Question about returning to school

[CJane]

What is the name of your state? MO

I'm home this week with a sick baby, and I have a very strong feeling that my boss is going to give me an ultimatum on Monday about my job. He wasn't happy with my maternity leave, even though I put in no fewer than 30 hours/week from home while I was on leave... and me staying home with a sick child is never ok with him... so, I have no confidence that my job is secure.

I submitted an application to a local university at which I could complete my degree in biotech in probably 3 years, maybe less. I could start as early as June 8.

What, if any, impact could this change have on my custody situation? I know that for child support purposes, an income would be imputed to me since I've been working full time since the divorce, and I'm fine with that. The only issue I'm concerned with is that the ex could somehow use my student status against me in the upcoming trial. Of course, it only matters if I'm officially no longer employed on the 27th...

If I'm still employed when we go to trial, but later choose to go to school instead... is that a change in circumstance? I would love to finish my degree, but not at the expense of my kids.

 

[bononos]

What is the name of your state? MO

I'm home this week with a sick baby, and I have a very strong feeling that my boss is going to give me an ultimatum on Monday about my job. He wasn't happy with my maternity leave, even though I put in no fewer than 30 hours/week from home while I was on leave... and me staying home with a sick child is never ok with him... so, I have no confidence that my job is secure.

I submitted an application to a local university at which I could complete my degree in biotech in probably 3 years, maybe less. I could start as early as June 8.

What, if any, impact could this change have on my custody situation? I know that for child support purposes, an income would be imputed to me since I've been working full time since the divorce, and I'm fine with that. The only issue I'm concerned with is that the ex could somehow use my student status against me in the upcoming trial. Of course, it only matters if I'm officially no longer employed on the 27th...

If I'm still employed when we go to trial, but later choose to go to school instead... is that a change in circumstance? I would love to finish my degree, but not at the expense of my kids.

Any on-line programs you can do the schooling from.
That would be better with custody.
You'd be home more for the next 3 years.

 

[CJane]

Any on-line programs you can do the schooling from.
That would be better with custody.
You'd be home more for the next 3 years.

I did some searching, and I could certainly do the online thing if I wanted to complete my alternate degree in Business Administration/Project Management. I could probably complete it faster than the biotech degree too. I'm not 100% sold on the validity of an online degree though, as far as future employment.

And yeah, I'd be home more... but my kids that are the subject of the custody dispute are school age. So, I could easily arrange my classes around their school schedule - probably a lot more easily than I'm able to do my work schedule now.

 

[bononos]

I did some searching, and I could certainly do the online thing if I wanted to complete my alternate degree in Business Administration/Project Management. I could probably complete it faster than the biotech degree too. I'm not 100% sold on the validity of an online degree though, as far as future employment.

And yeah, I'd be home more... but my kids that are the subject of the custody dispute are school age. So, I could easily arrange my classes around their school schedule - probably a lot more easily than I'm able to do my work schedule now.

BUT...you have a new baby to be home with too! And isn't the new Daddy away for months at a time?
I believe many major universities are offering on-line programs and your degree is from that school.

Look around on this site:

http://cdis.missouri.edu/

Just a suggestion.

 

[CJane]

BUT...you have a new baby to be home with too! And isn't the new Daddy away for months at a time?
I believe many major universities are offering on-line programs and your degree is from that school.

Look around on this site:

http://cdis.missouri.edu/

Just a suggestion.

New daddy is completely out of the picture. And yeah, one of the reasons I want to do this NOW is so that the baby doesn't spend 10 hours a day in daycare, costing me $200/week.

I'll take a look around that site.

I do know that the university I'm looking at offers child care at an extremely affordable rate, and the baby would only have to go when I had class.

 

[bononos]

I do know that the university I'm looking at offers child care at an extremely affordable rate, and the baby would only have to go when I had class.

I wish they had that when I was in school.
Then with this and the older ones in school, you can attend easily.

 

[NotSoNew]

i dont see why school would be an issue, when you are working now, and you wont be working AND going to school.

there arent a lot of online degree options out there, despite what people think. I graduated with an online degree in Crim Justice, but there was only one school that offered that when I started.

 

[CJane]

i dont see why school would be an issue, when you are working now, and you wont be working AND going to school.

there arent a lot of online degree options out there, despite what people think. I graduated with an online degree in Crim Justice, but there was only one school that offered that when I started.

I've found 3 degree programs that offer the Business degree... but I REALLY want the biotech. It's the one that 'speaks' to me. The business degree was just gravy.

 

[NotSoNew]

I've found 3 degree programs that offer the Business degree... but I REALLY want the biotech. It's the one that 'speaks' to me. The business degree was just gravy.

yeah lots offer buisness, IMO thats crap. I have an associates in buisness admin, its worth like NOTHING. your better off going to school for something you really want to do, not just whats available online that you wont be able to do anything with that degree!

 

[Ithildriel]

Not legal advice

Isn't your court date in a couple of weeks?

Things seem to have gone well with step-monsters deposition, but it just seems that you have made a lot of major life changes very recently, and if it was me, I would do whatever I had to to keep my job until the court date, hope a decision was made then, and then pursue my educational ambitions.

Just my two uniformed cents.

 

[bononos]

Isn't your court date in a couple of weeks?

Things seem to have gone well with step-monsters deposition, but it just seems that you have made a lot of major life changes very recently, and if it was me, I would do whatever I had to to keep my job until the court date, hope a decision was made then, and then pursue my educational ambitions.

Just my two uniformed cents.

I think your 2 cents are wise also.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Do you really want to know some of the questions this will raise and what effect it might have? Also, understand questions will be asked about your infant, such as is dad paying child support, since he is no longer in the picture? Is dad paying 1/2 of the child care so you can work including when the child is ill? If your maternity leave and care of his infant causes you to lose your job how will that affect your child support from him. How are you going to pay for school if you are not working? There are programs designed for working students. If custody is changed and you become NCP and have to pay child support your voluntary unemployment and subsequent student status could very well affect your case, especially if it appears that you are manipulating the situation or acting in bad faith.

 

[CJane]

Do you really want to know some of the questions this will raise and what effect it might have? Also, understand questions will be asked about your infant, such as is dad paying child support, since he is no longer in the picture?

Dad is not currently paying child support. We mutually agreed that I would apply through CSE/DFS and we'd wait for a court order. That's been done and it's in the state's hands at this point.

Is dad paying 1/2 of the child care so you can work including when the child is ill?

I wouldn't send an ill child (especially one with something as contagious as RSV to daycare no matter who was paying for it. And in MO, childcare is considered part of child support unless ordered seperately. You did notice in about a billion other threads that the child goes to the office with me, did you not?

If your maternity leave and care of his infant causes you to lose your job how will that affect your child support from him.

I would assume they'd impute my income at what I'm currently making. So it wouldn't affect it at all.

How are you going to pay for school if you are not working?

Grants, loans, help from family.

If custody is changed and you become NCP and have to pay child support your voluntary unemployment and subsequent student status could very well affect your case, especially if it appears that you are manipulating the situation or acting in bad faith.

I wasn't asking about any child support issues wrt returning to school. I haven't ever received child support from my ex husband, nor asked for it, and I've been just fine. I ran the numbers re: what would happen if he got the custody he's asking for. With the disparity in our incomes, I'd be paying him around $100/month.

I fail to see how it could appear that I'm acting in bad faith to be exploring options in advance of possibly not being employed.

The other option is to get another full-time plus job, but in my current field, there are simply no openings, I've looked.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Dad is not currently paying child support. We mutually agreed that I would apply through CSE/DFS and we'd wait for a court order. That's been done and it's in the state's hands at this point.

In the normal course of things you would have done this sooner, just like last summer when you were trying to find a way to get on welfare for the older children when the burden was caused by your pregnancy with your bf's child. You knew he wasn't going to be there, why shouldn't he pay support form day one? Why did you wait so long to apply? Unless???

I wouldn't send an ill child (especially one with something as contagious as RSV to daycare no matter who was paying for it. And in MO, childcare is considered part of child support unless ordered seperately. You did notice in about a billion other threads that the child goes to the office with me, did you not?

Arrangements can be made for ill children, or FMLA if you qualify. You said child care for the infant cost $200 per week in this thread?

New daddy is completely out of the picture. And yeah, one of the reasons I want to do this NOW is so that the baby doesn't spend 10 hours a day in daycare, costing me $200/week.

I would assume they'd impute my income at what I'm currently making. So it wouldn't affect it at all.

Really?

Grants, loans, help from family.

Grants are difficult to obtain, loans are limited and have to begin to be repaid while you are in school, Why can't your family help you now?

I wasn't asking about any child support issues wrt returning to school. I haven't ever received child support from my ex husband, nor asked for it, and I've been just fine. I ran the numbers re: what would happen if he got the custody he's asking for. With the disparity in our incomes, I'd be paying him around $100/month.

I said these were questions you didn't want to ask, but they are questions that you will have to deal with when the gloves come off. $100 per month is a lot when you have no income.

I fail to see how it could appear that I'm acting in bad faith to be exploring options in advance of possibly not being employed.

Keep your eyes closed then.

The other option is to get another full-time plus job, but in my current field, there are simply no openings, I've looked.

There are other options. Think.

 

[Zephyr]

Grants are difficult to obtain, loans are limited and have to begin to be repaid while you are in school, Why can't your family help you now?


little of point but did want to clafiy a little since I went back to school after my divorce, grants are generally not that hard to come by especially as a returning adult with dependents and many student loans do not kick in for repayment until 6 months after you cease attending school- there are some loans that you can pay the interest on while you are going to school but that is an OPTION....