DeadBeat Mom

[Ohiogal]

I think you are mis-understanding what I am saying here, My fiance's son's mother is a dead-beat in the fact that they live in a two bedroom apartment and my soon to be step-son sleeps on the floor of her bedroom on a mat because the other two children have the other room.

No YOU are misunderstanding. She is not a deadbeat.

So when she got her tax returns last year instead of renting a larger place, she got breast implants.

She is allowed. It is her money.

Bought a hummer and that is there only car to get around. So now that she is thinking logically, she is adding more stress on her family by getting pregnant again instead of focusing on her now kids.

She is allowed.

FYI my step-son

FYI NOT your stepson.

said he gets upset at his mom's house because she doesn't spend any time with her and now has to go to a therapist.

Oh. Going to a therapist is NOT a bad thing. If the therapist believed the child was being neglected, abused or endangered the therapist is MANDATED to report.

So for everyone out there I think you have the wrong idea. We are NOT going for sole custody.

YOU are not going for ANYTIHNG.

What we are trying to achieve is 50/50 time here

WRONG. YOU have no standing to get ANYTHING. Your fiance may be asking for 50/50 time but YOU are going to achieve that. YOU do NOT count.

and to find out how much money he is going to have to pay if he takes her to court.

Maybe a lot.

And if the judge is going to take in to account that she can work but isn't... If that judge will put in some amount even though she isn't working.

Florida is a shared income state so therefore mom may very well be imputed.

 

[AHA]

I think you are mis-understanding what I am saying here, My fiance's son's mother is a dead-beat in the fact that they live in a two bedroom apartment and my soon to be step-son sleeps on the floor of her bedroom on a mat because the other two children have the other room. So when she got her tax returns last year instead of renting a larger place, she got breast implants. Bought a hummer and that is there only car to get around. So now that she is thinking logically, she is adding more stress on her family by getting pregnant again instead of focusing on her now kids. FYI my step-son said he gets upset at his mom's house because she doesn't spend any time with her and now has to go to a therapist. So for everyone out there I think you have the wrong idea. We are NOT going for sole custody. What we are trying to achieve is 50/50 time here and to find out how much money he is going to have to pay if he takes her to court. And if the judge is going to take in to account that she can work but isn't... If that judge will put in some amount even though she isn't working.

Look, it smells pretty nasty that daddy hasn't done anything about custody until mommy got pregnant with her new man (is he jealous it's not his baby??), so all the old stuff you listed apparently wasn't bad enough in his opinion.

 

[Isis1]

this thread isn't even about the child. it's about child support and how to get rid of it. so they don't want 50/50 for the well being of the child, only to not pay child support.

all stay at home moms are dead beats?? wow!!

hey, i still want my t-shirt!!!

 

[basylica]

I got myself a be-dazzler and some glitter.....

 

[Proserpina]

I think you are mis-understanding what I am saying here, My fiance's son's mother is a dead-beat in the fact that they live in a two bedroom apartment and my soon to be step-son sleeps on the floor of her bedroom on a mat because the other two children have the other room.

Nobody is misunderstanding you. But you have seriously got to back off. We're not telling you this for fun, because we're mean, because we want to make things difficult - we're telling you this because your overstepping can - seriously - damage Dad's current custody arrangements.

So when she got her tax returns last year instead of renting a larger place, she got breast implants. Bought a hummer and that is there only car to get around. So now that she is thinking logically, she is adding more stress on her family by getting pregnant again instead of focusing on her now kids.

Nothing to do with you OR your fiance. At all.

FYI my step-son said he gets upset at his mom's house because she doesn't spend any time with her and now has to go to a therapist. So for everyone out there I think you have the wrong idea. We are NOT going for sole custody.

That's just as well. YOU wouldn't have a snowball's chance in he11.

(and it's not looking much better for Dad in all honesty)

What we are trying to achieve is 50/50 time here and to find out how much money he is going to have to pay if he takes her to court. And if the judge is going to take in to account that she can work but isn't... If that judge will put in some amount even though she isn't working.

So again, your fiance is weighing up how much more money he'll have to blow if it goes to court versus not going to court.

 

[Ohiogal]

I got myself a be-dazzler and some glitter.....

Dangit. Even I have to admit I like this newbie. Which makes me uneasy. I don't like newbies. That is a personal thing with me. Newbies need to PROVE they are not idiots in order for me to like them. And yet... oh crap.

 

[basylica]

um...I'm sorry?
I married my ex and stayed with him for several years, that makes me as big a idiot as I can fathom at this point

if it makes you feel any better

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Did anyone else get a PM from OP about how wrong they are? Yea it didnt convince me. OP seriously get a clue.

Basylica...lets have a be dazzler party! Everyones invited (wait no just the sane ones) Bring your tshirts and lets get to sprinkling! We can start our own line of shirts

DeadBeat Mom
POS dad
Overbearing granny
Wannabemom

Any more ideas?

 

[Antigone*]

um...I'm sorry?
I married my ex and stayed with him for several years, that makes me as big a idiot as I can fathom at this point

if it makes you feel any better

Basy...

take the complement and keep it...frame it.... encase it .... because something really strange is happening here. Either OG is going softy on us, she is sick, or you're on the up-and-up.

Do you have some lotto numbers I might be interested in playing

 

[Zigner]

Did anyone else get a PM from OP about how wrong they are? Yea it didnt convince me. OP seriously get a clue.

Basylica...lets have a be dazzler party! Everyones invited (wait no just the sane ones) Bring your tshirts and lets get to sprinkling! We can start our own line of shirts

DeadBeat Mom
POS dad
Overbearing granny
Wannabemom

Any more ideas?

I feel really left out

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I feel really left out

Ok fine Zigner is the exception to the "only sane people" rule. Zigner you still come but you gotta bring 2 good ideas for the new clothing line.

 

[basylica]

as long as I can do some kid's shirts that say :
"Mommy's little paycheck"
and "welfare check" to boot.

I mean, I gotta let my kid's be stylish too!
my STBX prefers to call me "psycho b*tch" and "ball busting emasculating B*tch"

can't decide on which I prefer.

 

[Antigone*]

as long as I can do some kid's shirts that say :
"Mommy's little paycheck"
and "welfare check" to boot.

I mean, I gotta let my kid's be stylish too!
my STBX prefers to call me "psycho b*tch" and "ball busting emasculating B*tch"

can't decide on which I prefer.

I like the latter

 

[Proserpina]

Did anyone else get a PM from OP about how wrong they are? Yea it didnt convince me. OP seriously get a clue.

Basylica...lets have a be dazzler party! Everyones invited (wait no just the sane ones) Bring your tshirts and lets get to sprinkling! We can start our own line of shirts

DeadBeat Mom
POS dad
Overbearing granny
Wannabemom

Any more ideas?

You all know that I became a widow when DH (the second, if anyone is keeping track ) died. So with that in mind - and promising that this is NOT meant to offend anyone - this is the slogan a few of us in the bereavement group were thinking about...

"I just cremated my husband and all I got was this lousy t-shirt".

(humour is perhaps the only reason I survived at all. We figured we're allowed our morbid humour if it helps get through it)

(I will delete the post if it's really out of line, k?)

 

[Proserpina]

as long as I can do some kid's shirts that say :
"Mommy's little paycheck"
and "welfare check" to boot.

I mean, I gotta let my kid's be stylish too!
my STBX prefers to call me "psycho b*tch" and "ball busting emasculating B*tch"

can't decide on which I prefer.

You just reminded me of a bumper sticker I saw recently...."My other ride is your daughter".

I'm shutting up now