Need some advice ASAP

[oberauerdorf]

It says...the parties may elect to share expenses of items such as outerware and boots and other items that only one is needed

IN those EXACT WORDS???

No it doesn't.

 

[aworriedstepmom]

I came to this forum for advice, not abuse. I am typing what the order says...why wouldn't I?

 

[kidoday]

There are too many if's to repsond correctly.

I don't know how your attorney responded to you regarding the letter that her attorney sent. I can' tell what his order actually stated. Until then I can't honestly help you. I was going to try, but there are too many things hanging in the balance to really help you.

Help by giving what is asked of you and you will get your advice.

 

[kidoday]

Because you have typed it differently twice.

I am not trying to abuse you, just help you. I personally need more information.

 

[oberauerdorf]

Despite the fact that you have no legal standing in this matter, it does not concern you and you are a legal stranger to those children and these legal issues, TWO people are trying to help you.

So, if you want to crawl up into a little ball and whine about not being treated fair that's your choice.

If you want help on a legal contract, and make no mistake about it, a divorce decree is a legally binding contract, then you need to type what was asked of you.

And what was asked of you was WORD FOR WORD the PARAGRAPH containging the phrasing "the parties may elect to share expenses of items such as outerware and boots and other items that only one is needed"

Either you comply with that request or you're on your own.

 

[aworriedstepmom]

I totally understand.

What I am most worried about is the kids...nothing is making sense to him or me, and we are both highly educated people and he thought he made a good choice when chosing an attorney.

I don't have the new order...I only have the one that was issued when they first got divorced

 

[oberauerdorf]

I only have the one that was issued when they first got divorced

Then there is no point at all in continuing until you can produce it and follow instructions.

 

[kidoday]

Ok let me see if I can put this differently.

1. I would not go through an attorney if my attorney just forwarded it. I would write a letter to the ex, with a CC to my attorney and hers. This will only cost you your attorneys time to read your letter rather than responding for you. - Since I don't know how your attorney responded, I would definately respond differently from this.

2. I can't tell by what you have written what outerwear is. I definately would not consider hair cream as outerwear. I would respond as I did previously asking her to find where he is ordered to provide that information.

See how I can't really give any advice? I can't tell how to respond without knowing what I have asked.

 

[kidoday]

I didn't think you would have chosen a bad attorney. Just find the amended copy to the divorce and read it completely. Find the paragraph dealing with items purchased over and above the child support.

You can call his attorney and have it faxed to you or mailed to you if for some reason you haven't been copied.

Until then not much can be said in this forum. I suppose it could, but then it may not be accurate.

 

[aworriedstepmom]

Kidoday,

Thank you for trying to help me out. I was not speaking of you when I said I was being abused.

They have a court date on April 6th to hear her motion to change physical placement. He just met with his lawyer on Monday...and I was not able to go. I read through the motion, and admit that I was a bit overwhelmed, and of course, what he told me, as far as anyone else is concerned is hearsay.

 

[kidoday]

You are welcome.

I have tried to help, but you just added fuel to the fire.

They have a court date on April 6th to hear her motion to change physical placement. He just met with his lawyer on Monday...and I was not able to go. I read through the motion, and admit that I was a bit overwhelmed, and of course, what he told me, as far as anyone else is concerned is hearsay.

This has nothing to do with what you previously posted.

Want to take my advice?

Post here the legalities of what is going on. Leave out the emotion, just the orders and motions leaving out how you feel about the situation. It will really help you and your husband. If you don't know what I mean, just type the heading of each motion and order. You can then be asked pertinent information regarding the body of the order or motion and get additional help.

 

[oberauerdorf]

Or better still, have your husband type it. After all, as stated before, you have no dog in this fight, whether you like that or not.

 

[aworriedstepmom]

Kidoday,

Thank you for trying to help me out. I was not speaking of you when I said I was being abused.

They have a court date on April 6th to hear her motion to change physical placement. He just met with his lawyer on Monday...and I was not able to go. I read through the motion, and admit that I was a bit overwhelmed, and of course, what he told me, as far as anyone else is concerned is hearsay.

 

[stealth2]

Well, now I'm really confused. He has a motion against him for a change in custody, but the concern is whether he needs to pay for half of the hair gel, etc? Huh?

 

[oberauerdorf]

Thank you for trying to help me out. I was not speaking of you when I said I was being abused.

She's talking about me Kid, but let her go into court with this emotional garbage and see what kind of abuse the judge hands her....IF he/she lets her remain in the courtroom.

You've been given your task poster, let's see if you can follow instructions.

Oh, and if you'd like to re-read my answers to you and find one statement which is not legally valid, I'd be more than happy to accept that.