just venting...opinions?

[haiku]

Of course someone would gladly do it for their kids. They would do it even if it DID get really old. I wasn't for a moment suggesting that he wouldn't be willing to do it for his kids. I was suggesting that he might regret the distance.

I am really disappointed with the responses to me on this thread. I merely gave dad some reasonable "food for thought" and everybody jumped all over me as thought I was telling him NOT to move.

There are downsides to moving 45 miles away from your kids. All I did was point out some potential ones.

ummm what you posted was kind off pointless.....it was kind of a "duh no kidding, post." with a side of non custodial abandonement projection....just sayin.....

 

[ceara19]

I will agree with you that there are. i think the reason you may have gotten jumped (and i was not jumping you and i dont think that was anyone else's intention but I cannot speak for them) is because he didn't ask for the flaws but only wanted it in terms of his relationship with his ex and what she could do. Which if his ex is the moron from the other post, not much.

I just re-read the other thread. It sounds like blueboy may actually be the OP posting as the ex. It wouldn't be the first time. It would be easier to believe that it was the OP posting what the ex has said to him, then to believe that someone that incredibly stupid and selfish actually ended up with sole custody.

 

[Ohiogal]

I just re-read the other thread. It sounds like blueboy may actually be the OP posting as the ex. It wouldn't be the first time. It would be easier to believe that it was the OP posting what the ex has said to him, then to believe that someone that incredibly stupid and selfish actually ended up with sole custody.

well then if it is him then he is EXTREMELY EXTREMELY IMMATURE and it is no wonder these people are having problems. Dangit why can't adults be adults and leave the game playing to the kids -- that is what the KIDS JOB IS!

 

[NITM]

In regard to Zephyr's response about filing contempt charges. . . If there's a magic way to get the court to do/say anything to the ex, I'd sure like to know about it as well. We had 9 police reports to hand to the court of x's court order violations for withholding visits, etc. and they still did nothing to her! All they did was keep telling my husband that "contempt is hard to prove", etc. What else do we need to prove when we have 9 police reports??! I don't trust the court system at all anymore (in CA anyway). Husband even asked the judge personally exactly what should he do when the ex denies visitation again. The judge said to go in on an ex-parte. So he did, and then the same judge still does nothing. They won't even SAY anything to her - tell her to stop it, nothing. It's so frustrating.

 

[Ohiogal]

In regard to Zephyr's response about filing contempt charges. . . If there's a magic way to get the court to do/say anything to the ex, I'd sure like to know about it as well. We had 9 police reports to hand to the court of x's court order violations for withholding visits, etc. and they still did nothing to her! All they did was keep telling my husband that "contempt is hard to prove", etc. What else do we need to prove when we have 9 police reports??! I don't trust the court system at all anymore (in CA anyway). Husband even asked the judge personally exactly what should he do when the ex denies visitation again. The judge said to go in on an ex-parte. So he did, and then the same judge still does nothing. They won't even SAY anything to her - tell her to stop it, nothing. It's so frustrating.

Don't hijack the thread but police reports prove nothing -- they are nothing more than hearsay. You need proof.

 

[NITM]

Sorry - didn't mean to hijack the thread. I'll open a new one. Thanks

 

[krybrahaha]

ya she is being emotionally abusive towards the kids...telling them to call me by my first name and saying how she is trying to "protect" them from me so they dont get attached to me because im "abandoning" them, so she says. She said she hopes i die so that she can get a REAL man to adopt my kids...how sick is that...i should go ahead to the courts and prove her an unfit mother...what do you all think?

 

[krybrahaha]

i have proof in text messages and voice messages on my phone so it wouldnt be to hard to prove.