Easiest State for a Father Who Wants to Give Up Paternal Rights

[dannyt]

your bf is not dad

My son is very happy actually. He got the dad of his dreams in my boyfriend. He has never liked my ex who was emotionally abusive to both of us. We're very happy with my boyfriend and just want to be a family, but were just not sure how to go about it. We thought there might have been a simpler process since all parties are in agreement, however, we'll just take the necessary steps. Thank you for all of your advice.

your bf is a legal stranger not dad. even if you marry he will have no rights say or standing when it comes to your son. doesnt matter how he feels about your ex he is the father of your son and he needs to accept that this guy will be part of your son's life if he chooses and your bf has no say in the matter. and if i were you i wouldnt allow your son to call your bf daddy when he is not parental alienation is grounds for a change in custody if dad makes an issue of it

 

[I'mTheFather]

your bf is a legal stranger not dad. even if you marry he will have no rights say or standing when it comes to your son. doesnt matter how he feels about your ex he is the father of your son and he needs to accept that this guy will be part of your son's life if he chooses and your bf has no say in the matter. and if i were you i wouldnt allow your son to call your bf daddy when he is not parental alienation is grounds for a change in custody if dad makes an issue of it

Oh, my!

Pray tell, what does this have to do with this thread?

 

[krawstrong]

If he is for real . . .

My son is very happy actually. He got the dad of his dreams in my boyfriend. He has never liked my ex who was emotionally abusive to both of us. We're very happy with my boyfriend and just want to be a family, but were just not sure how to go about it. We thought there might have been a simpler process since all parties are in agreement, however, we'll just take the necessary steps. Thank you for all of your advice.

From my experience... It is okay to wait on the adoption. If you guys are truly a family, a name won't make a difference. When my husband adopted my son at age 18, it was as if it was just a formality, we were always a family.

My oldest is from my first marriage. My second husband got him when he was three years old. My son thinks of my husband as his father and was adopted on his 18th birthday. My first husband knows that my second husband has been a great dad to my son. We have been married 15 years, when we got in front of the judge for the adoption, he was excited that we waited until my son was 18. He said that if we were a family for that long, and my hubby wanted to adopt a teenager, that was a good thing.

When I look back and see the anxiety I put into wishing for the adoption to be earlier, I see that I wasted that precious time.

Just my humble experienced opinion.