modification of paternity agreement due to unstable parent

[CJane]

Thanks, for looking past the fact that I'm a step parent and providing feedback on the original question. Honestly, the dad has ups and downs and everytime there's some major "down" period my wife starts thinking what to do about it. And every time she eventually decides its not worth it. I have a feeling that's the route she'll go. Looking back, I guess that's the whole point of the original post question: What is the defining line between acceptable problems to allow to work themselves out and unnacceptable problems to pursue court intervention?

My opinion after having been under a Platte County order for going on 7 years? Well, actually a few, because it was really QUITE contentious for a really long time...

If the children are SAFE. Like, physically safe. That's what matters. Mom isn't going to like her ex and he's not going to like her. Grandma is probably always going to be a big huge PITA. Ya know? They aren't going to parent the same way y'all do, they aren't going to go to church or volunteer for the homeless, or dance naked around a bonfire the way y'all do.

But you can live with all that right? Or rather, your wife can. Because at the end of the day, if the kids are safe, and they have a relationship with the other parent that's unhindered by you (and of course your wife) so that it can be THEIR OWN personal relationship with that parent? That's all that matters.

Let it go.

 

[Silverplum]

...and that really just ticks me AWF![/I]

My new catchphrase!!