In front of the entire organization...

[cbg]

Oh please.

First of all, the law does not recognize a single comment as sufficient for a sexual harassment claim.

Secondly, the OP is WAY too sensitive if she is turning that into SH.

Go ahead, OP. Follow the last advice. Please do go talk to a lawyer. Then come back and tell us what he said. Assuming he was able to stop laughing long enough to talk.

 

[justalayman]

To the OP:

here is fighting-back's post
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=298209

Read it and decide for yourself as to the truthfulness of her previous post.


and to fighting_back:
not until later in your thread did you even mention you have a contractor's relationship with the purported harrasser NOT an employee's. Big difference.

Whoops sorry I missed this thread by fighting_back. It is the continuing saga of getting good advice and her continued denial. I would give it a thumds down or numerically a 1.5 out of 4

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=303034

 

[fighting_back]

To the OP:

here is fighting-back's post
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=298209

Read it and decide for yourself as to the truthfulness of her previous post.


and to fighting_back:
not until later in your thread did you even mention you have a contractor's relationship with the purported harrasser NOT an employee's. Big difference.

Whoops sorry I missed this thread by fighting_back. It is the continuing saga of getting good advice and her continued denial. I would give it a thumds down or numerically a 1.5 out of 4

https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=303034

Oh no! Not the thumbs down approach. LOL

Let me guess - you are also an attorney with free legal advice to give others.

Okay buddy, give that good ol' legal advice away and start attacking away in order to get the last word in. We got ourselves a legal version of Jack Welch on this message board. Actually, make that several legal versions of Jack Welch.

 

[Just Blue]

There was no need to refer to me as a "pretty" girl, or even a "girl".. what is it's importance to the comment if not sexual?

Did you forget your medication?

 

[justalayman]

Oh no! Not the thumbs down approach. LOL

Let me guess - you are also an attorney with free legal advice to give others.

Okay buddy, give that good ol' legal advice away and start attacking away in order to get the last word in. We got ourselves a legal version of Jack Welch on this message board. Actually, make that several legal versions of Jack Welch.

The claim to fame is in the name. I just calls 'em as I see's 'em.

You attempted to place all those who gave you reasonable advice in a disparaging light. They did not condemn you or your actions. They gave you advice from their knowledge and experience. The problem came about when you didn't hear that the manager (which is not your employer) should get strung up by his cajones or at least forced to become self deprecating in front of you and everyone in his company.
The bottom line is you were removed from the situation. You recieved no retaliatory action but you still want more. Trying to claim 'clearing his throat' to be a form of sexual harrassment. I suppose it might be if that is how he performs but you never got that far when you were flirting with him so you wouldn't know.
If I managed the company where all this took place, I will tell you, you would no longer be welcome there. It would probably be recieved as retaliation by you when it would really be self protection by the company.
If you are uncomfortable working around this guy at HIS place of employment, take youself down the road and work elsewhere.

 

[weenor]

The claim to fame is in the name. I just calls 'em as I see's 'em.

You attempted to place all those who gave you reasonable advice in a disparaging light. They did not condemn you or your actions. They gave you advice from their knowledge and experience. The problem came about when you didn't hear that the manager (which is not your employer) should get strung up by his cajones or at least forced to become self deprecating in front of you and everyone in his company.
The bottom line is you were removed from the situation. You recieved no retaliatory action but you still want more. Trying to claim 'clearing his throat' to be a form of sexual harrassment. I suppose it might be if that is how he performs but you never got that far when you were flirting with him so you wouldn't know.
If I managed the company where all this took place, I will tell you, you would no longer be welcome there. It would probably be recieved as retaliation by you when it would really be self protection by the company.
If you are uncomfortable working around this guy at HIS place of employment, take youself down the road and work elsewhere.

Well nice to see that fighting back is still fighting the lost cause....accusing you of unwarranted attacks...please she has tried to disparage everyone that's given her decent advice...she just wants to try and get money from this company without working for it.

 

[Just Blue]

Well nice to see that fighting back is still fighting the lost cause....accusing you of unwarranted attacks...please she has tried to disparage everyone that's given her decent advice...she just wants to try and get money from this company without working for it.

I think FB went off her med's....Very strange reaction to very reasonable advice....

 

[justalayman]

Well nice to see that fighting back is still fighting the lost cause....accusing you of unwarranted attacks...please she has tried to disparage everyone that's given her decent advice...she just wants to try and get money from this company without working for it.

I didn't want to defend everyone, just throw in a word of respect to those that deserved it. I have at times been less than helpful and served a little side dish of attitude adjustment.


I'm sure you are correct about the money though.

 

[Mister Darcy]

I bet when you people logged on here today, you didn't think you would have a pretty girl to give advice to.

 

[Just Blue]

I bet when you people logged on here today, you didn't think you would have a pretty girl to give advice to.

Do you think she's pretty Mr Darcy??..Better watch it...Don't want a harassment charge....

 

[TotalLossBS]

Come on, get over it. The response I have received from this post goes to prove that the purpose of these forums has been completly overridden by unhappy, power-crazed people. The passionate and overly dramatic posts are exhausting.

I thought maybe it was only the insurance adjusters in the 'automobile claims' forum, but apparently its widespread.

 

[Just Blue]

Come on, get over it. The response I have received from this post goes to prove that the purpose of these forums has been completly overridden by unhappy, power-crazed people. The passionate and overly dramatic posts are exhausting.

I thought maybe it was only the insurance adjusters in the 'automobile claims' forum, but apparently its widespread.

It's everywhere....RUN!

 

[Mister Darcy]

Do you think she's pretty Mr Darcy??..Better watch it...Don't want a harassment charge....

She can't be as pretty as those girls from Lynn.

 

[manderson3]

The speaker did in fact on several occasions during the presentation grab himself, scratch himself, and make jokes with sexual connotation.

I feel expecially sensitive to such comments due to the fact that I am one of approx 20 'under 30 women' in a large (at least a thousand) corporate setting and only very few of the women are unmarried.

Seperately, I am now running into unwanted flirting from a much older male coworker in which he calls me 'his pretty (or beautiful) girl'... it creeps me out and I feel its inappropriate. I thick he realizes it too when he says "and I could lose my job for saying so."

Do you agree? Is it totally inappropriate? Need more info to have an opinion?

I think there were a couple of actions described by this victim that have been overlooked. I hate to ask. I'm sure the images are not pleasent. And, if it's as bad as I'm thinking it is, this pervert must be stopped. So that other young women don't become victims.

I'm not a lawyer. But I used to watch Perry Mason. Alot. Can you describe what he grabbed, and where he scratched? Was he smiling or expressing some sense of gratification when doing so? A real lawyer would have ask.

 

[fighting_back]

A real lawyer would have ask.

There are no real lawyers here.