stepconcern
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
I have a stepson who is 14 years old. In May of 2009 he raped his half-brother while on visitation at his mother's house. He was found guilty and is currently living at a residential treatment facility. My husband (his father) and his exwife shared custody with my husband being the residential parent. Because of the circumstance he has been placed under temporary custody of the state. This means that children's service acts as his guardian right now. His mother just recently expressed that she intends to have him live with her when he is done with treatment; and unfortunately our children's service case worker seems to love her. We don't want him to live with her. Her only motivation for being residential custodian is that she wants the child support. I want to lay out both households and get some advice as to what the outcome may look like.
She has been married twice and has a child from each marriage (the 14 year old, and the 7 year old he raped). She has lived with many men over the past five years, but has been living with her current boyfriend for the past three years. They also share a daughter who is 18 months old. The guy she is currently with is in jail on mortgage fraud charges; although he will probably be out by the time we go to court. She had a documented drug problem which she admits to and is going to AA meetings for. She has no job and hasn't held one longer than 4 months in the past 6 years. She is on food stamps, government healthcare, and cash assistance. With the exception of the past 3 months (when she knew custody was a possibility) she hasn't paid child support in 4 years. She has never paid half of anything including his medical bills which have been extensive. His behavior is horrible at her house and she regularly called my husband to come and deal with their son. There are very few rules and responsibilities at her house and he is given just about everything he wants from cell phones to laptops to free reign over the neighborhood and community.
My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We have four other children ranging in age from 3 to 7 years old. My husband has always been employed and is a teacher. I have my bachelor's degree and am a stay at home mom. We are a Christian family with very high expectations of our children both morally and with regard to their responsibilities. My stepson is not very well behaved but better with us than his mother. The big issue is that he and I tend to butt heads. He doesn't like rules and expectations, which in turn means he doesn't like me. His mother will certainly play up the fact the he and I don't always get along.
Behind our backs his mother has been discussing his coming to live with her. She is a master manipulator and given the way her house is run it doesn't surprise me that he would want to live there. SO....my question is does she have a chance???? Like I said our case worker loves her. She can manipulate people like no one else I have ever met. Would a judge be so easily tricked? Or am I crazy to think he shouldn't live there? She does love him, but her motivation is money, not what is best for her son. HELP ME!!!!! Do we have a case????
I have a stepson who is 14 years old. In May of 2009 he raped his half-brother while on visitation at his mother's house. He was found guilty and is currently living at a residential treatment facility. My husband (his father) and his exwife shared custody with my husband being the residential parent. Because of the circumstance he has been placed under temporary custody of the state. This means that children's service acts as his guardian right now. His mother just recently expressed that she intends to have him live with her when he is done with treatment; and unfortunately our children's service case worker seems to love her. We don't want him to live with her. Her only motivation for being residential custodian is that she wants the child support. I want to lay out both households and get some advice as to what the outcome may look like.
She has been married twice and has a child from each marriage (the 14 year old, and the 7 year old he raped). She has lived with many men over the past five years, but has been living with her current boyfriend for the past three years. They also share a daughter who is 18 months old. The guy she is currently with is in jail on mortgage fraud charges; although he will probably be out by the time we go to court. She had a documented drug problem which she admits to and is going to AA meetings for. She has no job and hasn't held one longer than 4 months in the past 6 years. She is on food stamps, government healthcare, and cash assistance. With the exception of the past 3 months (when she knew custody was a possibility) she hasn't paid child support in 4 years. She has never paid half of anything including his medical bills which have been extensive. His behavior is horrible at her house and she regularly called my husband to come and deal with their son. There are very few rules and responsibilities at her house and he is given just about everything he wants from cell phones to laptops to free reign over the neighborhood and community.
My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We have four other children ranging in age from 3 to 7 years old. My husband has always been employed and is a teacher. I have my bachelor's degree and am a stay at home mom. We are a Christian family with very high expectations of our children both morally and with regard to their responsibilities. My stepson is not very well behaved but better with us than his mother. The big issue is that he and I tend to butt heads. He doesn't like rules and expectations, which in turn means he doesn't like me. His mother will certainly play up the fact the he and I don't always get along.
Behind our backs his mother has been discussing his coming to live with her. She is a master manipulator and given the way her house is run it doesn't surprise me that he would want to live there. SO....my question is does she have a chance???? Like I said our case worker loves her. She can manipulate people like no one else I have ever met. Would a judge be so easily tricked? Or am I crazy to think he shouldn't live there? She does love him, but her motivation is money, not what is best for her son. HELP ME!!!!! Do we have a case????
Won't the 7yo still be there or has he been removed?
