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Is it up to me whether or not my 12 year old daughter is allowed to have a cell phone at my house?
The kids were with their mom this past weekend, and after they came home, I got an email from the ex that she is buying the 12 year old a cell phone to have at my house.
Her reason is that the 15 year old has one, so the 12 year old should, too, and that's it's not fair if I don't let the 12 year old have one.
I do not feel that our 12 year old is mature or responsible enough to have a cell phone, and really don't see the need for it. The 15 year old didn't get one until she was 14, and that was only because that was when she started going and doing things with friends (going to mall for short periods of time, etc.), and I wanted to be able to contact her at all times. She had also proven that she was mature and responsible.
I emailed her back and told her that I make the rules for my home, and that the 12 year old will not have a cell phone (in my home) until I feel she needs one. I told her that if she sent a cell phone home with 12 year old the next time she has them (in 2 weeks) that I would propmptly mail it back to her, certified mail with a signature required. I also explained that it was nothing against her, that this past Christmas my dad wanted to buy 12 year old a cell phone, and I told him no as well.
She replied with telling me that she dares me to take away the phone she sends home with the 12 year old, and that if I do, she will make sure the judge knows about it.
I did not reply back, and probably shouldn't have replied even the 1st time, but I also feel that I need to set boundaries, and she needs to know that she does not dictate what privledges the kids can have at my home.
And now of course I'm 2nd guessing myself.
Is it a parenting decision to decide whether not the 12 year old can have a cell phone while with me?
Is it up to me whether or not my 12 year old daughter is allowed to have a cell phone at my house?
The kids were with their mom this past weekend, and after they came home, I got an email from the ex that she is buying the 12 year old a cell phone to have at my house.
Her reason is that the 15 year old has one, so the 12 year old should, too, and that's it's not fair if I don't let the 12 year old have one.
I do not feel that our 12 year old is mature or responsible enough to have a cell phone, and really don't see the need for it. The 15 year old didn't get one until she was 14, and that was only because that was when she started going and doing things with friends (going to mall for short periods of time, etc.), and I wanted to be able to contact her at all times. She had also proven that she was mature and responsible.
I emailed her back and told her that I make the rules for my home, and that the 12 year old will not have a cell phone (in my home) until I feel she needs one. I told her that if she sent a cell phone home with 12 year old the next time she has them (in 2 weeks) that I would propmptly mail it back to her, certified mail with a signature required. I also explained that it was nothing against her, that this past Christmas my dad wanted to buy 12 year old a cell phone, and I told him no as well.
She replied with telling me that she dares me to take away the phone she sends home with the 12 year old, and that if I do, she will make sure the judge knows about it.
I did not reply back, and probably shouldn't have replied even the 1st time, but I also feel that I need to set boundaries, and she needs to know that she does not dictate what privledges the kids can have at my home.
And now of course I'm 2nd guessing myself.
Is it a parenting decision to decide whether not the 12 year old can have a cell phone while with me?