stealth2
Under the Radar Member
Your daughter manipulated the three of you very nicely, IMO.
Dad... Does he use toothpicks to keep her eyes open and not allow her to sleep? Or does she *choose* to stay up as late as he allows her to? But now he's the scapegoat.
The coach? I suspect he may have been preparing you (so you could prepare her) that she may be riding the bench a fair bit since she didn't have the same level of experience as her teammates. And that's not a bad thing, sometimes. My daughter rode the bench a fair bit this season when it came to Varsity games. She hated it. Enough so that she worked her butt off to build her skills and earn a spot on the field. She *earned* her starting position in the State playoffs.
And you... rewarded her for the manipulation. I don't discount her discomfort. But it's something she needs to learn to cope with - because she's going to deal with similar situations during her lifetime. What's she going to do when she doesn't like someone in one of her classes? Or in her department at work? Or the person next door?
I do agree, however, that a "normal" childhood doesn't have to include sports. Plenty of other activities are available. My oldest isn't into sports as a participant. But he's involved in drama, several vocal groups, Lit Mag, etc.
Dad... Does he use toothpicks to keep her eyes open and not allow her to sleep? Or does she *choose* to stay up as late as he allows her to? But now he's the scapegoat.
The coach? I suspect he may have been preparing you (so you could prepare her) that she may be riding the bench a fair bit since she didn't have the same level of experience as her teammates. And that's not a bad thing, sometimes. My daughter rode the bench a fair bit this season when it came to Varsity games. She hated it. Enough so that she worked her butt off to build her skills and earn a spot on the field. She *earned* her starting position in the State playoffs.
And you... rewarded her for the manipulation. I don't discount her discomfort. But it's something she needs to learn to cope with - because she's going to deal with similar situations during her lifetime. What's she going to do when she doesn't like someone in one of her classes? Or in her department at work? Or the person next door?
I do agree, however, that a "normal" childhood doesn't have to include sports. Plenty of other activities are available. My oldest isn't into sports as a participant. But he's involved in drama, several vocal groups, Lit Mag, etc.