My ex's parents insist on staying over

[ecmst12]

Why does it matter what the answer would be if you were not married? You ARE married and regardless of whose name is on the house, it is HER HOME as well as yours - until such time as a court gives you sole posession of the house.

 

[Isis1]

Ok, lets change the status for a minute. What if the ex and i were not legally married? Is this the same scenario?

Oh dear gawd.


It's still HER home you oversized mouth breather!

You cannot have HER visitors escorted from HER home.

Stop trying to one up her. You are not better than she is. You are NOT in control of her. She is your EQUAL. GET OVER IT!

 

[Bulldog1]

Are you or aren't you married?

Its not as easy to explain. We had a wedding ceremony but we did not apply for a marriage license. So in the eyes of ny family court we are married but not legally married. I hope explains the situation a bit more

 

[Proserpina]

Its not as easy to explain. We had a wedding ceremony but we did not apply for a marriage license. So in the eyes of ny family court we are married but not legally married. I hope explains the situation a bit more

If you're going through a divorce, you're legally married.

Now, what's the REAL story?

 

[Bulldog1]

If you're going through a divorce, you're legally married.

Now, what's the REAL story?

If we are not married, the ex naturally gets sole custody. We had a wedding, therefore we are married so we share equal custody. Ex tried to relocate so i filed an emergency petition to keep my daughter within my county.

 

[Proserpina]

If we are not married, the ex naturally gets sole custody

Not at all.

. We had a wedding, therefore we are married so we share equal custody.

Not a given, at all.

Ex tried to relocate so i filed an emergency petition to keep my daughter within my county.

Okay.

Seriously - read up on custody. You're seriously mistaken!

 

[ecmst12]

And you don't get to have it both ways. You can't be married for custody but unmarried when it comes to the house.

 

[I'mTheFather]

That list is a bit cumbersome and certainly cannot be complied with before Easter.

Here is my list:

Do not shower or bath one week prior to the arrival or during the time period of the unwelcome stay.
Do not brush your teeth and be sure to get as close as possible to your "guests".
Eat plenty of garlic and beans. Drinking beer will enhance their effect. Be sure to mingle closely when the coctail starts working.

In other words, you need to convince them that the hotel is the best choice for them.

This would probably work, but would also probably make its way into custody court.

Do you have any friends or relatives who would also enjoy spending Easter week at your house?

 

[sandyclaus]

These people like to push me around. Its 3 vs 1 as soon as i walk through the door. I forgot to mention that my mother is on the deed of my home. She agrees its not a good idea for them to stayover either because they like cause drama. They also bring their german shepherd over and i am severely allergic to it. The police said that i can have them removed if less than 30 days or then they can claim squatters rights. Like i said, they are welcome to visit my child for Easter but i wont let them occupy my house like they have previously. I should have the right to privacy inside my own home. No?

The problem here is that since your WIFE has equal rights to occupy the marital home, she has every right to live there as she chooses. That means she is allowed to move about freely, and she is allowed to have whatever visitors or guests there that she chooses. Her in-laws are NOT squatters, they are her invited guests. As long as a legal occupant of the property says it's OK for the person to be there, then the guests are not and never will be trespassing. PERIOD.

Like I said, if being there while the in-laws visit is going to be so uncomfortable for you, I would suggest staying elsewhere for the duration. That goes especially with the allergy issue and the German Shepherd. If your pride is so much more important to you than your health, then you get exactly what you deserve by staying there.

Ok, lets change the status for a minute. What if the ex and i were not legally married? Is this the same scenario?

But you ARE married, and this is the marital home. Therefore, that is a moot point and a discussion for another time and situation, and has no place even being interjected into THIS discussion.

 

[Proserpina]

In my personal opinion, the beans/beer thing is extremely petty and childish.

It will say more - in court - about the OP than his STBX.

Remember, the CHILDREN are still present. Or is it okay with you, Bali, for the children to be caught up in this mess even further?

 

[Bali Hai]

This would probably work, but would also probably make its way into custody court.

Do you have any friends or relatives who would also enjoy spending Easter week at your house?

Passing gas is now a factor for custody? It figures!

No, I must admit that I don't. And if I did, road killed skunks would fend them off. If anyone wants to spend time with me on Easter, text me and I might answer.

 

[Bali Hai]

In my personal opinion, the beans/beer thing is extremely petty and childish.

It will say more - in court - about the OP than his STBX.

Remember, the CHILDREN are still present. Or is it okay with you, Bali, for the children to be caught up in this mess even further?

God forbid that a child hears a fart!

What about the mangy mut the inlaws are bringing around the CHILDREN? I'm sure the court will blame HIM when the flea bag passes fleas to the CHILDREN!

 

[Proserpina]

God forbid that a child hears a fart!

What about the mangy mut the inlaws are bringing around the CHILDREN? I'm sure the court will blame HIM when the flea bag passes fleas to the CHILDREN!

Time for your nap, it seems.

 

[Ohiogal]

Its not as easy to explain. We had a wedding ceremony but we did not apply for a marriage license. So in the eyes of ny family court we are married but not legally married. I hope explains the situation a bit more

Google Putative Spouse. YOu file taxes as married? Did you hold yourself out as married?You are married. End of story.

 

[I'mTheFather]

Passing gas is now a factor for custody? It figures!

No, I must admit that I don't. And if I did, road killed skunks would fend them off. If anyone wants to spend time with me on Easter, text me and I might answer.

Haha, you're right on passing gas. Not a factor. However, the other advice indicates a severe neglect of personal hygiene which is often a sign of depression or other mental instability, and could be considered a factor.

Sorry to confuse you, Bali. I intended the second paragraph for the OP. I should have prefaced it to signal that.

Sorry, too, about the friends and family situation.