Jurisdiction?

[gr8rn]

Theres More Than ONE!!!???

Why didn't you take your child with you when you went to live off your sister?

 

[Isis1]

Theres More Than ONE!!!???

Why didn't you take your child with you when you went to live off your sister?

you caught that too huh?

geez op. you left the country to go to school for yourself. leaving your childREN with no mother, no legal support from mother....

if i couldn't get a hold of my children while i was in another country, i would have come back!!

 

[Antigone*]

Why didn't you take your child with you when you went to live off your sister?

Thank you!!! I was thinking exactly the same thing. Why on earth would you leave your daughter just to go to school.

Heck many of us work full-time jobs and go to school, and take time to support, teach, nurture, and enjoy our children.

shameful...just shameful.

and...

You said this is for your kids...CHILREN....plural....

So, who has the other ones???

 

[Zephyr]

I just want to point out that a mom choosing to be non-custodial is the same as a dad choosing it. I think OP screwed up here- I'm not defending the mess she has made. BUT just because a mom chooses to be non-custodial does not automatically make her a horrid person.

 

[Isis1]

I just want to point out that a mom choosing to be non-custodial is the same as a dad choosing it. I think OP screwed up here- I'm not defending the mess she has made. BUT just because a mom chooses to be non-custodial does not automatically make her a horrid person.

oh, i agree! 100%. the part of the no contact, no support is the awful part.

 

[proud_parent]

BUT just because a mom chooses to be non-custodial does not automatically make her a horrid person.

Perhaps not. Choosing to be a deadbeat non-custodial parent just might.

 

[Ohiogal]

I didn't forget about her, but I'm in my 40's now and was in a bad situation then, and going back to school was my only option to have a future my kids!

Bravo for you. You are in your 40's now. Old enough to know better. Your child is only five. You had 35 years to be selfish. NOW you decide after having a child you want to be selfish? Sorry. Doesn't work that way. YOU have responsibilities.

 

[Ohiogal]

I have tried to contact them but most of the time there is no answer. Dad called all the time for the first year because he said my daughter needed to have consistent contact with me at her age, but when he found out I was seeing someone else he stopped calling. He said if I wanted to talk to her I have to call. I only reached them a few times since because most of the time no answer.

It is NOT dad's responsibility to do all the work for you.

That's why I am here now on my break to see her, but now they're not here. It took me all this time to save enough money to come here.

Those are excuses quite frankly. YOU should have been financially supporting your child. You are in your forties and if you didn't forget about your child, the shame is you never learned what it meant to be a parent. You want dad to bend over and serve you? Not going to happen quite frankly. If you wanted contact with your daughter you should have done a heck of a lot more. Most parents would NOT have left the COUNTRY to go to school. Most would have done everything they could without needing someone else to take care of them when they were in their 40s.

When you have kids, it ceases being about you. If you weren't ready to be responsible you never should have had a child. As it is at least dad has the child.

 

[Ohiogal]

My EH who is taking care of my 15 year old answers his phone and I get to talk to our son almost every 2 weeks, so why won't my daughters dad answer his phone when I call?

So basically you wasted the first 30 years of your life approximately and did nothing and only after you had reproduced and left the children with others did you decide to be selfish? Lady, you don't get kudos for being immature and selfish. You don't get applauded for leaving the country and expecting everyone else to pay your way and make life easy for you. You really seriously NEED to GROW UP. Which means taking care of your responsibilities. Not leaving the country so your sister can pay your bills and your way while the fathers solely support the children you birthed. You know dead beat dads? Well you are a deadbeat mom.

 

[Ohiogal]

I just want to point out that a mom choosing to be non-custodial is the same as a dad choosing it. I think OP screwed up here- I'm not defending the mess she has made. BUT just because a mom chooses to be non-custodial does not automatically make her a horrid person.

Nothing wrong with that. The horrid person comes in because she has provided NO SUPPORT and basically no contact with her children. She has NOT grown up and been an adult. She is a deadbeat parent. And if she were male I would be calling her a deadbeat dad. she just happens to be the mom. Hence, deadbeat mother.

 

[Twicemom]

Theres More Than ONE!!!???

Why didn't you take your child with you when you went to live off your sister?

I was going to take my youngest with me but her dad told me it wasn't in her best interest. I then asked if he would come also and bring her, and he said he WOULD consider it.

He then told me they wouldn't be leaving the country about 1 month AFTER I was gone just because I informed him my schooling would take longer than originally expected. He said there was no legal recourse for him if I decided to take her and not let him see her. NOW I'm the one who has to fight for her!

 

[Twicemom]

you caught that too huh?

geez op. you left the country to go to school for yourself. leaving your childREN with no mother, no legal support from mother....

if i couldn't get a hold of my children while i was in another country, i would have come back!!

Well, I didn't have the resources to come back then or any place to live here either! How could I take care of my kids with no job or home?

 

[CJane]

You know dead beat dads? Well you are a deadbeat mom.

Really? Because aren't you one of the first to point out that one cannot BE a deadbeat if there's no ORDER for support? Mom is under NO legal obligation to pay support for her children if there are no orders establishing such. And it sure doesn't seem that there are.

 

[Twicemom]

Thank you!!! I was thinking exactly the same thing. Why on earth would you leave your daughter just to go to school.

Heck many of us work full-time jobs and go to school, and take time to support, teach, nurture, and enjoy our children.

shameful...just shameful.

and...

You said this is for your kids...CHILREN....plural....

So, who has the other ones???

My job didn't pay much and my sister OFFERED me the opportunity to better myself with her assistance. My ex's both said they supported the idea.

My other ONE is with his dad and step-mom.

Personal judgement's are not asked for or appreciated, thank you.

 

[CJane]

So Mom? What do you actually WANT? Visits when you're on break? When does your schooling end? What is your educational/professional goal?