Ex Moving out of State, want to keep my child here

[Indiana Filer]

I see the term mommy as a loving mother figure, the same way adoptive parents do..

But the difference is that adoptive parents are THE parents of the child. They are as much the parents of their children as I am the parent of a child to whom I gave birth. Step parents are legal strangers.

 

[Ohiogal]

Sorry about BM issue, I recall that being a common initial in the past. BM = Birth Mother/Mom

NOT

bowel movement lol

Using mom seems ambiguous since my son calls my wife mom as well, but I digress. Rules are rules and my OP has been fixed.

and to answer CJane, the move is to Jersey or something. It's across the USA. Mother is basically taking a huge leap of faith by moving somewhere that far and starting a business. I have been with ex for a while and there is no known family there, strictly business opportunity.

great. You have just lost based on parental alienation. Lets get something straight -- your wife is NOT mom. NEVER will be mom. The child has ONE mother and your wife is not mom. She may be your screw, bedmate, partner, toy, or a million other things but she is NOT mom.

 

[Ohiogal]

it would suck.

I dont see it a big problem though, and here's my reasoning:

You are a narrow minded, parental alienating hypocrite?

Step mom is "mommy" to my son.

NO, she is not. SHe is NOT mommy. She is your screw and a cheap saturday night date but she is NOT mommy.

He's an innocent child and can call her that.

And you should NOT be allowing him to do that because she is NOT mommy. You should be correcting him. SHE is only your lover/betrothed/and a million other things but she is not mommy. If you want her to be mommy IMPREGNATE her.

She does everything a "mommy" does, granted that she is not her "mother". She's a mommy figure to my son. She accepts him in every way and does everything a mommy does. Cooks, cleans after him, financial, and love support. My son treats her like a mommy as well.

You are a narrow minded twit. SHE Is NOT mommy. She can be a mommy figure but she should NEVER be called mommy. END of story.

He's very attached to her to him, it's his mommy as well. I see it no different than adoptive parents. Kids call their adoptive parents "mommy" and "daddy". My wife is not legally his mother, but I can say that she's been him mommy more than his mother.

Say it to the judge. Go ahead. I DARE you.

She also spends more time with my son than actual mommy. In that regards, she IS mommy and I have no problems with my son calling her mommy.

Hope you have no problems when you lose custody completely due to your stupidity.

You've awaken me on the politically correct addressing of "mommy" when it comes to anything legal, and I'll take note, but as for my private life, I have no problem with my son calling his step-mom mommy.

Judges do. Mediators do. The LAW does. Guess what? You are involved with the courts and they most certainly do care. Enough that parents lose custody over stunts like this. So don't have a problem with it. And definitely don't have a problem when mom gets full custody and leaves you in the smoke with your new "mommy".