ShockedNana
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I don't think the term PA was used in court....hopefully lawyer knew not to...I used it to describe father manipulating child to lie to/ not tell her mother about who was living at his house under the threat that she would take child away from him....nothing implied about physical abuse.The reason that this term (especially with the addition of "syndrome") is often triggering is due to the person who coined the term (Richard A. Gardner). Gardner (initially) used the term almost exclusively against mothers, claiming that they often used accusations of molestation of the child against the father, true or not. He insisted that such accusations were invariably false and advocated for the child to be placed in the father's custody.
Although Wikipedia isn't the best source, it does provide a good starting point, with citations for further research. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parental_alienation_syndrome
Gardner's research was widely discredited, and he was a very controversial figure, based both on his views regarding pedophelia and mandatory child abuse reporting.
So, yeah, parental alienation should be used with great caution. (btw - I don't really see his not wanting your granddaughter to share the news of his romantic woes or the upcoming infant with Mom/family as a huge issue.)
I disagree that that it not a big deal for one parent to not be told that the other has had a partner, step-child and biological child on the way moving in to the house your child is at half the time.