Hi All
My question involves a child custody case from the State of Maryland
My son is currently living with my mother for the past 2+ years. Past 2 summer, I had him going to summer school to keep him active. This summer, I decided to have him spend the summer with his mother since she isn't working and also told me about a summer camp she will register him for. During the whole summer, he barely went to the camp because 1, no one was able to take him 2, his mother is pregnant and couldn't leave due to some medical conditions cause by the pregnancy 3, the boyfriend is too busy. He spends the weekend with him. Although he stays with my mother, I live less than 15 minutes away and visit often throughout the week and also involved with his school such as helping him with his homework and interacting with the school teacher. His mother stays about 45 mins away and stops by every now and then. She doesn't work so I have to provide things such as food and my mother also does. She does Uber every now and then and she has bought food and shoes for him. Fast toward to almost a month ago, the school contacted me to tell me that a transfer was completed to another county where the mother stays. I contacted her and she told me she want him to move with him. She also went over my mother's house and took all his cloths and also asked me for his cloth. Initially, she told me she doesn't have any cloth for him at her house for him to stay during the summer.
My son is 10 and he was staying with his mother almost 3 years ago prior to moving in with my mother. The reason why he was staying with my mother is because I work full time and was also was a student. My mother decided to help out. Prior to him moving out this way, he was staying with him mother for 2 years at an apartment which was under my name. I decided to get them an apartment after I moved on because I didn't want her living with most of her relatives that does drugs, smoke, drink and also being exposed to negativity. After I took my son, I found out she left the apartment with 3 months of unpaid rent. Now I have collection agencies after me. She had lost her job and doing Uber wasn't even to pay her rent and car note.
Thats the history. Now, again the school called about the transfer and she told me she want him back. He doesn't want to live with her. He like the school where he is at now and dont want to move away from his friends. He text me each week about how he want me to come get him and the boyfriend threaten to smash the video game system I bought him if he plays it again.
School starts in about 3 weeks and I will like for him to stay with me. There is no court order at the moment and we were never married. I can pick him up whenever. I contacted few lawyers, however, they can't help much but suggest I should establish child custody through the court system. Another suggest I keep him and dont let her have him for now until I establish court order child custody. Not sure how that is going to work since I have to work and summer school/camps are over with. I am not sure if I can go to the new school and stop the transfer or not. His current school told me they can't do nothing about it.
Little history on her. She abused him when he was 4 or 5 by hitting him in the face with an object and leaving him bloody because he got out of his car seat while she was driving on a suspended tag. . Her explanation was because he was doing too much and she wasn't trying to get pulled over. She doesn't know how to talk to him properly without using foul language towards him or belittle him with words. I had temp custody back then and also restraining order in place. I dropped both less than a month because family talked me into it. We were together for almost 10 years so we both had strong relationship between our families. She supposedly expunged the CPS on her record or was trying to. She dont have a job and Uber is sometimes her only source of income for almost 10 years now. When he is over there, she leaves him home alone or with his older sister and they both dont get along. He will show me scratches from the older sister whenever they are both left alone. She is 15 now. She recently met an undocumented guy. She use to tell people she is concern perhaps he's only with her for marriage so he can get a green card. They just had a baby, 2 car note and insurance, rent and other bills. I am being told she only want my son living with her so she can either ask me for money or claim child support to help cover bills. All this time she haven't had him I have never asked her for a dime.
I just need some help and advice on how to handle this before school starts in less than a month.
Thank you
My question involves a child custody case from the State of Maryland
My son is currently living with my mother for the past 2+ years. Past 2 summer, I had him going to summer school to keep him active. This summer, I decided to have him spend the summer with his mother since she isn't working and also told me about a summer camp she will register him for. During the whole summer, he barely went to the camp because 1, no one was able to take him 2, his mother is pregnant and couldn't leave due to some medical conditions cause by the pregnancy 3, the boyfriend is too busy. He spends the weekend with him. Although he stays with my mother, I live less than 15 minutes away and visit often throughout the week and also involved with his school such as helping him with his homework and interacting with the school teacher. His mother stays about 45 mins away and stops by every now and then. She doesn't work so I have to provide things such as food and my mother also does. She does Uber every now and then and she has bought food and shoes for him. Fast toward to almost a month ago, the school contacted me to tell me that a transfer was completed to another county where the mother stays. I contacted her and she told me she want him to move with him. She also went over my mother's house and took all his cloths and also asked me for his cloth. Initially, she told me she doesn't have any cloth for him at her house for him to stay during the summer.
My son is 10 and he was staying with his mother almost 3 years ago prior to moving in with my mother. The reason why he was staying with my mother is because I work full time and was also was a student. My mother decided to help out. Prior to him moving out this way, he was staying with him mother for 2 years at an apartment which was under my name. I decided to get them an apartment after I moved on because I didn't want her living with most of her relatives that does drugs, smoke, drink and also being exposed to negativity. After I took my son, I found out she left the apartment with 3 months of unpaid rent. Now I have collection agencies after me. She had lost her job and doing Uber wasn't even to pay her rent and car note.
Thats the history. Now, again the school called about the transfer and she told me she want him back. He doesn't want to live with her. He like the school where he is at now and dont want to move away from his friends. He text me each week about how he want me to come get him and the boyfriend threaten to smash the video game system I bought him if he plays it again.
School starts in about 3 weeks and I will like for him to stay with me. There is no court order at the moment and we were never married. I can pick him up whenever. I contacted few lawyers, however, they can't help much but suggest I should establish child custody through the court system. Another suggest I keep him and dont let her have him for now until I establish court order child custody. Not sure how that is going to work since I have to work and summer school/camps are over with. I am not sure if I can go to the new school and stop the transfer or not. His current school told me they can't do nothing about it.
Little history on her. She abused him when he was 4 or 5 by hitting him in the face with an object and leaving him bloody because he got out of his car seat while she was driving on a suspended tag. . Her explanation was because he was doing too much and she wasn't trying to get pulled over. She doesn't know how to talk to him properly without using foul language towards him or belittle him with words. I had temp custody back then and also restraining order in place. I dropped both less than a month because family talked me into it. We were together for almost 10 years so we both had strong relationship between our families. She supposedly expunged the CPS on her record or was trying to. She dont have a job and Uber is sometimes her only source of income for almost 10 years now. When he is over there, she leaves him home alone or with his older sister and they both dont get along. He will show me scratches from the older sister whenever they are both left alone. She is 15 now. She recently met an undocumented guy. She use to tell people she is concern perhaps he's only with her for marriage so he can get a green card. They just had a baby, 2 car note and insurance, rent and other bills. I am being told she only want my son living with her so she can either ask me for money or claim child support to help cover bills. All this time she haven't had him I have never asked her for a dime.
I just need some help and advice on how to handle this before school starts in less than a month.
Thank you
