Discipline of a child

[SLIPPERYSOAP]

I obviously WASN'T called to preach. But it sounds to me like JAR might have been. I totally agree with every word in your post.
Heres an idea: Since digger seems to know the legal ease, and JAR has the right words why don't the two of you get together and help our children. JAR you could woo them with the right words at the right time. Then digger would back you up with law. I don't know the proper steps, but the end result would be to get GOD back in schools. Give kids a choice of weather or not the want to pray in school. Make school rules that hold to biblical principals in school. The answer to all of our school problems, and our behavior problems is Jesus.

 

[TaylorsMom]

baeutiful

that was so nice, I'm going to print it out. Doesn't it seem that our young society today is growing up much faster than we care? Such little things are so forgotten, so easily... can't we all go back to a much easier time? did you know that new zealand and austrsalia (where I've been) is so much more laid back, less stressful, no guns, it's like the 50's...

where have we progressed or (civilized)?
only my opinion,

me.

 

[TaylorsMom]

100% correct

my children too attend a private catholic school, and I am not even catholic! There is NOT ENOUGH a parent can do today for their child, it is "just a diffenrent society" growing up among us. And i am a single mother with two small children with a father who has no concern what so ever. I imagine that if you are a good parent - it will never be enough. You can oonly educate yourself and become as involved as you can, even if you work 6 days a week 8 hours a day, (what else is there in life....besdes your children)?


sincerely, me

 

[JAR]

Slipperysoap, I am very sorry if I have come across to you in a manner that makes you upset. My point to my post was that we as parents have let everyone else make the choices our children live with, and not stood up and made them ourselves. No matter if God is a part of someone's life or not is not the point I was trying to make. That was just an example of how we have chosen to let others make the choices. I do believe in God, I do not attend church and either do my children, but I think the "idea" of some of the things in the bible are very important in a childs upbringing. I don't think it really matters what book it comes out of or who said it to start with as long as someone says it again and makes sure that it is not only heard by our children but inforces that it sticks with our children.

 

[LegalBeagle]

In Germany, they first came for the communists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a communist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.
Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.
Then they came for the Catholics and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Catholic.
Then they came for me -- and by that time there was nobody left to speak up.


Reading this discussion reminded me of the above. Our rights as parents are slowly being striped away until the day comes when the govenment will control every aspect of our decisions.

 

[HumorMe!]

Some times it can't be helped that there is no parent to stay home with the child. Let's not all jump up and down on parents who do have to work now! I had to work (after one of my children was born, in fact, I was back at work with in 3 weeks of the birth) because the father (who is now my EX husband) decided to bail. I was fortunate. I was able to leave the baby with family members.

I intend to go back to work later as well. Why you ask? Because I have been on my own, with no career and no education before. I don't intend for that to happen again. I have 2 children and will probably have 3 before I am working full time and if (God forbid) something should happen to my husband, I will support my family.

New perspective. In Junior High (there was no middle school back then!) I was one of those lonely teased children. I wasn't a loner, but I learned to be. I am an outgoing, extremely people orientated person. (I'm great at customer service jobs!) My home life was awful. I had few friends and they were the outsiders as well. I had poor grades and I was humiliated numerous times by teachers as well. No, I didn't go haywire and shoot everyone. BUT, I did consider suicide AND I ended up in an abusive marriage. Cry for help? No one listened to mine. I have to wonder if these students did ask for help. I have to wonder why children have to fear going to school.

I don't think we can fix the bullying. Not when these same bullies are raising their children to be replicas of themselves. What we can do is provide children with a safety. Someone they can go to. I was lucky. I had been enrolled in martial arts and I called one of the bullies bluff. (Told her that I would be waiting for her at the bike rack as requested. She never showed. Her friends never showed.) I learned not to be afraid unless someone backs up their threats.

I teach my children to be kind to the unfortunate outsiders. Whether or not they will follow through as they get older remains to be seen. There are so many influences on our children, that we can not possibly predict the outcome of our efforts. (For the parents that send their kids to private schools, the bullying was actually worse there!)

There is no miracle cure. Racial prejudice is still alive and rearing its ugly head again and again. Women are still paid less than their male counterparts. Atrocities are being commited the world over and we have no plug for them. The only thing we can really do is change ourselves and to do our d@mnde$t to raise our children to be the best people they can be.

hm

One day a mother was cleaning her son's room, and in the closet she found a S & M magazine. Unsure of how to confront her son, she hid the magazine until his father got home. She showed her husband what she had found while she was cleaning. He looked at the S & M magazine and handed it back to her without a word.

She finally asked him, "Well, what should we do about this?"

He looked back at her hesitantly and said, "Well, I don't think you should spank him."

 

[TaylorsMom]

!!!!!

it would seem that everybody here is a "winner" because we all care, and that would be the closing agruement/bottom line. thank god, there is some sanity left in this world of ours we created