CP in contempt...

[ceara19]

Go back and reread my post. The FIRST time this woman pulled a disapearing act, he should have hired an attorney to file for a petition of modification. If she could not be found through diligent effort, then most courts would have allowed service by publication. She doesn't show...boom ...instant order for her to return the child to the state...warrant...arrest...child comes home. She is ordered to stay. She leaves again? Then file a petition for custody...same process...Do you see the pattern here. He didn't have the money cause he didn't priortize. period.

He didn't even need to hire an attorney! If they had the money to hire investigators to track her down, they could have used that money to file for a modification or even just contempt for violating the order.

I don't buy the claim that it was almost impossible to track her down either. If he was paying support as the OP claims, the money was going SOMEWHERE! Even though CSE can't directly give out any personal information, all he had to do at ANYTIME over the last 10 YEARS was to request all of the current orders and/or wage assignments in effect or even get a copy from his employer. Every one party to the order will have all of their CURRENT personal info right there on the wage assignment, unless a judge has ordered the information be withheld from each other.

For that matter, he really didn't even NEED her correct address. If his order stated that mom was to give him her correct contact info, he could have used the last known address for the court petitions. The clerk would have cross-referenced it with their information and updated it if it was incorrect in most cases.

Even if he didn't have a clue as to how to go about the process CORRECTLY and had the case tossed, at least he would be able to PROVE he actually made an effort. As it is, it makes it appear as though he didn't even care enough to try. (Before you get your panties in a wad OP, I'm NOT saying he DIDN'T try, only that to a court, that is the way it will LOOK.)

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

Go back and reread my post. The FIRST time this woman pulled a disapearing act, he should have hired an attorney to file for a petition of modification. If she could not be found through diligent effort, then most courts would have allowed service by publication. She doesn't show...boom ...instant order for her to return the child to the state...warrant...arrest...child comes home. She is ordered to stay. She leaves again? Then file a petition for custody...same process...Do you see the pattern here. He didn't have the money cause he didn't priortize. period.

I appreciate your response. Period.

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

Says the woman who is on the internet trying to solve her HUSBAND'S issues with his ex!!!!!!!!!!!! You're obviously the "man" in your marriage
Since you are so rascist against gays, you are apparently insecure about your own sexuality. Does hubby know about that?


And you lie too. Failed miserably in your "I am putting all sarcasms aside now", didn't you?
Stick to your promises.

I put all sarcasms aside for weenor, not you! I'm not racist against gays....just you. I would be willing to bet that not only are you not even married ( who could possibly deal with your better-than-thou attitude ), you probably don't have children ( at least we can all hope that you never procreated ) and the only time you've seen the inside of a courtroom was as a defendant! ( perhaps in a roadrage incedent ).
Have a nice day.

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

He didn't even need to hire an attorney! If they had the money to hire investigators to track her down, they could have used that money to file for a modification or even just contempt for violating the order.

I don't buy the claim that it was almost impossible to track her down either. If he was paying support as the OP claims, the money was going SOMEWHERE! Even though CSE can't directly give out any personal information, all he had to do at ANYTIME over the last 10 YEARS was to request all of the current orders and/or wage assignments in effect or even get a copy from his employer. Every one party to the order will have all of their CURRENT personal info right there on the wage assignment, unless a judge has ordered the information be withheld from each other.

For that matter, he really didn't even NEED her correct address. If his order stated that mom was to give him her correct contact info, he could have used the last known address for the court petitions. The clerk would have cross-referenced it with their information and updated it if it was incorrect in most cases.

Even if he didn't have a clue as to how to go about the process CORRECTLY and had the case tossed, at least he would be able to PROVE he actually made an effort. As it is, it makes it appear as though he didn't even care enough to try. (Before you get your panties in a wad OP, I'm NOT saying he DIDN'T try, only that to a court, that is the way it will LOOK.)

I appreciate your response, long as it may be. The investigations done were by us using a people search engine on the web, they are relatively cheap, just not always correct.

 

[AHA]

I put all sarcasms aside for weenor, not you! I'm not racist against gays....just you. I would be willing to bet that not only are you not even married ( who could possibly deal with your better-than-thou attitude ), you probably don't have children ( at least we can all hope that you never procreated ) and the only time you've seen the inside of a courtroom was as a defendant! ( perhaps in a roadrage incedent ).
Have a nice day.

You're pathetic with your wild assumptions, no wonder hubby's ex wants to keep her kids away from your household.

Good luck to the kids and their mom.

 

[AHA]

Still waiting for the apology BTW, but I guess you proved me right about you. Thank you!

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Where does this poster even find food?

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

You're pathetic with your wild assumptions, no wonder hubby's ex wants to keep her kids away from your household.

Good luck to the kids and their mom.

I'm sure she would appreciate your concern. I know I do.... oh no, there's that sarcasm again.

 

[JThomas]

Whoa who opened up this can of worms?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

The OP is just bitter that her hubby was to lazy to find his kid in 10 years, even though it is obvious they knew , so now she wants to act like an immature child here on FA

 

[stealth2]

Since you are so rascist against gays,

I'm not racist against gays....just you.

Okay - you're both being idiots. It's not possible to be racist against gays. So both of you can go sit in your respective corners until you figure out why. Morons.

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

CP in contempt

The OP is just bitter that her hubby was to lazy to find his kid in 10 years, even though it is obvious they knew , so now she wants to act like an immature child here on FA

I want to thank you for posting this. It took this to make me realize that not only was I acting immature, but my comments were actually hurting my husband...and for that I deeply regret. He loves his son, but unfortunately shooting off my mouth has made it appear otherwise.
To all who have posted a comment or merely viewed my idiotic remarks...and ESPECIALLY TO AHA... I APOLOGIZE.
Thanks to all who answered my original post and with that, I will leave this forum.
Again I apologize.

 

[GriefinGeorgia]

Still waiting for the apology BTW, but I guess you proved me right about you. Thank you!

I apologize for my offensive remarks to you and to everyone else on this forum.