Contempt or Crazy

[tigger22472]

Before I got married, we were at a big family gathering and my dad and uncles had the "talk" with my ex when they were outside. You know the one that starts "If you ever lay a hand on her in anger...."? He interrupted my dad before he finished the sentence and swore that he would never do that, but if he did, he was POSITIVE that he could hold his own against a bunch of "old guys". My uncle looked him straight in the eyes with a very serious look on his face and told him, "You don't need to worry about US. She's the one you need to worry about!" Then my dad pointed to a rise out in the field and told him, "You see that small mound out there? That's where we had to bury her FIRST husband after she took a baseball bat to his head."

He was joking about it later and I told him that he knows better than that and that I would NEVER beat anyone to death with a baseball bat. Then I told him that if I ever wanted to kill him, I'd just have my mother bring me an incommunicable fatal pathogen from the containment lab at her hospital. I think that thought is still there in the back of his mind!

That is too funny. It reminds me of what hubby and I have said about his daughter. When she's older and married our joke is that her husband will be calling here saying "Dad, she's ticked, come get her off of me." Well take off and go there and while I'm upstairs reassuring her children that their mommy isn't really going to kill their daddy, he'll be downstairs pulling her off of him, giving him time to escape.

 

[graybeard1952]

I would advise OTHERS to leave the house too. I would probably even send my children to spend the night with the GP's. But I would have a hard time leaving MY home because the ex is making threats.

I would also advise others not to tell the Judge presiding over their case that they don't give a damn what the COURT orders and that they will continue to raise their children as they see fit and that protect them from harm even if it means violating the court order. But I wouldn't necessarily take my own advise on that matter either.

I'm not worried about my ex actually inflicting any physical harm on me or the kids though. The only person he ever threatened to harm was himself and that was just a play for sympathy. I even offered to loan him a garden hose, gun, bullets, pills, poison, sharp knives, etc. I was willing to HELP him in anyway that I could, even though he was being an SOB to me and the kids, but he didn't take me up on the offer.

I knew that if I fell for the "I just wanted to come over and say goodbye because I'm going to kill myself" for even a SECOND, he would just make it a habit to come bang on my door at 3AM so drunk that he couldn't walk the 8 feet from the car to the door without falling down at least twice and I really wasn't in the mood to pick up any new hobbies at the time.

I've talked with the OP through PM's a few times because we live in the same state and our cases are very similar. His ex is a lousy parent and more then a little touched in the head, but I think if she was a real DANGER, the OP would see it before she had a chance to actually act.

I don’t feel physically threatened by her. I just don’t want to have to call the cops again. They have been here maybe 20 times in the past 6 years. I haven’t had to call them for the last 2 of them though. We have moved on and got used to the peace and tranquility of a life without the insanity.

Sometime back I was given her prisoner ID number and it stays with them for the rest of their life. I checked the website and she’s not in jail in Harris County. She does has a record in a county south of here so who knows.

I hope I hear from her before I have to go back to work Monday. My daughters are 11 and 14 and stay home during the summer. Fortunately I work from my home but I am required to go to my customer’s sites for several hours a day. I took Friday off because she said she would be here then.