I have to follow the court order so I have to not mind it. Amberly's place for anyone who doesn't know is a place to help families who's children are being abused or kidnapped. So yes I HAVE TO NOT MIND. I have to wait till he admits it or if the court finds that there is not enough evidence it kills the case. TO: OG...... I know that I am young and I know that I have made my mistakes. Trust me I have lived with it. I am not trying to keep my kids out of the hands of the parents. All that I have wanted is for my kids to have a father for them. I have alot on my plate and yes I did it by opening my legs up to the first and the secind only to find in lies and from another face that I had not known. All that I can say is that i am young with two kids about to get married and trying to make the best life for my kids and yes I will take everything that is told to me into consideration. That's the only thing that I can do for the sake of my children! I hope that you all understand and because I am who I am I will apologize to OG but to let OG know I am not whom you think that I am. Thank you.CJane said:Wow. I'm confused.
You have 'no problem' letting dad have some extra time, except for a minor drop off issue.
But the child might be being sexually abused while at dad's house?
tigger22472 said:I'm sorry but I do not believe you. If you suspected that there was abuse going on and truely believed it you WOULD not sit here and say that you have no problem with giving him extra time. You would be following the order just as it was written so do not sit here and insult the intelligence of those here.
I'm not. From what I was told is that there is nothing else that I can do. There's nothing else till he admits it and i have to have him admit it on tape untill then there is nothing. I do appreciate all of your guys advice. you all are right to some degree but I don't come here for nothing else but help. Thank you all for the advice.tigger22472 said:I'm sorry but I do not believe you. If you suspected that there was abuse going on and truely believed it you WOULD not sit here and say that you have no problem with giving him extra time. You would be following the order just as it was written so do not sit here and insult the intelligence of those here.
Thank you for your advice and maybe I did tak ewhat you had to say in the wrong manner. Thanks again...Ohiogal said:I never thought you were anything. I never stated you were a whore. I never stated you slept around. I stated a physical fact -- and let me repeat it so that everyone knows what it is that i stated --
And I quote:
You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Good grief. You cannot hold him financially responsible and deny him interaction with his child> Once you file anything in court, the COURTS are the ones that have control and THEY will determine who does what when. If you don't follow that you will be in contempt which is a crime. He should have to pay but he shouldn't be able to have any relationship? You are a child. As for it being the easiest way -- for who?
You act as though this man is entirely responsible for your predicament however you are the one who spread your legs, allowed him to ejaculate in you, and carried the baby to term. You bear 50% of the responsibility. You are automatically known to be the mother of this child -- the child came from your loins so you automatically get that right. However, the law does not automatically recognize any man as the father because you are unmarried and you can point fingers all you want but daddy NEEDS to be legally adjudicated the father.
You crying abandonment is stupidity. It has no legal basis. It is frivolous. If you want child support, file for it but be aware that daddy has rights to custody. And guess what? In many states he has rights EQUAL to you once he is adjudicated the father. So you cannot say that just because you are mommy you are more important to the child. WRONG!END OF QUOTE
All I did was point out that you bear a responsibility. it was not all dad. I stated facts. You played a role -- in order for dad to impregnate you the above had to happen ... it happens with anyone who gets pregnant because I have yet to meet a person who has gotten pregnant without spreading their legs. The ejaculation is a different story because of test tube babies and other fertility treatments. Was it phrased delicately? No. It was phrased bluntly. Because you seemed to be blaming dad for his irresponsibility in your other thread.
Oh and I also said you were ignorant about the law. Which you are based on several things you said.
I also said you were acting very much like a child in what you posted and that you have manners like a guttersnipe. I answered your legal questions -- bluntly but I will not sugar coat. If you expect sugarcoating you will walk into court and find yourself slammed down in a heart beat. Would you rather that happens? And also note I never said you were stupid. I said your crying abandonment was stupidity -- because legally it is stupidity. It is also impossible in what you stated.
Apparently you would as you decided you don't want to hear what the law will tell you. You want me to butt out. Again you don't have the right to dictate. And the court will not let you dictate. And if you come across there like you have here, you are in for a WORLD of hurt.
And for the record, your apology is accepted in the manner in which it was offered.
BS.. You are so full of it. You know DAMN well that you do not have to offer or allow him any extra time outside the court order. NOR would you state you have no problem with giving him extra time (absent the issue of transportation) if you in any way shape or form believed that he, or someone near him, abused your child.dawnb said:I'm not. From what I was told is that there is nothing else that I can do. There's nothing else till he admits it and i have to have him admit it on tape untill then there is nothing. I do appreciate all of your guys advice. you all are right to some degree but I don't come here for nothing else but help. Thank you all for the advice.
dang. Not sure. I am off the red wine right now> And the white wine. And all other alcohol including jager and diet (okay it doesn't sound good but it actually is) ... Now tea on the other hand....sorry...eme said:*choke* owch...what is the best way to get red wine out of tan carpet????
I'm not a pop drinker, but when my OB told me that I could have a can a day of pop...Ohiogal said:dang. Not sure. I am off the red wine right now> And the white wine. And all other alcohol including jager and diet (okay it doesn't sound good but it actually is) ... Now tea on the other hand....