. Well yes Daddy did hurt her with the soap but not in a sexual way. The school nurse did not call home to get the story, but called the police.
From talking with Sarah she asked the school nurse to call me. Just as I had told Sarah.
I still have so many questions floating through my mind. I am also angry. Not only has my daughter had the birth of her baby brother and starting kindergarten, now she was taken by DFC for 4 hours in less than 9 weeks. I feel for my daughter and am angry because I have lost all trust in the school.
I understand the duty to report, and respect it as a social worker and as a citizen. As a social worker I know the importance making sure my assessment is correct before making a report. The nurse clearly did not have all the information and never called home to find out if there was a medical condition going on first, she automatically assumed sexual abuse.
The biggest question is what was Sarah told in order to go with the caseworker. We have educated her that she is not to go with strangers or anyone unless we tell her it is okay.
Another concern is the nursed ability to assess situations. Sarah could have had a UTI or been masturbating and rubbed too hard. The nurse went straight to sexual abuse. I have lost faith in the school nurse and the faith in the school.
We met with the caseworker last night, Sarah was returned home. I will have Sarah be seen by her pediatrician on Monday. The caseworker said she will do a home visit and will need to educate myself and my husband on him giving my daughter baths. Thank God I have a husband who is willing to help with child rearing. Now the caseworker is telling us that he can't do this, does this mean I should not bathe my son. The caseworker also said that Sarah did not know what good touch bad touch is and that she would educate me on that.
Umm.. Let's see I have taught my child about good touch bad touch. Did the caseworker consider that she was afraid and did not understand what she was being asked. The child is five. I feel like I am being treated like an uneducated and uncaring parent.
I feel as if I need to talk with the principal and assistant principal regarding my lack of trust now and the poor assessment of the situation.
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
I am at a loss with where to go.
I am not sure if this is the correct forum for these questions?
Wednesday night my husband was helping my 5 yr old with her shower. He used the regular adult soap and got it on her private area. I could here all that went on because he keeps the bathroom door open when he bathes her and the room is right across from the nursery and the monitor was on. Sarah was screaming because the soap burned. She insisted on sitting on the potty with toliet paper and kept rubbing the area. I went upstairs and by that time my husband had run water into the tub in hopes of getting Sarah into the tub to rinse her. Sarah finally got into the tub and I rinsed her really well. She had stopped crying and felt better. I got her ready for bed and she seemed fine.
Thursday morning she had some blood in her underwear. The size of an eraser on a pencil maybe. She was kind of freaked out and I told her it was just from the rubbing she did when the soap hurt her. I said if she saw more blood or it hurt to pee to tell her teacher and tell the nurse and then to have them call me.
She came home Thursday evening and everything was fine. Friday about 3pm I received a phone call from the school stating that DFC had Sarah they gave me the contact phone number for the caseworker and told me to call and she would tell me the next step. The school would not tell me why Sarah was taken by the DFC, they were advised not to by the police.
When I finally met with the caseworker last night at 8pm. This is what I sort of learned. Sarah had told her teacher she had blood in her underwear. She did not have any in her underwear on Friday. She told the nurse that it hurt when she went potty. The nurse asked her if anyone hurt her and Sarah said yes. Well yes Daddy did hurt her with the soap but not in a sexual way. The school nurse did not call home to get the story, but called the police.
From talking with Sarah she asked the school nurse to call me. Just as I had told Sarah.
I still have so many questions floating through my mind. I am also angry. Not only has my daughter had the birth of her baby brother and starting kindergarten, now she was taken by DFC for 4 hours in less than 9 weeks. I feel for my daughter and am angry because I have lost all trust in the school.
I understand the duty to report, and respect it as a social worker and as a citizen. As a social worker I know the importance making sure my assessment is correct before making a report. The nurse clearly did not have all the information and never called home to find out if there was a medical condition going on first, she automatically assumed sexual abuse.
The biggest question is what was Sarah told in order to go with the caseworker. We have educated her that she is not to go with strangers or anyone unless we tell her it is okay.
Another concern is the nursed ability to assess situations. Sarah could have had a UTI or been masturbating and rubbed too hard. The nurse went straight to sexual abuse. I have lost faith in the school nurse and the faith in the school.
We met with the caseworker last night, Sarah was returned home. I will have Sarah be seen by her pediatrician on Monday. The caseworker said she will do a home visit and will need to educate myself and my husband on him giving my daughter baths. Thank God I have a husband who is willing to help with child rearing. Now the caseworker is telling us that he can't do this, does this mean I should not bathe my son. The caseworker also said that Sarah did not know what good touch bad touch is and that she would educate me on that.
Umm.. Let's see I have taught my child about good touch bad touch. Did the caseworker consider that she was afraid and did not understand what she was being asked. The child is five. I feel like I am being treated like an uneducated and uncaring parent.
I feel as if I need to talk with the principal and assistant principal regarding my lack of trust now and the poor assessment of the situation.
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated.
I am at a loss with where to go.
