Got a response to my proposal

[ProSeDadinMD]

I am still incredibly interested in what that "huge difference" is?? What the he11, do they think that you have to have specific plans and an itinerary for your time with your child to matter? Does mom have every minute of their time together planned? What is wrong with just hanging with your kid, talking, walking, swinging, whatever???

fair, I am thinking that ...she ... has some subjective idea in her head of how I should spend my time with our daughter.

Ok, I have a little better response to her. How's this?

********,
I appreciate your response. However, you seem insistent on refusing to discuss any other options until I have agreed to "remove the Wednesday overnight". You have not provided me with the information that I have requested with regards to a valid reason for ****** and I to lose our midweek visitation. Without that, I still don't see how that would be in ******'s best interest with regards to her maintaining a meaningful relationship with me. Once you have forwarded this information to me, I will reconsider a change from the current overnight schedule. In view of the fact that you seem unwilling to forward this information, I am forced to conclude that either you are making a conscious effort to keep pertinent information about our daughter from me, or that no such evidence exists. Please let me know your position on this.

Too much?

 

[Lucyof3]

You know...she really irratates me, and I've only read one post! she needs to get with the program.

If I were you, I'd be tempted to NOT reply at all, or simply state that there hasn't be any change regarding daughter's scholastic achievement that you've been made aware of, and you're more than capable of doing 2nd grade homework. I'm just a tad ticked at her .

Good luck!

 

[fairisfair]

fair, I am thinking that ...she ... has some subjective idea in her head of how I should spend my time with our daughter.

Ok, I have a little better response to her. How's this?

Too much?

honestly, I think yes, too much. Mom has no right, nor does her attorney, to designate how you should spend your time with your daughter. I have a very hard time believing that a judge is going to require you to have planned events and vacations (where you "actually go somewhere" not just hang around the house) in order for you to receive the proper visitation. IMHO, I would just say, I am not willing to give up any parenting time with "little Miss Pro Se" I feel that our relationship is benefited by every minute that we spend together. I am willing to work with you on any issue, so long as it does not result in the loss of any of my time with Little Miss Pro Se. I feel that the proposal that I have presented is fair and in accordance with the standard parenting plans in our state. If we are unable to come to an agreement, then I stand ready to present my case in court and to allow a judge to make an equitable decision on our behalf. It is my hope that we can agree to act in the benefit of our child, without innecessary intervention and I can assure you that is my intention.

I would much rather have something like that out there than a letter that is somewhat accusatory in nature.

But remember, I am not an attorney and that is MHO. (although I am a pro se "winner") Yahoo!!!!

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

...Little Miss Pro Se...

Thanks, I needed that laugh...

honestly, I think yes, too much. Mom has no right, nor does her attorney, to designate how you should spend your time with your daughter. I have a very hard time believing that a judge is going to require you to have planned events and vacations (where you "actually go somewhere" not just hang around the house) in order for you to receive the proper visitation. IMHO, I would just say, I am not willing to give up any parenting time with "little Miss Pro Se" I feel that our relationship is benefited by every minute that we spend together. I am willing to work with you on any issue, so long as it does not result in the loss of any of my time with Little Miss Pro Se. I feel that the proposal that I have presented is fair and in accordance with the standard parenting plans in our state. If we are unable to come to an agreement, then I stand ready to present my case in court and to allow a judge to make an equitable decision on our behalf. It is my hope that we can agree to act in the benefit of our child, without innecessary intervention and I can assure you that is my intention.

I would much rather have something like that out there than a letter that is somewhat accusatory in nature.

But remember, I am not an attorney and that is MHO. (although I am a pro se "winner") Yahoo!!!!

While yes, I do agree that my response is "somewhat accusatory", I have added a line at the end stating that:

Again, if you have such evidence, please allow me review it so that we may both make an informed decision regarding what is in ******'s best interest.

I know ...her ... well enough to know that she feels that she is the only one qualified to determine what is in our daughters best interest. As I've stated before, Wednesdays were not an issue at all untill I petitioned to have vacation and holidays added to our current order. Although she would never admit it, ...she ... would really like me to just send her money and go away...

Not gonna happen.

 

[fairisfair]

Thanks, I needed that laugh...

While yes, I do agree that my response is "somewhat accusatory", I have added a line at the end stating that:

I know ...her ... well enough to know that she feels that she is the only one qualified to determine what is in our daughters best interest. As I've stated before, Wednesdays were not an issue at all untill I petitioned to have vacation and holidays added to our current order. Although she would never admit it, ...she ... would really like me to just send her money and go away...

Not gonna happen.

Well, heck, even I would like you to just send me money, and go away!! LOL (well maybe not go away, but if the two go together )

You are the only one that can decide how and what to say, just remember that your letter could be pulled out of a file and put in front of the judge. You want to ALWAYS appear that your ONLY motive is your child's best interest. Not a control battle with your ex. Not over homework, not over days, not over anything. Just speaking from personal experience. I drafted a couple of things like that in my custody/visitation battle and I thank God, and OhioGal, and Silverplum and SeniorJ, and a few others I may have forgotten to mention, that I NEVER sent or filed anything with an ounce of anger towards my ex in it.