I don't want there to be any games here. With dad's temper, I would prefer to do things as equally and fairly, but still legally as possible. If I piss him off royally, he may choose not to be involved in his soon-to-be-son's life at all.
So I realize you can't squeeze blood from a turnip...
Back to the long term visitation plan. Any suggestions from anyone? Anyone have one that works well that I can use to reference? To get from Ohio to Texas is 1700 miles. It takes two airplane exchanges and then a 150 mile drive through the desert to get where dad lives. I've googled the basics, but any suggestions?
Thanks
Honestly? Its an impossible situation. If you truly believe that dad won't fight your move, then you can pretty much count on dad not being any real part of the child's life. Or, that dad won't be any real part of the child's life through infancy and toddlerhood, but will then try to force the issue.
A parent that doesn't live in the same community as his/her infant and toddler child has a harder than heck time forming a real bond with the child. When travel is as difficult/complicated/expensive as you have described, its pretty much impossible.
You have already told us that dad rarely exercises his visitation with another child who lives within a reasonable distance. What makes you think that he will make the effort that it will take to form a bond with your child?
Or, in the alternative, since you plan on remaining in the area for several months after the child's birth, its possible that dad WILL bond with the child, WILL realize what he will be missing out on, and WILL change his mind and fight your relocation. That is a very REAL possibility.
I am sorry to be hitting you with this when you are so close to giving birth and are already dealing with the stresses and strains of late pregnancy...but its reality. You should have gone home before this school year started. You may still be able to go home, but you have to be realistic about what kind of relationship is possible between dad and the child.