Parent Teacher Conferences

[Ohiogal]

The kids started this year at the same school they were in last year. Due to the divorce, the fact that we lived in military housing, and the school they went to was a base school they had to change schools when we moved out. At our new apartment, the local school where they were supposed to go to did not have room for the youngest and they were overflowed to another school. When they had room at their neighborhood school, which is one of the highest scoring in the county which is why I moved where I did, they brought them back to the neighborhood school. If I had a choice, I would never have moved them out of their first school, but I really had no choice.

Logically I can understand HOWEVER a court may have issues because of the number of school changes if DAD makes it an issue.

 

[Newlydivmomto4]

Ohiogal,
I don't think that my ex is going to try to change custody. I texted him yesterday to please stop asking the one child if he wants to come live with him that its causing the older two to feel left out. His response was then fine, I just won't be around them. I responded that he has visitiation and the kids needed him as their Dad. I even suggested he do some research about how to best deal with children and a divorce, which he just laughed at.
I have really put an effort into keeping the children having a relationship with their dad. I went to the point at Christmas to making sure there were presents from Dad under the tree. I let him know when their activities are etc.
He hasn't had a good relationship with the oldest, almost to the point of abuse. The next one tends to sympathize with the oldest and that she has a good relationship with me, Dad tended to just let me deal with her. The younger two, for the past 2 yrs, Dad has told them they were "part of the settlement" in front of the older two, so you can imagine what that does to their psychs.
All I can do is my best for the kids. I will say that my ex is definately not the man I married. The man I married was severly injured in a motor vehicle accident in Iraq and did not come home, this other man came home in his place. 3 1/2 years later, he filed for divorce.

 

[StampGirl]

Here is the best advice I can give you and its from my personal experience:

I always note to our children's teachers that we need seperate conference dates/times, give them my ex's phone number and email address.

He generally does phone conferences as its easier.

Seperate conferences are nice if you feel uncomfortable being around him. No shame in that.

If he is going to be present at the conference, contact the teacher. Let her know that Dad will be there but that you had something come up and need to schedule your own conference time/date.

Easy-peasie