I am an old lady and still working so I can sponsor my ex-husband in the future

[violas]

Posting hx is a must: https://forum.freeadvice.com/threads/friend-in-morocco-renewed-his-green-card-but-still-8-months-later-still-waiting.654832/

No, you shouldn't sponsor him.

I stand by my previous comments on this subject.

He had a greencard and lost it not because he abandoned it for over a decade. What has changed? He was financially irresponsible when you were married, so he's unlikely to have improved.

Yes. I really don't want to marry him. BUT if I want him in my country I would have to to marry him. He will sign a pre-nuptial before marriage.

 

[Zigner]

Yes. I really don't want to marry him. BUT if I want him in my country I would have to to marry him. He will sign a pre-nuptial before marriage.

What you are proposing is CLEARLY immigration fraud.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Yes. I really don't want to marry him. BUT if I want him in my country I would have to to marry him. He will sign a pre-nuptial before marriage.

A pre-nup wouldn't get you off the hook when it comes to making sure he's financially supported.

If you're an "old lady", then likely he's no spring chicken. You willing to foot the bill for his health insurance too?

 

[t74]

Why do you say that? That's not even advice we'd give to couples living IN the US who marry later in life. In fact, it's quite the opposite.

That is true EXCEPT in this case it looks like the potential immigrant has everything to gain and OP have everything to lose. Remember, she has committed to support him. If it was a true lovomg relatiopnship, the ex would be willing to commit everything to the relationship. This suggestion would be a test of honesty on both of their parts.

IMO, this is an obvious a fraudulant marriage for an immigration benefit and is just plan foolish for OP to even consider it. She deserves better in her old age.

 

[t74]

OP, You need to get a complete physical to make sure you are not in the beginning stages of old age mental decline and a counselor to help you psychologically. You should NOT be so desperate for companionship that you sacrifice your remaining future and finances.

PLEASE, do not go further with this plan.

 

[t74]

OP, I suspect you are considering this plan because you fear loneliness and financial problems. I suggest that if finances are a problem that you sign up for subsidized senior housing in your community. If the $500 per month for a room is important at this time, find the niece or granddaughter of family or a friend who needs a moderately priced place to stay to rent the room. Be sure to formalize the arrangement with a lease.

Once you retire, you will lose so much of your social (ie work) life. Consider moving into a senior apartment complex that offers activities, transportation and other senior services. Moving while you are relatively healthy will make it easier. In my area there are complexes where the apartments have traditional kitchens but also the availability of daily community dining, home health aids, transportation, and many activities from the visiting dogs to crafts and religious services. Your religious community may even sponsor one.

Once you have support from the community you will not long for this long distance relationship.

Take advantage of the senior legal assistance programs to make sure you have an estate plan with power of attorney, health care proxy, etc. Everyone needs these current as they age. Your family and other who may need to step in to help you will appreciate you taking care of the legal issues before a crisis.

I too am elderly and fearful of being alone after my spouse passes - and for having him cared for if he survives me. Life as a senior citizen can be very complex even though you have all the time with nothing you are required to do. Surround yourself with new friends and caring caregivers for this next stage in your life.