Getting custody of a grandson in fostercare

[CJane]

Because I got distracted by Grandma's House's blatant disregard for reality... I'll answer your questions.

1.) What are my rights as a grandparent?

Generally, Grandparents have no special rights to their Grandchildren. California, in particular has very limited options for grandparents. Google Troxel v Granville for info.

2.) Since my grandson is living with the step sister of his mother, do I have a chance to adopt him or does she have more rights to adopt him before myself, since he has been living with her for several months already?

An adoption will not be possible without either the consent of both parents OR the involuntary termination of both parents' rights to the child. That is a HUGE deal and unlikely unless both can be proven to be seriously unfit.

Your options at this point actually rest quite strongly on what sort of relationship you have with the child and whether or not you can prove that where he is currently is damaging to him.

You'll also be expected to answer for why you didn't step forward until now.

3.) Whom should I contact to get help from, an attorney or their states CPS department?

An attorney should be #1 on the list. A financial advisor should be #2 because this would NOT be cheap. CPS should be contacted, but they're not going to help YOU... they're there for the child.

 

[Grandma's house]

Do you understand how foster care works? The parents are given a chance to complete a caseplan and get custody back. If the state moves for permanent custody and the stepaunt wants custody, she will have a good chance if the child is bonded to her. Which is likely that the child will be bonded.




I never slammed grandma (is the OP a female?) but I said that there were questions that the grandparent would have to answer. Unless the grandparent can answer those questions it will be an extremely tough battle.



No. I have not determined what is in the best interest of the child. I have stated what the courts look at.


I did not say that she had NO chance. Again do we even know if the OP is female? I don't. However using your terms i never said that the grandparent had NO chance. What I stated was that there were obstacles and grandparent needed an attorney.



I told grandparent to get an attorney. End of story.





Where did I say that the grandparent shouldn't petition for custody? Oh yeah. I did not. I said there were obstacles. It is called reality.




I never made a decision about this case. EVER. I pointed out problems. But I will say this, if you ever assume you know who I am and give out information purporting to be my contact information we are going to have issues. I do NOT give my personal information out on here. Nor do I introduce myself as Ohiogal in public. So do NOT purport to send what you ASSUME is my personal information to anyone referring them to me. I do NOT troll this site for clients and I am NOT about to start. And once more, I DO NOT HANDLE ADOPTIONS contrary to what you apparently told ChildrenRUs and what ChildrenRUs posted on another thread.

I only know what we both figured out...we are in the same neck of the woods. Nothing more...and any guesses are just silly. So don't fret this. No one said they KNEW who you were for certain and frankly I don't care...not to be sounding rude...but I don't care.

 

[stealth2]

When a dad comes on here saying "my child" do you say "and you know this how?" When a grand parent comes on saying my grand child you say "and you know this how?" Come on...how obviously blatant is this to use...to say I am wrong?

Okay, "brilliant" one. Let me type this rilly, rilly slooooooooooooooowly for you. Okay? OP never said if s/he was male or female. Therefore, you can't ASSUME she's grandma.

Now, serious;y - crawl back into your little house and zip the lip.

 

[CJane]

Okay, "brilliant" one. Let me type this rilly, rilly slooooooooooooooowly for you. Okay? OP never said if s/he was male or female. Therefore, you can't ASSUME she's grandma.

Now, serious;y - crawl back into your little house and zip the lip.

What's funny is that when a guy says "I know this is my child" we DO ABSOLUTELY ask him if he's LEGALLY the child's father and if he KNOWS he's the child's father.

 

[stealth2]

again...while trying so very hard to say I am wrong...even to the point of establishing paternity of a grandmother...(that OF COURSE is assumed she is) as the many fathers are as well. Next thing you will be saying 'and you know this how' regarding a mother. lol

Show me one thing I said that could POSSIBLY cause this O.P. "trouble" and show me ONE thing you said to help HER or advice her at all what so ever? The obvious and only reason you came on here was because you saw I had. This is stalking in and of itself! Show me anything else it was.

I am sorry O.P. because I do have good advice especially in this matter. I've been down this road.

Do you even realize how stupid the bolded statement is?

 

[Grandma's house]

The VERY upside to this handful picking on me...stalking and find me so intriguing??? IS YOU aren't doing to others.

 

[CJane]

Oh come on! I WANT to see a grandparent file to establish their paternity. Really I do.

Of course, I also want Grandma's house to just freaking ADMIT that HER situation is NOT a 'mirror' of EVERY OTHER grandparent's situation. Not even close.

 

[stealth2]

The VERY upside to this handful picking on me...stalking and find me so intriguing??? IS YOU aren't doing to others.

Other people aren't perpetually making inaccurate, ignorant and moronic statements. YOU are.

A grandMOTHER can never establish ANY kind of paternity. Do you know what *paternity* means?

 

[Grandma's house]

Other people aren't perpetually making inaccurate, ignorant and moronic statements. YOU are.
A grandMOTHER can never establish ANY kind of paternity. Do you know what *paternity* means?

OH THIS...THIS IS JUST TOO MUCH FUN...GO TO THREAD CALLED: GRAND CHILD! IN GRAND PARENT SECTION ALREADY...JUST TODAY LOL
AND GO TO THREAD #24...AND REMEMBER...MORONIC STATEMENT YOU SAID RIGHT??? GUESS WHO I LEARNED IT FROM???p

QUOTED JUST TODAY FROM GRAND CHILD #24...They could determine paternity of the child via grandparent's too ya know... and those are wicked expensive

 

[CJane]

They could determine paternity of the child via grandparent's too ya know... and those are wicked expensive

even to the point of establishing paternity of a grandmother

OH MY GAWD!!!!!

You really are an idiot, aren't you? I mean, I was TRYING to give you the benefit of the doubt and hope that you were just an incurable flake. Turns out I should have gone w/my original assessment that you're too stupid for words.

Paternity can be established via GRANDPARENT DNA. You CANNOT establish the PATERNITY OF A GRANDMOTHER unless you're trying to determine who HER father is.

 

[flounder]

Grandson's in CPS Custody

Thank you for replying to my post. I just have a couple more questions.
1.) If the parents rights are taken away, will CPS notify me before letting anyone else adopt my grandson?
2.) The reason I haven't stepped forward until now, is because my son and his ex girlfreind where taking classes to try to get my grandson back. Since I live in California I knew they wouldn't beable to see him since it was so far away and with it being a different state I thought I had no chance anyways.
3.) I've been told that after the child is in CPS custody for 1 yr or more, that they can termenate the parents rights if they haven't tried to get their child back. Is that true?
4.) I guess I'm just asking, What I should do? If it's a loosing battle I wouldn't want to put my grandson through anymore than he has been in. I just want to beable to be in contact with him. Thank you again and I greatly apprecitate your advice.