House Fire 9 Years Ago!

[Ohiogal]

Again thank you. I have taken your advice, and as I can sum it up, is yes I am still responsible for this debt. So then, since the past due electric bill was in my name, but as it was in use when we were married, does he have to pay for half of that too? I accept the responsiblity that I should pay for my half of the bills. But I don't want him coming back on me for this if I can help it. If I have to I will go to my lawyer again, I just don't want more of a debt there, if I can help it. But I end up paying for it all, or I'm affraid I'll lose my business because of it. Then where am I if I lose my business? He doesn't pay child support. Tells me that if I sue him for child support, then he will leave and no one will find him. I end up paying the childrens bills without him paying his half. And then I have to take him to court, just to do it all over again. Then I'm out more money that I don't have. He has yet to make one payment on anything. I have taken care of my half of the childrens bills, but he hasn't made one effort to try on his part. And now they are coming after me to pay the rest.

A few questions:
1) How much is the past due electric bill? Was that listed and admitted in the debts and assets of the marriage to the court?
2) How much is the judgment for the house fire?
3) Is there a child support order?
4) Did you send him the bills for the children's medical?
5) If not, why not?
If so, sue him for contempt if the court order requires he pay half. If you don't want to do that, that is on you.

 

[Sunflowerchild]

A few questions:
1) How much is the past due electric bill? Was that listed and admitted in the debts and assets of the marriage to the court?
2) How much is the judgment for the house fire?
3) Is there a child support order?
4) Did you send him the bills for the children's medical?
5) If not, why not?
If so, sue him for contempt if the court order requires he pay half. If you don't want to do that, that is on you.

1)Over $800.00, now less since I've paid on it. It was brought up to the my lawyer, but he forgot to add it in.

2) $22,000

3) No, because he agreed to pay for the past bills in his name, and half of the childrens.

4) The places, as in Dr's. office, eye glass dr. office, ect. are sent to both me and him. The others I make copies of and hand them to him.

 

[ecmst12]

A 22 THOUSAND dollar debt that you all just "forgot" to account for in the divorce? Anyone else find that a little hard to believe?

 

[Ohiogal]

A 22 THOUSAND dollar debt that you all just "forgot" to account for in the divorce? Anyone else find that a little hard to believe?

She is griping about $800 but wants to avoid the $22k and her portion of it? OP you can re-open the divorce to put BOTH of those debts in. You will owe $11,400 of those two debts. As for the bills, how do you know the doctors are sending bills to BOTH of you? YOU should be sending him copies of all medical bills for which you expect payment in order to make sure he gets them. Most billing departments are NOT going to send to both parents.
You can't gripe about him paying no child support when there is no order due to your agreement. You also can't gripe about him not paying the doctor's bills when you are not ensuring that he has received them all AND you have done nothing to enforce the order.

 

[LdiJ]

She is griping about $800 but wants to avoid the $22k and her portion of it? OP you can re-open the divorce to put BOTH of those debts in. You will owe $11,400 of those two debts. As for the bills, how do you know the doctors are sending bills to BOTH of you? YOU should be sending him copies of all medical bills for which you expect payment in order to make sure he gets them. Most billing departments are NOT going to send to both parents.
You can't gripe about him paying no child support when there is no order due to your agreement. You also can't gripe about him not paying the doctor's bills when you are not ensuring that he has received them all AND you have done nothing to enforce the order.

While HER re-opening the divorce might be the fair thing to do, I doubt that is what an attorney of her own would advise her to do. I suspect that any attorney she would retain would be advising her to wait and see what her ex does.

 

[Sunflowerchild]

A 22 THOUSAND dollar debt that you all just "forgot" to account for in the divorce? Anyone else find that a little hard to believe?

It has been 9 years, almost 10 and after the 1st year, we never heard anything more about. We had talked to the owner about it. He told us he sold the property for $1,000. And that was about a month after the fire. So yes, I honestly didn't think of it, until it was too late. That is my fault and I know it. But I am HUMAN. Now I'm just asking, can they take my business? But since no one obviously knows that answer, I'll just go find someone who might know something.

 

[Ohiogal]

I also accept the fact I have to pay half. That is fine, and yes I know there is a big difference between $800.00 and $22,00...DUH! My point is if I pay for half of that, because it was acquired through marraige, then shouldn't he have to do the same. The only reason he is paying on the $22,000 debt, is because they found him and garnished his check. Otherwise do you think he'd pay a dang dime? No! And yes I know he has gotten the bills from the dr. because he called me and let me know he couldn't pay it. I've tried to work it out with him, he fights me every step of the way. I ask a simple question, and get nothing

And yet in 9, 10, years you have not paid a DIME. Which makes you a bigger deadbeat than he is.