Help! I think my friend is putting her husband's custody in jeopardy!

[not2cleverRed]

Not to mention, if these kids aren't already in therapy, they need to be.

And daddy should pay for every last penny of it ON TOP OF child support.

Because I can't imagine this being a healthy thing for these kids.

Another thing: you don't have to defriend. Just hide her updates, so that you're only exposed to them when properly prepared.

If water seeks it's own level, then the father must be really a gem.

 

[Ohiogal]

Several of you expressed the opinion that I put a bug in mom's ear about some of this stuff. At the time I didn't do so, only because I don't KNOW mom; and these folks live in another state entirely.

This week things have become worse, though. Stepmom has started cutting and pasting entire e-mails between mom and dad. She wasn't cc'd on the e-mails, but apparently her DH lets her read them. She is not deleting mom's name or e-mail address, so now it's out there.

The allegations and slander have been getting worse and worse. Yesterday, she posted that her DH had lied to mom about whether he'd be home for an overnight last weekend; stayed there for drop off and then left on a camping trip. SM had them over night. She admitted that because her SK's were "miserable lying beasts" and wouldn't "confess" to whether or not they were spying on her for mom, they had to go to there rooms without food for 24 hours. I was shocked, but e-mailed her saying "surely you must be exaggerating", but she replied that she absolutely had NOT been, and didn't see how it was any worse than the fasting her parents had HER do as a girl for religious reasons.

Am I meddling or overstepping to anonymously let mom know now? I'd like to do so. If not, I will call CPS. Just trying to find out whether hearing it via Facebook and e-mail is too much "hearsay" (I did save a screenshot) for CPS, or if this is simply a different, poor, but acceptable variation in parenting methods.

Print out the pages where she says she starved the children and what not -- email mom AND call CPS. Also call the police. This woman needs arrested. What she is doing is NOT parenting methods or acceptable -- it is abuse/neglect.

 

[Ohiogal]

I wish it were like you're suggesting, but I'm sure. We've e-mailed outside of Facebook regarding these things, and we've also talked on the phone about it.

Time to talk to mom and offer to testify. If stepmom is brought into testify then YOU can be brought in to impeach or prove what a abusive psychotic llama she is.

 

[Just Blue]

Print out the pages where she says she starved the children and what not -- email mom AND call CPS. Also call the police. This woman needs arrested. What she is doing is NOT parenting methods or acceptable -- it is abuse/neglect.

I totally agree...and Local...If you have second thoughts regarding this, consider the bizarre insanity your friend is displaying...I wouldn't be surprised if she really goes off the deep end one day and kills these children. For their safety PLEASE report this.

 

[LocalRocket]

Thanks all.

It's 4am my time, and I've been up losing sleep over this. I'm glad I checked back. I'll be alerting mom and CPS today. I will offer to testify. Should that happen, I'm not sure what I would do though. I'm in OR and they are in CO. Could I ask either side to reimburse the expense? I'd do it regardless for the kids, but the travel and potential loss of work make me a bit nervous. Does someone testifying have to stay more than the one day?

 

[LdiJ]

I totally agree...and Local...If you have second thoughts regarding this, consider the bizarre insanity your friend is displaying...I wouldn't be surprised if she really goes off the deep end one day and kills these children. For their safety PLEASE report this.

I agree. Stepmom is clearly dangerous.

 

[Ohiogal]

Thanks all.

It's 4am my time, and I've been up losing sleep over this. I'm glad I checked back. I'll be alerting mom and CPS today. I will offer to testify. Should that happen, I'm not sure what I would do though. I'm in OR and they are in CO. Could I ask either side to reimburse the expense? I'd do it regardless for the kids, but the travel and potential loss of work make me a bit nervous. Does someone testifying have to stay more than the one day?

When you SUBPOENA someone from out of state you are responsible for paying them an amount for travel as spelled out in the rules. Make them subpoena you according to the rules.

 

[kimberlywrites]

PLEASE make those calls and keep us posted.