Informal support needs modification

[plumdragon]

Huntsville. Highest concentration of engineers in the country.

So, let me get this straight. What you're saying, regardless of my personal circumstances - that because of the wording that it's for daycare, if she's not in school because of his choice, he's off scott free and doesn't have to pay any child support?

If that's the case, I'll take my chances with the judge.

 

[Ohiogal]

Geekess, this person claims to be an attorney, berates this woman, calls her and other posters names and tells her she is an idiot for believing she should be able to get child support. Ohiogal is a bully and I beleive she is misleading this woman. Maybe attorneys need to identify themselves. I do not claim to be an attorney, just an experienced divorcee who has seen it all turned upside down because the judge was a rational caring human being rather than a technical legal right fighter. Do not underestimate the spirit of the law in or out of the courtroom.

I have the credentials to back up what I am saying. You have nothing.

 

[Ohiogal]

As for the OP:

Here are the things you need to realize -- dad does NOT have to keep the child in private school. A judge will not require dad to send his child to private school and pay for it. If dad agrees to private school, that is one thing. If he doesn't, YOU can expect to pay for private school on your own.

Daycare for work is something that dad would have to pay a portion of under the guidelines. He would not be paying daycare for you to go volunteer, go out to dinner or do anything else that is not required. He might be forced to pay some of the cost of daycare for while you are attending school. Dad will NOT be forced to keep the child in daycare during times when he has visitation with the child. He may even get it court ordered that his wife be able to provide daycare and thus not cost him anything and lower costs all around.

YOU will be imputed a full time income because you are VOLUNTARILY underemployed and choosing not to work a full time job.

Oh and are you receiving daycare assistance?

 

[TheGeekess]

Huntsville. Highest concentration of engineers in the country.

So, let me get this straight. What you're saying, regardless of my personal circumstances - that because of the wording that it's for daycare, if she's not in school because of his choice, he's off scott free and doesn't have to pay any child support?

If that's the case, I'll take my chances with the judge.

Go to the DHR website and print the forms out. Fill the forms out and call the Madison Co DHR office and make an appointment. Let them handle this. You can educate yourself by reading those links I posted on page 1. Then you won't have an informal agreement and the state will take care of collecting child support (and handling the consequences if CS isn't paid).

If you read the links, you will find out how Alabama determines child support. You can use the worksheet to run the numbers yourself. It's just not that hard.

 

[plumdragon]

Ohio,

I don't receive anything. No welfare, no assistance. The money being paid for childcare/daycare/preschool is the only form of child support there is for my daughter in this case, in lieu of formal child support (he didn't want to have to "pay the state"). I receive no money from anyone, and now even the childcare isn't being paid for. Were I to get a full time job, I would have to pay for childcare myself, as he isn't doing so as required by our decree. The only thing keeping me employed right now is that my boss here doesn't care if I bring her with me on days that she is unable to stay with my ex. I can't imagine being able to do that while working most places, so until the childcare matter is sorted out, I'm stuck here regardless of being "voluntarily" underemployed, as you put it. On that matter, I wasn't aware being laid off was voluntary un(der)employment, but whatever.

Geek,

I've printed them out, thank you very much. I also had a conversation with the daycare owner last night, who knows the finer details, and is completely behind me on things. I sincerely appreciate your assistance, that state website is the pits to navigate.