guardianship case w/ grandmother

[Just Blue]

I moved to my mother's beginning of May and by the end of month she kicked me out which forces me to live with the guy I'm dating. I've been here since memorial wknd

So you have only know him since May of this year?

 

[ashlee30]

no he doesn't. he is diagnosed with Oppositional defiance disorder and ADHD

 

[ashlee30]

yes

 

[Just Blue]

Met him memorial weekend and that is when I was kicked out of her house

Please understand, I don't say this to be judgmental or mean...but do you truly think a Judge would transfer guardianship of your son to a man you've known less than 5 months? That you met and moved in with on the same weekend? Does that like it would be in the best interest of a child?

 

[ashlee30]

all i have to do to gain custody back is have 6 mos with no run ins with the law, 6 mos stable housing and 6 mos stable employment

 

[ashlee30]

its my only other option i have no other family that will take him everyone is out of my life. I know its soon since we have only bee together since may but in all honesty that is my only option in order to get him out from my mom in which my son has claimed that he doesn't want to be with anymore.

 

[ashlee30]

i mean what rights as mother do I have since they were never termed? i feel like my mother has taken all my rights.

 

[Just Blue]

its my only other option i have no other family that will take him everyone is out of my life. I know its soon since we have only bee together since may but in all honesty that is my only option in order to get him out from my mom in which my son has claimed that he doesn't want to be with anymore.

It's a slim to none chance that a Judge would go for that...and slim left the building. You live with him for 1 thing, your child is special needs and doesn't need to be bounced over to a strange mans home.

Honestly, you should be focusing on getting housing that doesn't have a boyfriend in it and therapy to help you understand why you are making such terrible life choices. You knowingly dated a man that manufactured child porn (and judging by his time served he likely did it more than once)...and seem upset because a co-worker reported you. Most everyone would report that...having a child pornographer around your young child is not good parenting. To say the least.

The judge will likely order your mother to stay put and order supervised visitation for you until you complete your case plan. Your focus should be on your own housing (no live in), therapy and gainful employment that will allow you to support your child. Parenting classes would be a good idea as well.

 

[ashlee30]

im in therapy every week and have already completed parenting and PEG classes.. I cant afford to live on my own yet Im trying to get stabilized by living here with bf and working fulltime that is all that is required of me..

 

[Just Blue]

i mean what rights as mother do I have since they were never termed? i feel like my mother has taken all my rights.

You have the right to get court ordered visits and complete your case plan...when that is done the court (if satisfied with your progress) may give you custody back.

Many of your abilities to parent your child as you wish YOU threw away because you placed your child in danger. You have to earn the trust of the court back.

 

[ashlee30]

my son wasn't around that bf. that is why I left him home alone so he wouldn't be around him but I have learned to not leave him alone and I am not currently with that person anymore...

 

[ashlee30]

those are the only things judge ordered me to do since I have been in counseling and am continuing it, as well as completed the parenting and PEG classes. because I knew they would want them done.

 

[Just Blue]

im in therapy every week and have already completed parenting and PEG classes.. I cant afford to live on my own yet Im trying to get stabilized by living here with bf and working fulltime that is all that is required of me..

For your son's sake you should do more that the minimum requirements. Find a better paying job...start college classes to improve yourself and your earning potential so you never need to move in with a random man again.

Keep in mind that your son, when he is back with you, will add a lot of stress to your relationship. A teen boy with ODD and ADD is more than a handful. Even if your BF was the father of this boy it would add huge stress.

 

[Just Blue]

my son wasn't around that bf. that is why I left him home alone so he wouldn't be around him but I have learned to not leave him alone and I am not currently with that person anymore...

I....don't even know what to say to that^^.

 

[Just Blue]

those are the only things judge ordered me to do since I have been in counseling and am continuing it, as well as completed the parenting and PEG classes. because I knew they would want them done.

One of the site volunteers is a vetted Attorney/Guardian Ad Litem...I will ask her to take a look at your thread and advise you. It likely won't be till sometime tomorrow afternoon till she responds.