ShamaMama414
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Wisconsin
This is a a long story as all matters like this are so I will try to stick to basics as much as possible. I am posting the question at the top so you can read on if you have advice.
Just found out ex plans to enroll son in school in his district even though I have told him I flat out disagree and it will actually make my placement time near impossible. He is the one who moved away, I am still here in the same district my son has attended since k5. We had come to a decision that my son would be homeschooled by me for this year (8th grade) so he could get caught up and ready for high school. He has ADHD (severe) and is in SpecEd. The middle school enviorment was a nightmare for him last year. This is what my son wanted and we both agreed it was best. I never unenrolled him here since I was advised to wait until day of for less problems with school. Dad tells me a week ago he doesnt want him homeschooled he thinks its best for him to go to "school". I asked him to come and see what I was planning to use to work with him (I have spent at least $1500) and the home library I built full of ADHD friendly materials. After several calls from me he came over and looked (barely) for 15 minutes and refused to take the info I had for him from experts about this being best and left saying he'll think about it. I knew exactly what that meant. I told him if he wants him to go to "school" that he needs to return to the school he attended last year. I told him changing school without my consent was not a good choice and I would pursue this in court. Well today he informed me that tomorrow (1st day if school here) he was taking my son and enrolling him in the school out by his house! So I need to know what the best choice is here:
A) Try to block his attempt at doing this by contacting the school, faxing court papers stating we have joint custody and I do not want him enrolled there.
B) Do not try to block his effort so he goes through with an obvious violation of court order and file for an emergency hearing.
Or is there something I am overlooking that you can share?
My sons father and I have joint custody and placement with my son spending 1 week at a time with each of us. I have put up with a ton of crap over the years in order to keep things civil between us for the sake of my son. I even bought my home 3 blocks away from him 6 years ago so that my son could enjoy both of his parents in life on a daily basis. This worked well and my son was happy.
Just over two years ago my ex (never married) decided that he and his new wife were going to move and told me only after they had an accepted offer on a place 45 minutes away. I was furious because this was going to be a problem on many levels. He assured me that nothing would change and that he would drive my son to school here everyday and pick him up from my house after work so i could do homework with him. My son has a learning disability and a special eduation student. Dad does not have the patience for homework so I have always done it with him. I have always been the one to handle school issues. I am the one who dealt with all IEP meeting and issues relating to his LD. His dad has never been involved by choice. I really felt uneasy with the whole thing for many reasons, homework, sports, social life and how he would cope with the end of having mom or dad right there everyday.
This has been a mess almost from the beginning and he has screwed up many times making my son late for school and has started an all out campaign to win my son over but things just get worse and worse. My son is almost 14 now and he has a lot of anger towards his father but dad will not go to counseling with him. I am thinking since I have exhausted all efforts to get along and he clearly cant make good decisions for my son it's time for me to file for full custody. Even if placement remained relativly unchanged I would at least be able to make choices for my son that are in his best interest.
Sorry so long, I could go on and on. Any advice is much appreciated.
This is a a long story as all matters like this are so I will try to stick to basics as much as possible. I am posting the question at the top so you can read on if you have advice.
Just found out ex plans to enroll son in school in his district even though I have told him I flat out disagree and it will actually make my placement time near impossible. He is the one who moved away, I am still here in the same district my son has attended since k5. We had come to a decision that my son would be homeschooled by me for this year (8th grade) so he could get caught up and ready for high school. He has ADHD (severe) and is in SpecEd. The middle school enviorment was a nightmare for him last year. This is what my son wanted and we both agreed it was best. I never unenrolled him here since I was advised to wait until day of for less problems with school. Dad tells me a week ago he doesnt want him homeschooled he thinks its best for him to go to "school". I asked him to come and see what I was planning to use to work with him (I have spent at least $1500) and the home library I built full of ADHD friendly materials. After several calls from me he came over and looked (barely) for 15 minutes and refused to take the info I had for him from experts about this being best and left saying he'll think about it. I knew exactly what that meant. I told him if he wants him to go to "school" that he needs to return to the school he attended last year. I told him changing school without my consent was not a good choice and I would pursue this in court. Well today he informed me that tomorrow (1st day if school here) he was taking my son and enrolling him in the school out by his house! So I need to know what the best choice is here:
A) Try to block his attempt at doing this by contacting the school, faxing court papers stating we have joint custody and I do not want him enrolled there.
B) Do not try to block his effort so he goes through with an obvious violation of court order and file for an emergency hearing.
Or is there something I am overlooking that you can share?
My sons father and I have joint custody and placement with my son spending 1 week at a time with each of us. I have put up with a ton of crap over the years in order to keep things civil between us for the sake of my son. I even bought my home 3 blocks away from him 6 years ago so that my son could enjoy both of his parents in life on a daily basis. This worked well and my son was happy.
Just over two years ago my ex (never married) decided that he and his new wife were going to move and told me only after they had an accepted offer on a place 45 minutes away. I was furious because this was going to be a problem on many levels. He assured me that nothing would change and that he would drive my son to school here everyday and pick him up from my house after work so i could do homework with him. My son has a learning disability and a special eduation student. Dad does not have the patience for homework so I have always done it with him. I have always been the one to handle school issues. I am the one who dealt with all IEP meeting and issues relating to his LD. His dad has never been involved by choice. I really felt uneasy with the whole thing for many reasons, homework, sports, social life and how he would cope with the end of having mom or dad right there everyday.
This has been a mess almost from the beginning and he has screwed up many times making my son late for school and has started an all out campaign to win my son over but things just get worse and worse. My son is almost 14 now and he has a lot of anger towards his father but dad will not go to counseling with him. I am thinking since I have exhausted all efforts to get along and he clearly cant make good decisions for my son it's time for me to file for full custody. Even if placement remained relativly unchanged I would at least be able to make choices for my son that are in his best interest.
Sorry so long, I could go on and on. Any advice is much appreciated.