not my kids

[speedcam]

Why not ask for a modification of custody, based on him NOT meeting his own set obligations?

COOKIE if this is the part your talking about. well simple, the damn attorney's (states & ours) have got her so scared she's afraid that if she tries it they'll make her pay him. even though we have signed paperwork. i can't force her to do it and if i wasn't trying to protect the kids i wouldn't be asking all these questions. they are my first priority! thats why i called about the bruises and took pictures. even the "shrink" ( sorry again) was amazed that the county didn't do crap.

 

[Cookie97128]

I am sooo fustrated for you right now...

I wish I could just TALK to your wife.
Okay, If you file for a temp restraining order, then the kids won't have to go back to dad's. KEEP THE PICTURES HANDY. GO, with the pictures, to the courts to file the TRO. Ask for emergency temp custody also. Victims assistance can help with all of this, since you have the proof of abuse.
This is going to keep DAD from getting the kids.

Call or go to the Child Support Office. Ask to speak to a supervisor on duty. That you DO NOT want to talk to your case manager. Tell this person of the 'off handed threats' you've received from the workers. That you are at very fustrated that they aren't collecting on the current support order from the father, and NOW there is abuse going on and you just don't know what to do. They HAVE to look into the case. It's the job of the supervisor to investigate these allegations.

(It all worked for me when I was having problems.)

I know your wife is scared of having to pay support for her kids, but if what you have posted is all true, she shouldn't have trouble.

Please feel free to go to my website at the bottom of this and find my email addy...

Good Luck

 

[stealth2]

And remember that MOM is the one who needs to do all of the above.

 

[speedcam]

ok thanks everyone. i will have MOM do all this and i'm sorry for frustrating you Cookie, i just don't have the heart to see the kids go through this and watch me and MOM argue because of it. thanks stealth...... all info is appreciated.

Cookie i'm sure i'll be in touch....

speed

 

[speedcam]

do you know of any reason CWS would interview a child for possible abuse when it was not reported on that child? reason i ask is it was reported on the boys, everything ,for the most part, was told to the investigators that was told to their mom and i. but then when they talked to the sister, she told them nothing ever happens.and shot it all out of the water. probelm is now with reports saying it was "unfounded" and having his PO saying he should be no where around them and the kids "shrink" ( sorry) also stating this. we feel we have enough of a case for a restraining order for now but attorneys say no.
what do we need besides this and pictures?

thanks
speed

 

[Cookie97128]

Are you using the attorney to file everything?
Have you thought that maybe you could speak to a different attorney?

Have you filed a police report for the bruises?
If not, you know what to do. If so, take a copy to the court house, and you know what to do.

 

[speedcam]

Are you using the attorney to file everything?
Have you thought that maybe you could speak to a different attorney?

Have you filed a police report for the bruises?
If not, you know what to do. If so, take a copy to the court house, and you know what to do.

yes the attorney we were/are using filed everything, i am going in tonight to talk to another attorney because this one i am no longer comfortable with, mainly because i am doing all the work gathering info and police reports ect.. ect... and he's getting paid for it.
police reports were filed, kinda funny you ask because so far i have about 6 reports from different incidents since we moved to this house about 1 1/2 - 2 yrs ago. before that i have 12 reports from him making threats and sexual harrassment on my wife, type things. seems like every attorney we talk to including the states that started this whole thing, are scar3ed of the judge we have to see or were supposed to see.
is it normal for an attorney to tell the client to "hold off on things for awhile, give him enough rope he'll hang himself"? yeah he really hung himself...... didn't he? sitting at home all day and getting paid for it.

 

[bubbly602]

Wow...

I really feel for those kids. I would sincerely suggest getting an order of protection of some type against their Father (at least for the boys). You may need to sit down with the boys and explain to them that if they will go in and tell a judge what their father did to them, they will be safe and he won't be able to hurt them because of it. Maybe if they know he can't hurt them, they'll be more inclined to tell a judge the truth.

Also, I'm glad you're seeing a new attorney. It sounds like the person you were seeing is incompetent. Explain the situation to the new attorney, see what he says (and please post back here so everyone who is concerned for you & these kids will know what's going on).

One more thing...you said that he has state insurance for the kids, right? by state insurance, do you mean medicaid? If that's what he has, he's full of it, cause Medicaid pays for anything and everything medically necessary. The copays average out to be roughly $5 per doctor visit with a prescription. That's here in Colorado tho. Not sure about where you are, but since medicaid is pretty much universal, I wouldn't think there would be much of a difference. In the order that requires him to pay for part of the insurance does it state that he is to provide you with copies of the medical cards? If so, talk to your CSE caseworker(if you're involved with Child support enforcement) or take him to court for contempt based solely on that. Then you'll have the medical cards, and you'll be able to contact the insurance to find out what exactly they cover. Just something to try.

I wish you and your wife and kids the best of luck. It sounds like this guy needs a swift kick in the pants.

 

[speedcam]

update.........

well just thought i'd let you all know. i am going in to see a new attorney Tuesday. he is drawing up afew motions at this time. a restraining order, modification of custody due to lack of ability to follow court ordered stipulations and contempt charges. i actually feel good about this lawyer, now we see if he is as good in court as he is on the phone. nothing is final yet but he wanted to draw these up so they were ready in case we decide to use him. strangely enough he thinks we have more than enough evidence for our case than every one else did. i'll let you know what happens after Tuesday is done.
thanks for the help and advice!

 

[Cookie97128]

Re: update.........

well just thought i'd let you all know. i am going in to see a new attorney Tuesday. he is drawing up afew motions at this time. a restraining order, modification of custody due to lack of ability to follow court ordered stipulations and contempt charges. i actually feel good about this lawyer, now we see if he is as good in court as he is on the phone. nothing is final yet but he wanted to draw these up so they were ready in case we decide to use him. strangely enough he thinks we have more than enough evidence for our case than every one else did. i'll let you know what happens after Tuesday is done.
thanks for the help and advice!

Okay, it's THURSDAY... What happened??? LOL!

<sittin' on the edge of my seat! Strumming my fingers...>


edit: or do you mean NEXT Tuesday???

 

[stealth2]

Re: Re: update.........

Okay, it's THURSDAY... What happened??? LOL!

<sittin' on the edge of my seat! Strumming my fingers...>


edit: or do you mean NEXT Tuesday???

Since he posted that today, Feb 5, Thursday..... your latter guess might be the right one.

 

[speedcam]

haha.. i guess i should have specified..... NEXT Tuesday the 10th.
ya know cookie. i couldn't fined anything on your site or anywhere else to get your addy. their shut off through this site. ( just thought i'd let ya know)

 

[Cookie97128]

ya know cookie. i couldn't fined anything on your site or anywhere else to get your addy. their shut off through this site. ( just thought i'd let ya know)

Sorry...Check again.

 

[speedcam]

OK. thanks again for all info everyone!

 

[speedcam]

UPDATE!!

ok so i met with a new attorney yesterday. we went over all aspects from the contempt to full custody. here's the jist of it.:

the attorney says as of right now we can not go for contempt on the insurance and medical bills he owes for, because since he wuit his job he has no income, ( he has covered his butt from all aspects) full custody isn't an issue, and was told not to even try for that. child support, yes we may need it but since we did not ask for it, the state did, we said we were not worried about that for now. he will contact the ex husband former probation officer for a affidavit and see if we can still supoena her into court like she recommended us to do. if all goes good with that we will be going to court for full placement with supervised visitations, if we win that motion then we will see what can be done about the contempt charges. seems as though something may actually be ( maybe) getting done this time. as for the states insurance on the kids that he says he has( we have not gotten any proof of this) if it is badgercare, he needs to prove that the kids can not get covered under anyone elses coverage before they will give this to him. since they have been on mine since last August... he would be committing fraud to the state, it can not be medicaid since he has not gotten disability as of now.

so we'll see what happens

speed