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[CourtClerk]

Dad, you are really putting yourself in a very tough position legally. You are assuming that you will win on something that all legal case law and history says that not only will you not win, but that you will get totalled in court.

Please do yourself a favor and get a consult with a family law attorney in your area. Parents have LOST custody over believing that they have the kind of power that you think that you have.

Ld, I don't know if you caught it or not, but apparently, it's his attorney that is putting some of these thoughts in his head.... scary isn't it?

 

[LdiJ]

Ld, I don't know if you caught it or not, but apparently, it's his attorney that is putting some of these thoughts in his head.... scary isn't it?

Yes, I did catch it and yes its quite scary. However, I suspect that his attorney may not have been quite so "definative" as he believes.

 

[Dumbhubby]

Blah, blah, blah.

You've been sniping at your ex for every little petty thing since she left you. You're bitter and vindictive and your only motivation is to pester her out of spite. If it's that obvious to strangers on an Internet forum, I can only imagine what people who actually know you can see.

You can realize you're wrong here, or you can realize you're wrong in court, but you are wrong. All that's left is for you to accept that. It's not our problem if you won't.

Ummmm ok?
I guess u need to open the dictionary and learn the definitions of Plantiff and Defendant, whereas I am the Plantiff on divorce documents.
Lets see you go through what I had to with her regarding my son. Lets see you have your child dropped off with an obvious BURN on finger and your ex spouse says it got "caught in the door" and denied getting him medical treatment, and DYFUS concluded neglect because of denying medical assistance at the very moment. And that is amoung other things.
It;s too late as severe egos have set in here, but if any of you have any idea or expereince what I had to go through, and even a sence of humanity, then yes you wouldnt be so idiotic and at least begin to understand why I must not be so lienant. And for any newbies reading this....YES U CAN DENY VISITATION IF U FEEL DANGER! Dont need a court order to do so. Listen to some of these people, or childs health...u decide. Trust me they wont be there to pick up the pieces....

 

[TheGeekess]

And for any newbies reading this....YES U CAN DENY VISITATION IF U FEEL DANGER! Dont need a court order to do so. Listen to some of these people, or childs health...u decide. Trust me they wont be there to pick up the pieces....

Next you'll be posting asking us how to get custody BACK.

To any newbies reading this: The post quoted can get you in serious trouble in court. Do not follow Dumb-Dumb's advice. He doesn't have a clue and is going to lose custody of Mom's and his child if he keeps on with this.

 

[>Charlotte<]

I guess u need to open the dictionary and learn the definitions of Plantiff and Defendant, whereas I am the Plantiff on divorce documents.

Uhhh...yeah. I know the definitions of plaintiff and defendant, and I know which one you are. That would account for my comment about you sniping at her since she left you. Genius. But I guess you need to open a dictionary and learn how to spell "plaintiff" if you're going to be one.

And for any newbies reading this....YES U CAN DENY VISITATION IF U FEEL DANGER!

You know what, "newbies"? He's absolutely right. There are situations where a denial of visitation is completely justifiable. But if you expect a judge to agree with you, it had damn well better be more than a finger boo-boo, or you're going to get hammered.

Dumb hubby, you're an idiot.

 

[futuredust]

They looked at it and said it looks like he got burned!! But cant conclude for sure.

I just read your post about your child's finger.

I also read just how much hatred you seem to have bottled up over the fact that she left you..

For your child's sake you need to seek therapy for your anger issues, this is not healthy for your child or you.

If you feel your child is in danger then you need to contact protective services, and you need to make sure you have verifiable *PROOF* of any abuse, then file an emergency court order to suspend visitation.

You do not get to make that decision, a judge does. Simple as that, you don't dictate if she gets visitation or not.

Now you can go ahead and blow a gasket, spew some more rhetoric on here.. but it will still not change the situation or the fact that you are wrong.

 

[Dumbhubby]

Next you'll be posting asking us how to get custody BACK.

To any newbies reading this: The post quoted can get you in serious trouble in court. Do not follow Dumb-Dumb's advice. He doesn't have a clue and is going to lose custody of Mom's and his child if he keeps on with this.

Ohhhhhhh yes I do know what Im talking about.
At least in the state of PA child custody is not something they like to change over night, and they WILL NOT just change custody from a concerned parent with so much the judge and courts have on file from DYFUS, BCIU, and child care center. Are u on drugs?
Yeah, OK, I can se the headlines now...
Pennsylvania
AP
Today a judge changed custody from a concerned parent. Parent who lost custody, among so much pain, has endured child neglect from NCP, attended all early intervention meetings while NCP refused to attend, while given all possible notice in advance, as plans interfered and will not accept early development issues cited by county and state officials. All caregiving and state and county officials saw the custodial parent as such a role model for child, takes such great care of child, and did all this while working with NCP taking far less financial support as CP wanted to see NCP get on her feet.
But then there was some kind of website that thought differently, so the judge ordered a reverse. Though current judicial system would most likely have this judge hanged or stoned in the court yard, it was the "seniors" on free advice dot com who helped render such a descision.

 

[Dumbhubby]

Oh and almost forgot!!!

How can I be so DUMBhubby??
According to the LAW, and so many here say that ALL MUST ABIDE EXACTLY BY COURT ORDER, NCP MUST have child back by 6PM every Sunday. Since that is NEVER accepted by NCP(always LATE) I should file and have her in contempt of court!!! And NOTHING in orders states(i just read it 3 times) ANYTHING about drop off time other then time required to DROP OFF, which is 6PM!!!
What on earth was I thinking all this time when she was 30 min, 45 min, 50 min, and even an hour or 2 LATE??? I was thinking there was mitigating circumstances, such as traffic, weather, or just wanting a few more minutes.
I NEVER said anything now, but according to all the seniors here I CAN FILE , GET CONTEMPT, AND HAVE HER POST HERE TO GET HER TIME BACK!!!!!
But geez now, there is NO SPECIFIC statute that states otherwise! Im not required to be reasonable here when it comes to orders!! No, our forefathers died for nothing to keep american law OPEN for circmumstances(yes this law is OPEN, people and stems from the revolution..accept it or not)
Where is all the hardcore, must abide by specific statute now? Im waiting? See? COme on now Im waiting. Oh wait I dont have to enternity. Give it up LOL

 

[CourtClerk]

How can I be so DUMBhubby??
According to the LAW, and so many here say that ALL MUST ABIDE EXACTLY BY COURT ORDER, NCP MUST have child back by 6PM every Sunday. Since that is NEVER accepted by NCP(always LATE) I should file and have her in contempt of court!!! And NOTHING in orders states(i just read it 3 times) ANYTHING about drop off time other then time required to DROP OFF, which is 6PM!!!
What on earth was I thinking all this time when she was 30 min, 45 min, 50 min, and even an hour or 2 LATE??? I was thinking there was mitigating circumstances, such as traffic, weather, or just wanting a few more minutes.
I NEVER said anything now, but according to all the seniors here I CAN FILE , GET CONTEMPT, AND HAVE HER POST HERE TO GET HER TIME BACK!!!!!
But geez now, there is NO SPECIFIC statute that states otherwise! Im not required to be reasonable here when it comes to orders!! No, our forefathers died for nothing to keep american law OPEN for circmumstances(yes this law is OPEN, people and stems from the revolution..accept it or not)

Seriously dude, you need therapy - and some testosterone. You whine and run off like a girl. No wonder why you have a problem with your son stinking here and there. You need to be wearing a skirt and you're trying to make your son wear one too. This poor child is going to have a heck of a time in school. I suggest you get him a MAN to look up to soon.

 

[Dumbhubby]

Honestly, that's just idiotic... My gramma's house has a musty smell because her husband was an antique dealer and her house is full of antiques, and we all smell musty when we leave it. My mom used to live in a beautiful old apartment in the historic district of town, and it smelled the same way... It doesn't mean anything, it's just old...
Not to mention, like the others said, he's a boy; and boys stink. It's most likely nothing more than him not bathing while he's there.

My little house is older, but very nice. And there is No way in HE!! I'd ever let my ex in my house. My house is not his business.

Seriously dude, get over it.

yeah but Im sure your grandma never had a history of abuse or neglect, or anything that would concern you and ur child. R_E_A_D posts if u want to make a difference.

 

[Dumbhubby]

How can I be so DUMBhubby??
According to the LAW, and so many here say that ALL MUST ABIDE EXACTLY BY COURT ORDER, NCP MUST have child back by 6PM every Sunday. Since that is NEVER accepted by NCP(always LATE) I should file and have her in contempt of court!!! And NOTHING in orders states(i just read it 3 times) ANYTHING about drop off time other then time required to DROP OFF, which is 6PM!!!
What on earth was I thinking all this time when she was 30 min, 45 min, 50 min, and even an hour or 2 LATE??? I was thinking there was mitigating circumstances, such as traffic, weather, or just wanting a few more minutes.
I NEVER said anything now, but according to all the seniors here I CAN FILE , GET CONTEMPT, AND HAVE HER POST HERE TO GET HER TIME BACK!!!!!
But geez now, there is NO SPECIFIC statute that states otherwise! Im not required to be reasonable here when it comes to orders!! No, our forefathers died for nothing to keep american law OPEN for circmumstances(yes this law is OPEN, people and stems from the revolution..accept it or not)

One final note....
I knew it! Everyone claims to be so attatched to the "LAWS", but doesnt even come close to respond to this one. See? I really hope u "newbies" who have only read but not responded see the actual BS some of these really are. YES U CAN MODIFY WITHOUT A JUDGE. SAVE YOUR CHILDREN.
I dunno, but really though these people really wish they had custody but rather then spend the time getting it only atack those who do in wishing they were as least an iota of the people they want to be.
LOSERS!

 

[Dumbhubby]

If you believe something is THAT serious then you file for emergency situations. Your unlikely to get it based on some of the crap on here that's been said.

My husband and I have been in so much crap with my stepson and I can tell you now , if you deny visitation without a court order you CAN be charged with contempt. My husband denied visitation with much more serious allegations (mom arrested for production of meth, tested positive for meth etc etc etc) . My husband knew he could be charged with contempt and be in serious trouble for what he did. He did not get in trouble for it but he could have very well . He stopped the visitation before the mother was convicted. When he first went to court the mother denied everything. She had not been arrested yet so he could not prove it and the judge gave her a few more months to get an attorney and fight it.

By the time we end up back in court she was charged and plead guilty. That I think saved my husband. Your not in a situation even remotely like that. All you have is a smell. You have no right in her house to imspect it. For a long time the mother did not step foot into my house.

My husband had no rights to step into mother's house either. You have some serious issues if you think this is okay. You cannot just demand to go into someone's house and see it. Wrong wrong wrong.

If you feel something is that bad you call cps. If they feel the need they will do something about it. You have no right in her house. No right. I cant, and the others cant seem to make that any more clear.

Yeah, OK tested postitive for METH and the only thing that saved was a plead of guilty. Yeah OK.
Well all I can say is the thank GOD Im in a more "reasonable" system like PA. Any judge here, in PA, that needs a plea like that to deny visitiation would be, not only NOT re-elected and not only stoned to death, but be put on trial.
Some of you really dig ur own holes. LOL

 

[futuredust]

One final note....
I knew it! Everyone claims to be so attatched to the "LAWS", but doesnt even come close to respond to this one. See? I really hope u "newbies" who have only read but not responded see the actual BS some of these really are. YES U CAN MODIFY WITHOUT A JUDGE. SAVE YOUR CHILDREN.
I dunno, but really though these people really wish they had custody but rather then spend the time getting it only atack those who do in wishing they were as least an iota of the people they want to be.
LOSERS!

Please, educate me. How does one modify a court order, made by a judge, without a judge? So in your logic, a judge can court order something, but you can change that at will?

 

[futuredust]

Yeah, OK tested postitive for METH and the only thing that saved was a plead of guilty. Yeah OK.
Well all I can say is the thank GOD Im in a more "reasonable" system like PA. Any judge here, in PA, that needs a plea like that to deny visitiation would be, not only NOT re-elected and not only stoned to death, but be put on trial.
Some of you really dig ur own holes. LOL

quoting goodness...

lol @ put on trial..

 

[futuredust]

the fact is YOU need therapy for attacking someone who is only looking out for the best interest of his child. Again u have no idea.
Maybe one day if u find a person who is willing to actually have a child with you, rather alone pretending to have a child with someone with a toy or hand, you will understand.
I wish u the best of luck in your journey, whether u fell the world is so unfair because the ones you desire wont give u a second look, or that ur so convinced in the nonsense of what people feed you is the truth, the truth is you are a LOSER, sir, and I actually feel bad for you.
Maybe he or she LEFT you? and u wish to GOD some dude ur posting to(me) is in a similar situation? Not me, son. I left her and she walked away with only the clothes on her back, and more to come as she is ordered to a conference to pay ALOT more child support come late March.
Too bad for you, dude. And I must say this...shame on you for attempting to attack a caring, supportive parent. And who has tried everything to help suck a loser NCP. YOUR thought is the reason why LAWS protect the good and innocent like me.
So go one and believe what u post. I did nothing wrong and continue to do only good. YOU are the one who needs help and such a pathetic part of our world.

I doubt you left her, your prior posts (and I did not quote them all) seem to indicate she left you. And you are coming off as very bitter over it.

Name of state tickets in- NJ Drivers lic. -PA- Separated to address in NJ.

Since my wife deserted marriage 2 months ago

What is the name of your state? PA
I know I mentioned this in threads, but didnt start a thread about it. So incase some of you remember this fraud case, here it goes...
About a week before my wife took off in early November '07

What is the name of your state? PA

She drops him off at my mother's in NJ, our usual exchange place since she deserted marriage,

What is the name of your state? PA
Is it possible to get a temp order to keep my separated wife off the marital property? Im currently living in the home as she took off.

Seriously, you seem to have some resentment issues.

This is not healthy for your child..

Seek help and legal advice, you cannot modify your child's visitation with his mother, only a judge can do that.