New Husband Adoption/Will Bio Dad Find Out (eta *or do i need to inform)**

[stealth2]

I definitely did not update court as they only need my mailing address.

I suspect that's not the case. Generally speaking, one must *at least* notify the other parent OR the court of a relocation. Often (and I don't know CO law - nor am I inclined to look it up for you), you must petition the court to allow relocation of the child.

 

[FootballersWife]

There's a solution to that, too. It's called "common law name change." My kids used my last name from early on. It wasn't official but, eventually, schools accepted it. At some point the SSA issued cards with my name and, eventually, they were able to get driver licenses. From then on nobody ever asked for court papers.

Try it. Your daughter is old enough to be able to politely insist that she be referred to by your husband's last name informally and still use her old name where it's officially required until the change is accepted. When she's 18 she can go to court and make it official.

I love this. I appreciate your helpful advice and time.

 

[FootballersWife]

I suspect that's not the case. Generally speaking, one must *at least* notify the other parent OR the court of a relocation. Often (and I don't know CO law - nor am I inclined to look it up for you), you must petition the court to allow relocation of the child.

I didn't petition and he never fought i because he *and his little wife* didn't want to have their own family.

 

[stealth2]

I didn't petition and he never fought i because he *and his little wife* didn't want to have their own family.

You really haven't moved on, have you? That's rather sad.

ETA: I thought he & his wife have kids of their own - hence "their own family." Shame you've alienated his daughter from him (yes, she's also his - not just yours...)

 

[Eekamouse]

I didn't petition and he never fought i because he *and his little wife* didn't want to have their own family.

How can he fight something you never bothered to file?

 

[Zigner]

There's a solution to that, too. It's called "common law name change." My kids used my last name from early on. It wasn't official but, eventually, schools accepted it. At some point the SSA issued cards with my name and, eventually, they were able to get driver licenses. From then on nobody ever asked for court papers.

Try it. Your daughter is old enough to be able to politely insist that she be referred to by your husband's last name informally and still use her old name where it's officially required until the change is accepted. When she's 18 she can go to court and make it official.

That's not going to work for minors now-a-days. The school won't change names without some sort of official documentation. ESPECIALLY in California.

 

[Zigner]

I love this. I appreciate your helpful advice and time.

Of course you do, because you think it supports your attempts to further alienate your child from her parent. Newsflash: It doesn't.

 

[FootballersWife]

You really haven't moved on, have you? That's rather sad.

ETA: I thought he & his wife have kids of their own - hence "their own family." Shame you've alienated his daughter from him (yes, she's also his - not just yours...)

Typing error, they wanted their own family and wanted their blonde hair blue eyed family. A girl that has kinky hair and hazel eyes doesn't fit their ideal family. Just assuming.

 

[FootballersWife]

How can he fight something you never bothered to file?

The wife has Instagram and Facebook, I'm a click away.

 

[Zigner]

The wife has Instagram and Facebook, I'm a click away.

Huh? This has nothing to do with "the wife".

You really are still stuck on the guy, aren't you?

 

[stealth2]

The wife has Instagram and Facebook, I'm a click away.

I suspect you'd then complain that she's pushing in where she doesn't belong.

 

[zddoodah]

does my ex, who has not seen my daughter since January 2014, get a say in this?

Yes.

Also, when we go through with adoption, will support stop

Yes.

You'll need to retain the services of an attorney. Since your child's father is paying child support, tracking him down to serve him with papers relating to the proposed adoption should be neither difficult nor expensive.

 

[Ohiogal]

I definitely did not update court as they only need my mailing address. They have my mom's address and she tells me what the papers say. He hasn't filed anything since 2018 maybe 2019. That was for a reduction in support.

SO you are in violation of the law. YOu are pathetic and not deserving of help.

 

[Ohiogal]

It is important because he has nothing to do with us. And didn't have anything to do with our son that died in 2017, sinxe

He and his now wife are toxic and I didn't want that around my kids (

He signed it. And he wasn't faithful either

You are toxic. You are pathetic. You are alienating a child from her other parent because you decided to daddy shop. Hope you get treated the same way he treats you. If he was married to you, he didn't have to sign anything you pathetic wench.

 

[AlmostThere]

He and his now wife are toxic and I didn't want that around my kids (

You CHOSE to make this man Daddy. It's too late to decide he is not Daddy material. Once again, just because you don't like them, does not take away your child's right to have her father in her life.